Sexual Economics

I received a note from a long time reader about some of the books I have written:

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Dear Miss Jay,

Along with your wonderful books on Female Led Marriage, and I especially like Obedient Husband: Female Led Marriage for Loving Couples, I noticed that you have written a number of books on what I can only think of as "sex for sale". In particular, you have written two "guides" for women.

The first, Avails: Escorting for the Elegant Woman is, simply speaking, a guide book for women who decide to charge money for their sexual favours. I have to call that prostitution which, besides being illegal, seems contrary to your message of female superiority and empowerment.

The second, MODERN MISTRESS: LEAD THE LUXURY LIFE YOU DESERVE seems to suggest doing at a wholesale level what your earlier book is about at the retail level.

How can you square this sordid exchange of money for sex with your views on the best way to organize a marriage or relationship? I completely agree with you that men are often happier when they do what they are told, are kept in chastity and punished for even the slightest infraction; but I cannot see how an intelligent, dominant, woman could countenance the female exploitation implicit in escorting or mistresshood. Can you enlighten me?

Respectfully,

Amelia

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Dear Amelia,

While I see your point I have to disagree: strong, elegant women can exercise their power over men in a variety of ways. Having and training a submissive husband or boyfriend is, in many cases, the ideal end state for a woman to achieve life long happiness but what of those delightful years when a girl is in her twenties and thirties and has little interest in "settling down"?

Many women are just finding their dominant side when they are younger and, frankly, many women are more than a little frightened of the power they actually have. After all, while society talks a good game about female empowerment, the #METOO scandals suggest that the old ways have not gone away. Unfortunately, young women with well developed sexual identities often find themselves devalued by the various, more powerful, men they encounter. In many cases this leads them to retreat into either the conventionally asexual world of the "alt-girl" or the anti-sex world of "pantsuit nation". In both cases, and in all the other asexual or anti-sexual approaches to the world, a young woman is denying what is, in fact, a huge element of her power. While this is always a woman's choice, I think it is important that young women - as well as more experienced women - keep in mind some sexier, more powerful alternatives.

A good deal of the impetus for writing the books were conversations I had with my maid Mady. The poor girl had, before we joined us, been so confused by her sexuality that she had retreated into a lipstick version of college lesbianism. All very pleasant I'm sure, and it did give her certain skills for which I am personally very grateful, but she was, as her continued use of elliot's little cock suggests, a flaming heterosexual. However, she was deeply intimidated by the "anything goes" hook-up culture she encountered in college with boys her own age and had no idea what to do about it.

For many young women "sugar" culture has become an answer. However, in my view, sugaring simply leaves girls in a subservient position while being required to "service" their so called "sugar daddies". Where a mistress dictates the terms of her engagement and expects her patron to honour them, a sugarbaby is in constant danger of replacement. And much of that has to do with the sorts of men who are involved in sugaring. Not to be snobby about it, but sugar daddies tend to be wealthy but not gentlemen.

The quality of the men involved in either a mistress relationship or at the upper end of the escorting world make all the difference. Which I write about at length in both my books. For a young girl starting out or an elegant woman testing the waters, the objective is to find a gentleman or several gentlemen who are prepared to pay a significant sum for the pleasure of her company. (And I note in these #METOO times, for the professional discretion a mistress or an escort offers.)

For a younger woman a patron can also be a mentor and, in the right circumstances, a huge help in her career.

Yes, there is a sexual component obviously. However, a good deal of Avails and Modern Mistress are about the settings, the lingerie, the candles and the music. Of course there are sections on really good oral technique, managing role play and creating the magic of erotic tension; but a successful escort or mistress is about much more than sex.

As you know I believe that most alpha males, and alphas are far more likely to be gentlemen than their weaker, less confident, inferiors, have an often repressed submissive streak. Being taken in hand by a woman twenty or thirty years their junior can be a huge turn on. And, in fact, what a patron or client is usually looking for is a break from their high stress, decision a minute, intense world where they are totally responsible. Having a standing date with a mistress or enjoying an evening with an escort takes them away from the pressure.

