Lock-tober

There is a wonderful idea floating around in the male chastity community: Lock-tober.

I like the idea, even though I keep elliot locked pretty much all year in his cock cage, because it gives couples and chaste men under supervision the opportunity to try extended chastity.

The idea itself is very simple: on October 1 the cock goes in its cage and there is no possibility that the cock cage will be unlocked before Halloween. For couples who have been experimenting with male chastity, Lock-tober is a chance to see the effects of longer-term cock confinement. They can be amazing. If you think your husband is attentive after a few days in his cage, trust me when I say he will be the very model of an obedient, pleasing, male at the end of a thirty-one day lockdown.

Now I realize I am writing about Lock-tober towards the end of October and many chaste gentlemen can see the end in sight in a mere eight days. But there is method to my madness. Even if you have missed Lock-tober, the fact is that any month can be a lockdown month.

The point of putting a cock in a cage for a month is to train the man to accept the fact that his keyholder, and only his keyholder, has the right to his cock. Men being remarkably obsessed with their cocks often quite like a short, up to a week, lock up. They often think that we are thinking about their little cocks and that is more than a little stimulating. But to be locked in a silicone cock cage or a cock cage in stainless steel for a month with no hope of release changes the dynamic in interesting ways.

A month without any hope of sexual release is a big gift for a man to give his wife or girlfriend. But it is also a huge gift for the dominant girl to get. Because, with a set period, she does not have to put up with any subtle, much less blatant, begging for release. It also means that, for the month, she will be entirely in charge of the couple's sexuality. Because just because a man's cock is in a cage there is no reason why he cannot keep his wife entirely satisfied with his tongue, fingers and whatever lovely vibrators she enjoys.

For men who are on their own but would like to experience the focus a month of enforced chastity brings, there are a couple of routes to go. The first is to put yourself under the supervision of a female friend. This might be a bit embarrassing, but simply asking a woman to hold a key for a month is good training. You don't have to tell her what it is for, unless, of course, she asks. Alternatively, you can advertise for a local keyholder. Girls who know will be delighted to hold your key for a month for a small fee. Of course, you can do it yourself but my strong suggestion is that, if you go this route, you put a physical barrier between the key and your desire. Freezing the key in a large can of water is a good solution. Or mailing it to yourself. At the same time, for safety, you need to have a key that is accessible. This can be in an envelope held by a friend. The variations are endless.

Here's the point: locking down a cock for a month is all about control. In a couple, her control. For a singleton, self-control.

As I have written before, in a perfect world, most men would be in cock cages most of the time and would be under the strict but loving guidance of a woman at all times. A girl can dream.

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Surrender

elliot is chatting about his complete acceptance of my dominance and his submission over at his blog today. I am pretty sure what he means to say is that he has entirely surrendered to my authority. Unconditionally.

His cock cage and now ball spreader and the girdle he doesn't even remember he is wearing are all tokens of this surrender. But they are just tokens. I hold the keys to rather more than his silly little cock.

A much more basic indication of his capitulation is his daily morning date with my panties in his corner. I don't tell him to go, he gets out of bed, brushes his teeth, picks up my pretty panties and stands naked in his corner until I tell him he can come out. It has become a part of him.

In a long-term female led relationship a well trained husband goes from trying to compromise or trim or negotiate with his wife to accepting her commands, demands and decisions to genuinely craving her authority. elliot is never happier than when I tell him I want my boots polished or my back rubbed. I think he might be a little resentful that Mady now rinses out my lingerie; but she tells me she has him do hers so it all balances.

Obeying me without question or hesitation fills a need in elliot. And, as that need has been filled he has become more attentive, productive and wonderfully loving. He is, delightfully, a surrendered husband and I take very good care of him.

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The Art of the Maid Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art Obedient Husband  Female Led Marriage for Loving Couples
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Portrait of a Marriage

I was watching a documentary last night about the marvelous Iris Apfel. While her style is not my style I enjoyed the sheer performance of the woman.

I also could not help but notice the position her beloved husband of 67 years had occupied in her life. She was a force of nature. Carl was, apparently, entirely content to follow in her wake. He photographed her, helped her run her business, arranged their hotels and homes.

Said Iris of Carl "I figured he was cool, and he was cuddly, and he cooked Chinese". Carl lived to be 100.