Reading my books, a woman will learn a lot about how men are managed, how patrons are relaxed and pampered and how clients become regulars. And it all comes down to a woman using the power of the feminine for her own ends.

Both books have a lot of interviews in them. Girls and women I spent several hours with talking about how they arrange their encounters, how they dress, the mood they try to create. But in almost every case, the key to their success (and these are very successful women) is that they establish that they are in charge right from the moment the client or the patron walks through the door.

My books are, in fact, about another aspect of feminine power. No successful mistress or escort allows herself to be exploited. Quite the opposite. In a kind, giving way, she offers her patron or her client the opportunity to meet her needs as she defines them. While she might begin by catering to her clients' or patron perceived desires, he will soon discover that his encounter is much more satisfying when he does what he's told and is "rewarded".

Very much like a male's place in a female led relationship.

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	If you are looking for sexier stories of mistresses and escorts (you naughty boy!) you can buy Money Sex: tales from the luxury lives of high end escorts, mistresses and courtesans here. It is one of Mady's favorite pillow books.

Questions for A Dominant Wife

Where have you and elliot and Mady been for the last few months?

The short answer is, busy. Mady has finished her thesis and just passed her final exams. elliot has seen his business get a lot busier and I have been working on my new book about how female led marriage may be a real solution to a lot of the problems couples have.

Do you still read your emails?

We do. And often answer them. Mady is now helping me with some of my correspondence and my book. She really has moved from maid to personal assistant although I still require her to wear her corsets, quarter cup bras, sheer tops, stockings and tight skirts in the afternoons and early evenings when she is "on duty". The glimpse of her pretty nipples or stockings tops keep elliot in a pleasing state of longing arousal.

Is elliot still in his cock cage and ball stretchers?

The ball stretchers are pretty much permanent. Both Mady and I enjoy the effect of ounces of stainless steel on his poor scrotum. It is not actually terribly painful but the constant pressure reminds him of his place. At the same time, I am caging his cock less often. This is mainly for Mady's benefit. Formerly of lesbian inclination, since she has been training elliot she finds she enjoys a good ride on his Viagra stiff cock on nearly a daily basis. While it was lovely to have her come to my morning room, curtsy and ask if she might have the keys it was also rather inconvenient.

Now this does not mean elliot is allowed to come any more frequently. Quite the opposite really. Mady likes the feeling of his cock in her but she is certainly not interested in his little messes. When she rides him it is strictly for her pleasure and elliot knows he'll be severely whipped and locked up if he spills a drop. He really is like that poor 50's housewife letting her husband have her while being clueless as to her own pleasure. He is required to get hard, stay hard and lie back as Mady takes her pleasure. He tells me it is very hard not to come especially when he is required to suck on her nipples for her great enjoyment.

But there it is. Men should not be allowed to come very often and, if they are allowed, it should be in humbling circumstances or by way of prostate milking which avoids the male orgasm altogether. It keeps them on edge and far more eager to do as they are told.

Are you ever jealous of Mady?

No. In our home I lead and what I say and allow is what happens. I very much like the fact Mady puts elliot through his paces. It keeps him fresh and it allows me to focus on my own work and the very deep emotional connection I have with elliot. At the same time, there is nothing I enjoy more than seeing his sweet head bobbing between my thighs as he brings me to orgasm. Or, on other nights, requiring him to watch as Mady's sweet head bobs between my thighs as she has that delightful duty. It is really impossible to be jealous when you have all the power in a relationship. In two relationships really.

I think elliot may be a little jealous of Mady as I will often send him to his corner while Mady and I try on clothes or enjoy touching each other. But that is not, of course, any concern of mine. elliot's sole route to happiness and fulfillment is to do exactly what he is told. And he is very happy and very fulfilled.

More questions later. The nice ladies from Church are coming for tea and I want Mady to look her best.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE

Male Focus

I have always been amazed at the change in elliot first when he accepted his position as my submissive husband and, later, when I placed him in semi-permanent chastity.

The elliot I loved and married had more than a few blemishes. While he was a successful businessman and involved in our community, until he accepted my leadership in our marriage, he tended to be a bit scattered. Like most men, elliot was easily distracted by his own, rich, fantasy life. A pretty girl would walk by or he would see something on the internet and he'd lose focus.

Like most men, elliot really could not get enough sex. He would constantly pester me for "a quick blow job" or "a quickie". And it got worse the more successful he became. The problem was that my delightful husband was an alpha male with all of the sense of sexual entitlement alpha's usually have. At the same time, his alpha sexuality did not seem to actually satisfy him. And it certainly didn't satisfy me.

When I first took the lead, one of the key things which I decided was that there would be only one sexuality in our marriage: mine. Now this might sound selfish, but it was actually very pragmatic. A properly submissive husband needs to focus his sexual energy on the one person he is allowed to lust after. But he also has to recognize that, unlike men, women are not always thinking about or eager for sex or, for that matter, sexual talk or suggestions. I know that I have a cycle of sexual interest and there are only a few days in a month where I am interested in any sort of sexual activity. Prior to taking the lead in our marriage, I would feel some obligation to accommodate elliot's sexual desires even in off and shoulder parts of my cycle. A big deal would be "celebrated" with a romp in bed and a household task completed might be rewarded with a blow job. Which was fun for elliot but once the novelty of our wedding wore off, was a chore for me.

By first restricting and later more or less eliminating elliot's ability to request, much less demand, sexual attention, I was able to assert my own authority and ensure that my needs and desires were the only sexuality in our marriage. Now the focus was on me and, it turned out, that actually took a substantial burden off elliot's shoulders.

Being a gentleman of a certain age, elliot grew up assuming that a strong male would set the sexual pace for his marriage. Worse, he assumed that I expected him to be "ready to go" pretty much all the time. After all, his male sexuality was not supposed to have cycles. In actual fact, his sexuality was actually cyclical and subject to all the ups and downs a successful man's stress levels produce. Without firm boundaries and a good deal of discipline, the divergence between his actual sexual appetite and what he thought was expected of him just added to his stress. Taking charge of our sexuality as a dominant wife took that stress and re-oriented it. He's told me, often, how relieved he is not to have to posture as a sexually rampant alpha male and how content he is to give me my pleasure when I want it without any thought of reciprocation.

Locking up his little cock in its cock cage simply formalized his complete sexual submission. The fact he has not ejaculated except when I have Mady prostate milk him for about two months is his new normal.

Which is not to say that elliot is not regularly teased by Mady's perky little nipples under her sheer uniform or required to give me extended oral attention before being sent to his corner while I come in private. And the micro-doses of Viagra ensure he fills his cage with his helpless little cock often. But his, more or less permanent chastity means he has shifted his focus to what he knows will please me. Under Mady's strict supervision he is in the best shape he's been in a decade. His business is booming letting us live very well indeed. We are still very active in our community although I have taken the lead there. With the surrender of his manhood, elliot is free to do what he does best - business and pleasing me. He could not be happier or more fulfilled and our marriage and our lives move forward easily and with delight. Now that elliot's sexuality has been reduced to longing and oral service, he understands and embraces his position.

As he should.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE

Thinking about a Dominant Wife Guide Book

I have been thinking about putting together a book with the working title "Dominant Wife/Alpha Husband".

The thought came to me as I was instructing one of Mady's friends on the feminine art of caning. Needless to say, elliot was in position and Mady was holding his arms as I showed her friend, Emily, the difference between a maintenance stroke and a punishment stroke. For the former it is really just a flick of the wrist, the later means you swing with your whole arm and follow through. elliot does not like punishment strokes at all. Emily was getting the hang of it and, after a dozen maintenance and half a dozen punishment strokes elliot was kicking up his heels and looking very chastened indeed. We could have gone on but I thought elliot had suffered enough.