Understanding the dynamics of female led relationships can sometimes confuse people. There is an assumption that the male must be a bit dweeby to accept the primacy of his wife. In fact, an elegant, stylish woman wants an elegant, stylish man who, if she is the dominant partner, accepts his position willingly and gratefully.

I can keep elliot's little cock in its cage, have him wear panty girdles and a nighty to bed each night but I want him to be a man I can show off when I choose. I see no contradiction. That I keep him chaste most of the time does not diminish his sexual allure and the fact I whip him does not break his wonderful, male, spirit. When he reads in Church only I know that his cock is caged and that he has a teddy on under his sweater. He gives his submission to me and, unless I decide I want to reveal it, it is our private life.

On occassion I will humiliate elliot in public or humble him in private; but, what I love about elliot is that he accepts his humiliations and punishments without losing his personality. He is better behaved but never broken.

Just as I want him.

Books you might like:

The Art of the Maid Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art Obedient Husband  Female Led Marriage for Loving Couples

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The Gift of Chastity

I am amused to see that so far this month nine people have purchased cock cages through our Amazon links. (And some of you have been kind enough to do your other Christmas shopping through our links...thank you!)

Quite honestly, I was more than a little sceptical about caging elliot. After all, he was perfectly well behaved and well trained sexually before I decided to cage him. And I thought it would probably draw more attention to his little cock than I would prefer. However, after buying a cage a little less than a year ago and having decided that he is to wear his cage pretty much full time, I have to say I would never go back.

Of all of the practices which keep elliot in his position, caging his cock has had the most fundamental effect on his outlook and behaviour. I can't imagine why I did not think to cage him before.

The fact is that once your husband is caged he has surrendered the last vestiges of his independent sexuality. Sure, he can plead and beg for release, but with your key in hand that is not going to happen unless and until you want it to.

By locking elliot's cock up, more or less permanently, I have taken a huge step in taking full control of our marriage. I can send him off to dress and service our cute little maid, confident that he will have no direct sexual contact with her without my permission. He can sleep with me every night and, while he is often erect - or at least as erect as his cage allows - there is nothing at all he can do to relieve his sexual urges.

Now, this year I am getting him a steel cock cage - only because I think changing things up is always a good idea. His silicone cock cage has served us well. I have ordered a second silcone cock cage so that he can thoroughly clean his cage while never being allowed out for more than a few moments.

With Christmas coming elliot will, of course, expect Chrismas treats. And he may well get them if I decide he deserves then. And he has been a very sweet, docile, hard-working husband all year.

Now, ladies, for your own husbands, chastity is a gift any time of the year but the Christmas season upon us, it might be a good time to make some changes at your house. Different wives run their marriages in different ways. For some of you, the gift of chastity can be given with nothing more than the purchase of the chastity device and a direct order. Make sure that your husband understands that his chastity is not a matter of negotiation. At the same time, recognize that even a soft cock cage will take some getting used to and before it can become a permanent fixture there is a breaking in period.

Other dominant wives may be at a different point in their journey. Their husbands will not yet have the habit of obedience. Especially younger wives with younger husbands can expect some pushback. A good firm caning will usually smooth the way; however, you can also present your husband with his cage and explain that this Christmas, the gift you really want, is his submissive chastity. Have him put the device on himself. It can be a little tricky. One thing to note, it is effectively impossible to put on a well-fitted chastity cage if the cock in question is even a little bit erect. Having your husband masturbate himself or, if you are feeling generous, bringing him to ejaculation yourself before he puts on the device will ease the way.

With elliot, I have invested his cock cage with a good deal of shame and humiliation. I send him to the washroom to put it on and my only involvement is to, when his little cock is in its place, click the padlock closed. I think it is wise for a dominant wife to keep the upper hand which ritual humiliation gives her. This leaves her husband even more dependent on her whims and mercy which is always a good thing.

Now, for my married male readers: there is no reason why you cannot purchase a cock cage for yourself and present your wife with the "keys to her domain". But be prepared for a good deal of confusion and even annoyance unless you have discussed your chastity with your wife before you lock yourself up. Remember, you are giving the gift of your chastity but there is no reason to think your wife will be thrilled unless she has already agreed to accept that gift. So, by all means, purchase a chastity device but as a prelude to a conversation with your lady wife. Remember, it is her decision.

Finally, for single men who would like to experience the chastity lifestyle a couple of alternatives: first, you can buy a cock cage and wear it without a keyholder. It is good practice and, when you find that special someone, you may be more comfortable explaining your chastity if you have lived with it a while.

A second alternative - and a mildly risky one - is to ask a good female friend to hold your key. It is, I am afraid, a potentially awkward conversation but you would be surprised at how willing the right girl will be to hold your key. This can be excellent training for a single male as he will focus on a female who he is not ever going to have sex with but who has control of his sexuality. Once again, excellent experience to prepare you for a wife led marriage when the right girl appears. Remember to give your keyholder lots of lovely presents - spa days, books, cashmere sweaters - and make sure you offer to wash her car, clean her apartment and generally make yourself useful. Most of the advantage of this sort of arrangement is that you will be so embarrassed to ask for your cock cage key knowing that you are assuming the correct male position with a female who you are not in any sexual relationship with. You are asking for permission to masturbate you naughty thing.

Finally, if you are interested in a remote keyholding relationship I have room for two additions to my own stable. Write me at hannah.obeyed@gmail.com for terms and requirements.

Teasing

While it is perfectly open to a dominant wife to simply lock her husband in his chastity cage and forget his cock and his desires, where is the fun in that?

There are many possible objectives in keeping your husband chaste. With younger men in particular, simply exercising control over their sexuality will tend to make them more attentive and, usually, more obedient. Good things in themselves. However, as chastity goes on for a while, a month or two, a well-trained husband will realize that he is never getting out of his cage except when you decide, for your own reasons, to let him out.

I had been training elliot for years before I decided to put his cock in a cage and, even then, I was not sure I had made the right decision. Here's the problem: because he was already chaste on the honour system, the cage might have drawn too much attention to his cock. Now, more or less by fluke, I ordered a soft silicone cage which turns out to have a numbing, deadening effect on his actual cock. elliot tells me that  wearing his cock cage is, after a day or two of adjustment, like having his cock isolated from the regular stimulations of day to day life. Leave aside the fact his erections are mildly uncomfortable, the fact is that he simply does not get the physical sensations he had been used to since puberty.

I have upped his micro dose of Viagra  which certainly keeps him at the ready; but I also realized that he needed a good deal of teasing if he was going to remain in that lovely state of wistful longing which I enjoy. Teasing is great fun and even more fun now that we have a pretty young maid.

While I always dress demurely, now that Fall is here, I am back to wearing pretty stockings and either a lacy, but firm garterbelt or a nice firm girdle. Stocking tops are a constant thrill for elliot and I make a point of flashing mine often. Similarily, like most men, elliot cannot get enough of my breasts and now Mady's. Once in a while, I'll leave a couple of buttons undone on a blouse so he can see my pretty bra. Or I will dispense with my bra altogether and let him enjoy my often erect nipples.

Mady's day uniform offers ample opportunity for her stocking tops to be seen and, from time to time, I will instruct her to dispense with her bra for elliot's further teasing. Her evening uniforms are all designed to be worn with cupless corsetry or quarter cup shelf bras so her nipples are unconstrained as she serves cocktails or dinner. And, here again, I will occasionally instruct her to wear one of the more revealing uniforms of an evening. elliot knows that he may look but must not touch without express invitation or instruction.

Of course, corseting Mady each evening - and, apparently, providing oral attentions several times a week, keeps elliot on edge. And, as the days shorten and the nights grow colder, I find that I have the dear man bring me to my edge before being sent to his corner, far more often.

And, of course, there are the delights of playing with his nipples which are, after even a week or two in chastity, enormously sensitive. A few caresses and a good, sharp, pinch leaves his adorable little nipples nearly as hard as his caged cock.

Mady has taken to giving him a little spanking almost every day after he's dressed her. This is in addition to her now regular conditioning canings. She is, I am delighted to say, discovering the joys of feminine superiority in private life.

The ultimate tease, of course, is actually letting elliot out of his little cage and giving him a set number of strokes in my pussy before locking him back up. It is a lovely sensation to have his steel hard little cock  slide into me a dozen times and then pushing down on his hips and sending him to his corner to unstiffen as I bring myself to orgasm. I come and he's locked back in his cage. He hates it. but loves it at the same time. Mady has yet to ask for the key though she is very interested in the idea of strokes. I think she wants to be entirely sure elliot will obey her as completely as he obeys me before taking this next step. Which I think is an excellent idea.