"Take him upstairs for a shower Mady." I said putting down my dog stick (which is a nasty instrument I rarely use on elliot, or Mady for that matter.) elliot was naked except for his new stainless steel short cock cage and ball stretchers and he trotted along behind Mady enjoying her short little skirt and the fact his whipping was over. Emily and I adjourned to my sitting room and I poured us each a glass of nicely chilled chablis.

"So, what did you think of that Emily." I asked. She was a close friend of Mady's and had been curious as to Mady's remarkable transformation as she served first as my maid and, now, as my handmaid/companion. In particular, she was very interested in the entire idea of training a boyfriend or husband. I offered to let her come for a few days to see how I ran our house.

"That was so intense, ma'am." said Emily.

"What was Emily? Using a cane for the first time?" I asked.

"Well that was exciting but what was so intense is how your husband just accepted the fact he was going to be whipped." said Emily.

"I suppose it was. Truth to tell I really don't notice his obedience these days. He simply does what he is told." I said quite honestly. It had been a long time since elliot talked back or didn't obey. A very long time.

"But it is such a contrast. When I arrived yesterday there he was in his office making calls, striding up and down, doing business. And, looking at this house, a very good business. He was so "in charge". And, at supper, unless I knew what I was looking for you two seem like a somewhat formal but very loving couple. But today all that had changed." said Emily.

"Actually, Emily, nothing changed today. Which is really the point. Both modes are who elliot is. He is not pretending to be the big swinging dick business guy, he actually is, albeit with his not terribly big cock in its little cage as a reminder of his position. In fact, his complete submission actually makes him a better and more confident business man." I said.

"I guess it might ma'am, but I don't quite see how you go about turning that sort of man into a well trained boyfriend, much less a submissive husband."

"It is not obvious, is it? And I suspect it is not obvious because you are seeing it as "turning" a man into something he was not. I don't think that is the way it works. Some men, and my research on Mistresses and on Escorts, tells me that "some" is really quite a few, have a submissive streak. Of course, the more alpha they are the more reluctant they are to admit it; but a clever girl can usually figure it out. And that submissive streak is fully integrated - if deeply suppressed - in their personality. So that is the raw material and, as I did with elliot, you have to look hard to see what a man actually wants, actually needs." I said pondering whether or not to tell Emily that at the beginning of our marriage I was the one who went over elliot's lap.

"And how do you find a man with that temperament?" asked Emily.

"Well, you are a pretty girl, smart, nicely put together: I suspect you are asked out regularly." I said.

"I am. But not by a lot of men I see as alphas. Lots and lots of betas." said Emily with a laugh.

"I won't start giving dating advice but if you are looking for salmon don't fish a trout stream. Having an integrated personality tends to correlate with intelligence and that means you are more likely to meet a real alpha in a bookstore than in a night club." I said. "And the nice thing about bookstores is that you can see what a man is looking at and gather quite a lot of information. Same with things like public lectures. But not the New Agey sorts of lectures - just by showing up to a lecture on getting in touch with your inner self a man has already admitted he is not well integrated - look for things like urban planning or science. Or work on a political campaign. Lots of smart ambitious men will put in time in the "back rooms" of political organizations."

"But where ever you are, stand a bit aloof. Be a bit unreachable. There is nothing wrong with a woman being a bit stand offish. Dress, make-up, shoes...they all matter and they all signal. You want to look very, very, expensive. Which is really about natural fibres, simple, modest design and really working on your posture - a corset, as Mady shows so wonderfully, helps a lot. Mady might lend you one for dinner this evening."

"That would be lovely. I love her's."

"Mady turns out to be a girl who loves the security being tight laced brings. Other girls find corsets suffocating. We'll see this evening which sort of girl you are." I said lightly.

"So there I am, looking very expensive and the proverbial tall, dark and handsome stranger looms on my horizon...what then?" asked Emily.