So, my dear, submissive husband, locked tight in his little cage, cannot complain of any sort of neglect. Quite the contrary. He is having  altogether too much feminine attention without the slightest chance to relieve his sexual tension.

Just as it should be.

Further Advice on Male Chastity

In position

My last post on running a female led marriage and keeping one's husband chaste seems to have been well received. However, a couple of people have asked about the discomfort caused by my sweet husband's cock cage.

I am sure elliot would have a different perspective but his views are not really a consideration. Which is really the point. A soft silicone chastity device - like any other non-belt chastity device - is largely symbolic. The mild discomfort which it may cause from time to time is actually a feature rather than a bug. With proper hygine elliot's device can be worn continuosly for weeks at a time.

With a young maid around the house I prefer elliot to be locked up at all times. If, for some reason, I want his little cock, or Mady does, it is easy enough to unlock him. He spent much of the summer uncaged and I don't think it did him any harm. But it did not do him any good either. Locking him back up for the Fall and Winter has actually improved his attitude.

The real point of keeping a husband in chastity is to remind him that he has no sexual rights whatsoever. I think elliot had accepted that before I locked him up but the cage makes this express rather than implicit.

The one concern I had in locking elliot in his chastity cage was that it was drawing a bit too much attention to his cock. As it happens, once he is locked in, after a couple of days his little cock is largely isolated and cushioned from any physical stimulation. While he tells me he occassionally has a pinching situation when the skin works its way into the device and is squeezed, his cock itself is padded and unable to recieve much by way of external sensation.

Of course, when he gets hard, either because Mady or I tease him or in the early morning when most healthy men have errections, he experiences quite a lot of discomfort. But relative to a good whipping, this discomfort is minimal and he bears it without complaint.

The key thing is he knows that his cock is locked up because I want it locked up. I want him to be devoid of sensation between his legs, without the distractions a cock seems to carry for men. And, of course, I want him to be looking to me for any sort of sexual relief.

I don't think it does ay good to lock up a man's cock for a day or even a weekend. If a dominant wife decides to lock down her husband's cock, after a breaking in period, locked should be his default state. If he knows that he is going to be locked and stay locked, it leaves him free to concentrate on obeying, and from time to time, pleasing his wife.

Which is how it should be.

Advice for FLR/male chastity Beginners

A Wife's Work is Never Done

I received this charming letter a day or two ago.

Good afternoon Miss Hanna,

Hope you're doing well.

We are moving along with our FLR quite well. I've had my lovely wife read a few of your blog post. She is not to keen on spanking/caning me for punishments. She is trying to figure out another type of system. Will see how that progresses.

We received our cock cage we ordered from your Amazon page. Love the softness and lightness of it. I have a couple metal ones and this is much more comfortable.

Couple of questions regarding it.

1. What type of lubricant does he use to slide it on? I've used a lotion and I've tried lube. Any other suggestions?

2. My wife is hesitant to keep me in Mine for long periods. Right now it's on from when I rise till we got to bed. She is concerned that I might effect the size of penis and that there could be a number of other complications.

Appreciate any advice/tips you can provide.

I wrote back,

Dear X,

How lovely of you to write. Specific questions first.

elliot is not allowed to use lubricant for his cage. What we have found works well is to fit the cage after a cold shower or - where I want it on immediately - after immersing his cock - but not testicles - in ice water for a few minutes. (We keep his balls out because they have a nasty tendency to retract right into his body if exposed to ice water very long - something your wife may want to think about by way of punishment.) As well, elliot has found that the slit in the front of the cage will admit two fingers allowing him to pinch his little cock head and pull it up to where it belongs.

I keep elliot locked for weeks at a time. It has had no appreciable effect on his little cock. It was small to begin with and remains small. That is one of the great advantages of the silicone cage, it really can be left on more or less permanently. Of course, hygiene is important but elliot showers and bathes in his device without any difficulty. You may, however, want to upgrade the lock as the cheap Chinese ones which come with the cage can rust. I make a point of never telling elliot how long he will be locked up and he is now reconciled to rarely being allowed out.

I was very much like your wife when I started. I just could not imagine using a cane or a bathbrush on elliot no matter how much he deserved it. What I did not realize then but do now is that a well whipped husband is a happy husband.

When we were first starting I didn't really understand that elliot has a deep need to be obedient and disciplined. He actually gets quite cranky when I have not whipped him for a week or two. And it is important to actually hit a decent level of pain. Two dozen half hearted strokes with the cane really don't scratch elliot's itch. Much better to warm him up a little and then really put my arm into it. A half dozen strokes which produce real welts ensure that he gets the full benefit of his punishments.

Women tend to be very gentle by nature and it does not come naturally to them to properly correct their husbands. All I can say to your wife is that practice makes perfect and you get better at correcting your husband by doing so regularly. A good whipping weekly, whether he deserves it or not, will let you get over your perfectly reasonable reluctance.

And, of course, Tad, as a locked man in loving submission to his wife, you need to ask to be punished. At our house we follow a modified Spencer Spanking Plan. That link will explain it. We have modified it in the sense that only elliot is whipped.

Now, as you know reading out blogs, I am a big believer in corner time as well as whippings as required. It takes just a second to pop off my panties and send elliot to a corner for a little mindfulness time. Best of all, the world is filled with corners and, even at a party or at a neighbour's if I think elliot needs correction I can, discretely send him for a time out in the washroom. Best of all, I can say, right out loud, "If you keep that up you're going to the corner" and no one need be the wiser. Because people never actually think it means what it so clearly does.

Your wife might also consider making you wear panties or a girdle or, indeed, a bra and girdle. Nothing puts a man more firmly in his place than good, firm, foundations. For quick corrections, a set of nipple clips are very handy. If you don't have any try out a few alternatives - clothes pegs will work, the plastic are more intense than the wood - so will bulldog clips but make sure you put plenty of nipple in the clip to spread the force. A little imagination can create all sorts of fun.

And that is a key thing: leading a marriage should be fun both in the bedroom and outside. To tell the truth, once I took control both out lives improved a lot. And, frankly, since elliot has been in his chastity pretty much full time, our sex life - well my sex life really - has been much better. Now I can have elliot get to work for my pleasure without giving a thought to reciprocating. He is grateful to be allowed to rub my feet or massage my back until I tell him to stop. And he really does scoot off to his corner when I want to have an orgasm in private. Which I do, often.

So let you wife read this letter and see how you make out. Keep me posted and if your wife has any questions she is welcome to write.

Enjoy!

Hannah

Spring is Around the Corner

What fun! Cocktails on the deck under the umbrella. (Served by elliot until we manage to find a maid.) Pretty dresses and play suits. Bare legs.

Giving elliot a really severe whipping has made all the difference in the world. It has cleared the air and reminded him of his place. And it reminded me not to neglect his discipline.

I was amused to see in February clever wives and obedient husbands bought more than a dozen cock cages through our link. I suspect a number of wives will be in for a very pleasant surprise once their husbands have accepted that their cocks have "disappeared" except when the lady of their house might have some use for them.

I have been looking at getting a strap-on for elliot to use when I want my greater pleasure but don't want to let him out of his cage. It would be deliciously humiliating to send him to his corner while I finished myself off and telling him to strap on a good big cock to pleasure me with. What fun...

Lock Him Up

I must admit I was skeptical when I first started reading about physical male chastity. As a dominant wife I did, of course, control elliot's orgasms. I had spent a good deal of time working to ensure that he only came when he had permission and, as importantly, when I was pinching his nipple good and hard between my nails. I had him to the point where he could pull on his little cockette, get very hard but without the nipple pinch he'd just stay on edge. So, I thought, why would I bother putting his little cock in a cage?

Well, after keeping him caged most of January, I can safely say that I will never be without a chastity cage again. This is a marvellous invention. It provides a level of elegant, demure wifely control which I had never experienced before.

In the beginning I was a little concerned that it would focus all together too much attention on elliot's little willy but, in fact, once he's locked up I simply never think about his cockette. Of course, once in a while I like to feel him in me; but, honestly, more and more I prefer his well trained tongue and my lovely vibrator. So clicking the padlock closed just takes a distraction away from elliot.

The cage I got for elliot is a soft construction silicone male chastity device. I didn't realize it at the time but this chastity is exceptionally comfortable. I got the short cage as that is really all elliot needs but a better endowed husband can be caged in a normal or even long cage. There may be a breaking in period where your husband only wears his cage a few hours at a time. But, soon enough, you'll be able to lock him up for days or weeks at a time. (I am looking at CB6000S which has a hard case and would be less comfortable as a punishment device but I am not sure I want elliot's enforced chastity to be a punishment.)