"He'll likely make a bit of conversation and, if you are interested, you wait until he suggests drinks, dinner and such like. At which point you run a little test." I said.

"A test?"

"Yes, and I have to admit I did not come with this on my own but a very dear and dominant friend of mine swears it sets just the right tone. Once he asks, you tell him which day, what time and where you will be going. Note the word "tell". Right from the beginning, you are telling this man what he is to do. It will seperate the sheep from the goats rather quickly. My friend ended up marrying a lovely man who, when she gave him his instructions on first meeting, said "Yes ma'am." and has been saying it ever since." I said and Mady and elliot rejoined us. I asked them both to sit down which Mady did at once, heedless of the fact her little maid's skirt rode up over her stockings tops. It must have been a very stimulating shower as her pretty pink nipples were quite visibly erect under her sheer blouse. elliot said, "If it is all the same to you, dear, I think I stand for a little while longer. Emily is a quick learner."

We all laughed and passed on to other things.

But I realized that what I had been discussing with Emily and have discussed previously with Mady, might make a rather useful source book for ladies, young or not, who wanted to take the lead in their relationships with men. We'll see what I come up with.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE

A Chastity Question

Dear Miss Jay,

I have been married for three years and have "led" our marriage since our honeymoon when I first took my husband over my knee on the second night. My husband is very obedient, trustworthy and understands that, in our marriage, his sexuality is entirely subordinate to mine. I am not a big fan of penetrative sex so he has only been allowed to enter me twice since we married. I allow him to masturbate, in the bathroom, once a month which seems to me to be more than enough.

Recently I have noticed he is becoming erect and, worse, "dribbling" and even having nocturnal emissions. I am quite sure this has effected his behaviour despite knowing he derives no pleasure from these lapses. They still represent unconscious disobedience and I would like to nip this in the bud. The whole point of having a chaste husband is to ensure that what pleasure he gets depends completely on my assessment of his performance in his marital duties.

I read your blog and know that you keep your husband in a cock cage. I have thought of putting my husband in such a device but I wondered if the fact his cock is in a cage might not be making too much of his male member. Drawing attention as it were. What are your thoughts?

A Young Wife

It is an interesting question. Obviously, putting man's cock in a silicon or metal cage, locking it and keeping the key means you are paying more attention to that little cock than you might prefer. However, I find that once elliot is locked up I pretty much forget about his cock after a day or two. Now, from his perspective, between his silicone cock cage and his heavy stainless steel ball stretchers, he never forgets the loss of his cock.

He tells me that the silicone cock cage ensures that his cock feels nothing. None of the normal friction that men, from the time they are little boys, find so enjoyable. When he gets hard - which is quite often as I micro dose him with Viagra - his little cock strains against the cage and can look quite painful if Mady or I tease him. But I have him in a small cage and this makes it impossible for him to have a full erection.

Most importantly, the cage ensures he cannot touch his cock directly. I suspect your husband, perhaps unconsciously, touches his penis dozens of times a day. Most men do. In these permissive times, young men are not corrected for this sort of behaviour and masturbation - to emission or not - is seen as healthy rather than disgusting. As a wife it is your responsibility to teach your husband how a gentleman should behave. You are certainly on the right track. If you do not enjoy penetrative sex then that is, and should be, the end of that story. And you are quite right to confine your husband's emissions to the bathroom. Monthly, for a younger man, is difficult but certainly not impossible. (I do hope you treat his monthly mess as a chore on your list rather than any sort of big thing. A well-trained husband will come to associate ejaculation with humiliation which will increase your control.)

Introducing a cock cage into the discipline of your husband is an excellent idea even if it carries a bit of an initial risk of concentrating too much attention on your husband's obviously redundant cock. That risk has to be weighed against the reward of knowing your husband will no longer have any of the passive male excitements a free cock enjoys. He will be even more dependent upon you for what little direct sexual pleasure he will enjoy in the years ahead.