Once elliot is locked in our lives continue in exactly the same way. He has his corner time and his duties and he is whipped for both maintenance and punishment; but now he has no control at all over his cock. He has to take his tiny dose of viagra as usual and so he has a quite uncomfortable morning erection which is pretty regular at about 7:30 when he has to get up and make my tea in any case. He may have other erections during the day, I don't know and don't actually care. I often tease him a little at cocktail hour and I will, occasionally, lift his nightie and stroke him erect before I go to sleep. But he knows once he is locked in he'll stay that way for some time. I don't even keep the key in the bedroom so it takes a bit of planning if I want his cockette for some reason.

Once in a while I have him strip off after some cornertime and with a little lube, I'll push his prostate milking vibrator up his bottom and let him drain into some tissue. But not too often. I like him to be full, completely on edge.

So, ladies, quick as you can....lock up your husbands. You'll be glad you did and he'll be humbly grateful.

Amazon Fun

elliot just finished my review of some of the delightful things our readers have purchased from Amazon. These all caught my eye.

Master Series Intense Impact Cane, Red. I like the looks of this plastic cane. I doubt elliot would like it much which would make it perfect for punishment whippings.

Cleanstream Enema Bulb, Red I think elliot would benefit from using this to make sure he is fresh and clean for any toys I might want to slip up his backdoor.

Rago Women's Hi Waist Bike Shaper Adding to elliot's girdle wardrobe is always fun. He is quite used to wearing a girdle so having a few around the house is a treat for him and no trouble for me. Perfect.

Silicone Male Chastity Device, Adult Penis Male Defend Chastity Belt Lock Cage (Pink) I can't imagine why I didn't cage elliot years ago. While he is chaste without the cage, the humiliation of having to wear this is ideal. I suspect even better in pink.

Dominant Wives: Erotic Tales of Marital Femdom, Chastity, Cuckolding, Husband Humiliation & More! I have no objection to elliot reading naughty books. In fact it is rather fun to make him read an arousing story or two when he's had his Viagra and is in his cage.

The Hesitant MistressI am hoping to finish my "An Elegant Woman's Guide to Female Led Marriages" in the next couple of months. Until then this book is great for a woman taking charge of her marriage or for a gentleman who wishes to submit to his wife.

Of course many of out readers just go into to Amazon through our links to buy things which are entirely unrelated to female led relationships, or gifts for their lovely dominant wives or any number of things...for which we are very grateful.

Tokens of Submission: #Corners and #Cock #Cages

Every morning elliot wakes up puts a dressing gown on over his nightie and goes downstairs to put on my kettle. Then he comes back upstairs, strips naked except for his little black cock cage, take my yesterday's panties and, silently, pushes them into his corner with his nose. When he hears the kettle boil he puts his dressing gown back on makes my tea, serves it to me in bed and then, without a word, returns to his corner.

I like elliot to shower daily. While there is no reason he cannot shower in his little black cock cage, I think it is better for him to have it off most days. I keep a key beside me on my night table. When I have finished my first cup of tea I will simply say "Present" and elliot, who I have trained to do this, will put the panties away and stand in front of me with his hands behind his back. I unlock but do not remove his cage and he goes for his shower.

He knows he is to put his cage back on after his shower. Again, I don't have to tell him.

Man's best choice

Looking at our Amazon results there will be three men whose cocks will be caged in the next few weeks. A cock cage is the perfect gift for a woman leading or getting ready to lead her marriage to give her husband. Not because it will keep him chaste and attentive - although it will - but rather as a symbol of his complete capitulation to your authority.

Men are obsessed with their cocks from a very young age. Boys will make four or five messes a day as teens and that sort of masturbatory behaviour will, unless sharply curbed by a wife from the very earliest stages of a marriage, continue. In a wife led marriage, where the husband is expected to be chaste and never comes without his wife's express  permission, the husband gives up control of his cock and, more basically, his sexuality.

A soft, short, cock cage is, like elliot's morning corner time, simply a reminder of his position. He knows that I love him dearly and find him very sexy indeed. I love having him lick my pussy until I come. But I love that in the context of his being sent to his corner while I am coming. I love him pleasuring me without any expectation that he will have any direct sexual pleasure whatsoever.

Issolating his cock in a soft silicon cage simply reminds him that he has surrendered his sexuality to me. When he has to sit down to use the toilet he remembers his vow to "love, honour and obey". And when his morning erection wakes him up with discomfort he remembers how much happier he is now that his little cock is no longer in his control.

Three more men will be discovering the pleasures of having their cocks caged. Even the most Alpha male is far better off without the distraction having control of his cock will cause. In fact, surrendering that control will make him all the more formidable in the rest of his life. Men are easily distracted - taking control of their cocks removes many a distraction.

Must be Strict #femdom

One of the more interesting difficulties in a female led relationship is that, eventually, your husband is very well trained indeed. He does as he is told without question almost all the time. He accepts his chastity and understands that only your sexual needs matter in your marriage. He cleans the bathroom, puts away the dishes, rinses your lingerie without being told to.

Of course, once in a while, he might be a little moody or slightly disobedient; but not often. While there is much to be said for maintenance whippings and daily naked corner time for him to remember his place, the fact is that unless you make new demands he will, slowly, cease to be on his toes. You don't want that and, just as importantly, neither does your husband. Men do best when they have goals.

I very much enjoy having elliot get up, turn on the heat, put on my tea kettle and take my yesterdays' panties to his corner. It is especially cute now that his little cock is in his soft black silicone cage so he can't play with it. It also gives me a chance to give him his instructions for the day.

I very much enjoy having him build our Amazon books - the series of 1950's Mens Magazine Covers - is actually going to be an archive which I'll use for some of my retro outfits. And I love how our last bout of exercise and nearly full time girdling slimmed elliot down. So, from now until Christmas he's to make a magazine a day and do exercises twice a day before and after he puts on his daily wear girdle. I'm a little on heat at the moment which is an excellent time for elliot to be very much locked up. He can lick very effectively while his little cock is straining in its short cage.

Being a dominant wife is all about focus. Which, fortunately, I have.

Much better

It is really true that a man locked in chastity is a lot more attentive and obedient. In fact, elliot is positively looking for ways to please me.

I have been a bit distracted recently but this morning I was in the mood for a lovely submissive husband bringing me tea in bed, cleaning up the kitchen, spending time with a nice moist pair of my panties in his corner and then pleasuring me until I was ready to have a glorious orgasm.

I've taken to having him retreat to his corner when I am close. I love watching him push his nose in my panties and, if not for his cock cage, get harder and harder as he hears me coming to the edge and falling over. So that is exactly what happened.

After I had throughly enjoyed his very skillful tongue - he just gets better at licking and sucking my pussy, not to mention sliding a couple of very clean fingers right into me - off he went in his adorable little cage. It didn't take me long to come and when I had I lay back and sipped my tea.

"You can get into position now." He knelt on the bed and I took my time bringing my medium rattan cane down hard against his ass. I wanted welts and I got them. When I was done I sent him back downstairs to freshen my tea. He was very grateful.

That's better

I have been experimenting with elliot's cock cage. We have established that he can be caged pretty much full time for as long as I want. The question has been how long that actually is.

elliot is two things: first, chaste unless I permit him to come. Second, nipple trained - basically, unless I am pinching his nipples quite hard, even if he is erect and thrusting he is not allowed to come. Which means that his cage is not keeping him chaste, it is doing something else.

At one level having his sweet little cock in its cage is just another way of reminding elliot of his position. He has no sexual rights in our marriage and that is just the way we both like it. But the cage also isolates his cock. While he is never allowed to touch his cock without asking permission there are moments where he gains a certain amount of stimulation from rubbing, or wearing his girdle or even just against the sheets. With his cock in its soft cage that stimulation is gone.

I prefer to be the sole source of elliot's pleasure or frustration. The cock cage enforces that situation. When I came home from shopping and elliot handed me the key he knew he was going to stay locked in until I let him out. I suspect he also was acutely aware of the fact he has not been allowed to come for nearly three weeks. All the while taking his micro doses of Viagra.

His behaviour has been far from perfect so locking him up will need to be accompanied by a good caning or two...But first it's time to give him something to make his little cock uncomfortably hard, I am going to have him lace up my corset for cocktails. Maybe I'll whip him as well. We'll see.

Close...but no ejaculation

Well poor elliot tried but he only managed to complete two of the three Kindle books he was assigned. They will be up shortly.

So I locked him back in his cage after cooling down his little cock with a nice ice bath. He was wonderfully frustrated but, of course, obedient. He has a busy week this week and it will be interesting to see if he gets his book assignments done. But, the delightful truth is that he may stay locked up right through his Halloween feminization which, I think, might be appropriate.

Meanwhile, here are two free books to start your week with a little lingerie fun:


50's Lingerie 50's gals in stockings, girdles and bullet bras.

And So to Bed Pretty Girls in Nighties

Out of Chastity...To Work

Poor elliot...I uncaged him last night and teased him for an hour. then he had to put on his girdle over his frustrated, hard little cock and try to go to sleep.

For fun I told him that if he was able to get three Kindle books done I would let him ejaculate...maybe, after dinner before putting him back in his little black cage. He knows that he is going in no matter what so the incentive is the possibility of relief.

Even as I write he is upstairs converting wonderful old 1950's magazine covers to Kindle books. I think the covers are great. These wonderfully curvy gals looking ever so naughty while revealing nothing more than you expect to see on the beach. And for years men bought these "smutty" magazines and, funnier still, hide them from their wives.

elliot just did a set of bondage magazine covers from the 1970s and 1980's. Here's what he wrote:

Naughty girls in trouble

Naughty girls tied up. The most recent is a set of bondage magazine covers from the 1970's and 1980's. One of the things which I enjoy about the older magazines is the lively innocence of the models. They are playing in various titilating ways.

You can see all the books I've made, and Hannah has approved, at my new Amazon author's page.

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I like his author's page. But I want him to get to 100 books by Christmas. And I have all sorts of clever ways to keep him focused.

Every man needs a hobby.

Silly Boy

My darling has put up a wonderfully silly book which is an old bit of British smut from the 50's. Frolic. You can get it at Amazon here for free today and tomorrow.

Naughty British "Schoolgirls"...

Meanwhile, i knew I was going out this morning and thought that elliot might benefit from a morning with our nJoy stainless steel wand in its proper place. He writes about it over on his blog.

I enjoyed my morning out knowing that he was caged and stuffed and in a nice tight girdle...very good for a husband now and again.

UPDATE...Of course I was not going to let him out of his little cock cage. I tease him a bit about getting out but I suspect I will keep him locked up right through Halloween when he can get all nicely dressed up en femme and pleasure me. But he has been busy and there is another free book for you to enjoy!





You can download Sizzle#1 for free right here.

Completely In Charge

My Darling has been in his cock cage for five nights now. I have not let him out, except for a quick shower, and I don't think I will.

The cage itself really imposes no great discomfort. I have teased him erect several times and stood him in his corner hard in his cage. A full erection is, more or less, impossible and even being tumescent is a bit uncomfortable. Which is, of course, not my problem. In actual fact this particular cage is quite soft and a bit elastic. I can certainly see why, for punishment purposes, dominant wives will confine their hasbands to a hard metal or stiff plastic cage. elliot's cage is made of silicone and is more a protective restraint than an actual cage.

The key thing is that it blocks all sensation to elliot's little cock. And, of course, it is locked on. It means he is denied the stimulation which I think many men enjoy form their clothing or night clothes. Even in five days I have seen a real change in elliot's attitude. Because I think he realizes that his cage is permanent. Unlike a girdle - which I still have hime wear during the day - the cage specifically eliminates his sexual capacity.

Now, I love being able to gain my greater pleasure from elliot's little cock. But I like that greater pleasure perhaps twice a month. And that, save for some showers, is the only time his cockette is coming out of its silicone prison. The rest of the time he can, as he should, remain sexless.

I have, however, decided to maintain his regular micro doses of Viagra. It creates a wonderful "wake up" erection which gets the silly boy out of bed and onto his morning duties and corner time. Nature's little alarm clock gets all the louder when it is straining against a CB6000short

I think I like this cage thing

elliot has been in his cock cage for two nights now. He's figured out how to be as comfortable as possible in his chastity. I have had a little fun teasing him and while erections are not comfortable they are not agony either.

This morning I thought it would be interesting to just use his very talented tongue and then dismiss him to his corner without unlocking him. How delightful. He is docile as a lamb with his little cock all locked up and, because the cage is black and opaque, largely invisible.

So I had a lovely orgasm, had elliot clean me up and dry me with his mouth and then dismissed him. He was very hard and his little black cage strained to hold him in. But it did. I was able to completely ignore his obvious desire because I had left the keys downstairs. Where I think I will keep them.

I can see why clever wives lock up their submissive husbands. It really is for the best.
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