Now, that said, a cock cage, in itself, does not ensure a husband will behave properly. Restricting your husband's direct sexual pleasure is only a part of the discipline a properly dominant wife deploys. As I am sure you know, a regular course of whippings, humiliations and teasing as well as ensuring he pleasures you as required, will make for a thoroughly docile and loving submissive husband. In time he will understand and cherish his place beneath your heels. Caging his cock is simply a lasting reminder of your husband's complete surrender of his will to yours. It should not be the only reminder.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE

Sex and the Chaste Husband

I often chat with Mady as she helps me with my bath. (And, frankly, I had never thought I needed or would enjoy "help" with my bath but it is a total treat to be washed generally and intimately by a pretty young girl in a see-through top, a demi-cup bra and a little pleated skirt which, just to tease elliot, I have her wear at stockings tops length.) And this morning, as she was drying me, she asked, "Don't you like having sex with Sir at all?"

Given that "Sir" has been locked up in his cock cage since Christmas and that he now has two permanent ball stretching stainless steel rings in place, it was not an unreasonable question. But I think I surprised her with my answer.

"I love sex with my sweet husband Mady. He is skilful, attentive, and, as you know, will lick you for as long as you like. But I don't think it is good for a man, any man, to have penetrative sex with a women except under quite unusual circumstances. For example, when you are making or renewing your vows, it is important for you to feel entirely owned, and elliot's little cock in your vagina, your bottom and your mouth is wonderfully symbolic. And, of course, if I decided to breed you, we could do the whole A Handmaid's Tale and I could cradle you while elliot took the necessary strokes. And, come to think of it Mady, that might be fun even if I was not breeding you."

"It might ma'am, if you would enjoy it. But I have never found having a cock in me particularly fun except, as you say, symbolically. For me to be your bondswoman I needed to feel completely surrendered and completely taken. It's too bad elliot is quite small. I have never had a really decent sized cock in me, maybe I would enjoy it more." said Mady on her knees patting my bottom and nether regions dry.

"Well you might, or, speaking from experience, you might not. An obedient, well trained man can give his wife, or her maid, far more pleasure with his tongue than even the best endowed, unbroken, man can. It is really all a matter of the symbolism and, frankly, desire. I will occasionally want to feel a bit full and there is nothing easier than having elliot lie with his hands under his bottom while I give him a good seeing to. You should certainly try it. But it has been years since I have let him get on top of me. That is not his position." I said stepping into my panties and letting Mady draw them up my legs.

"I might try that ma'am. Do you come that way?"

"Rarely. But once I have enjoyed his little cock for a while I just turn around and take full advantage of the female superior position. Have you had him service your backdoor? He is really very good at it and he can make his tongue hard enough to slide right in you. If you haven't tried you should. But once he's been in your backdoor make him rinse before you let him anywhere near your pussy. I usually just send him off to his corner and finish myself. The point being that we have plenty of sex. Or, more exactly, I have plenty of sex which is how a well run female led marriage should be. Sex as often as I want it."

"Isn't it terribly frustrating for Sir?" asked Mady.

"Of course it is, and all the more so with your perky little nipples getting all hard whenever there is a draft. Plus, of course, his little microdose of Viagra to stiffen him up. And that is exactly how it should be. A man in chastity should be reminded of his emasculation regularly. He is not like other men. His cock is under lock and key. He is allowed to long to have sex, be filled with lust, desperately want to come as other men do rather than being milked occasionally or having his wife's maid peg him just for fun. But he can't. And that makes him more obedient, more docile, more attentive and, frankly, much more attractive." I said.

"So you like him to be horny all the time?" said Mady.

"Well, men are aren't they. They waste a good deal of time and attention thinking about sex. But once you lock a man up, whip him regularly and make him pleasure you when you feel like pleasure, instead of thinking about sex, he thinks about you. He thinks about how he might please you enough to be let out of his cage, even if it is just for strokes with no chance of actually coming. It takes a while but, eventually, a really well trained man keeps his sexual interest but understands and accepts that he will never again be allowed to express it. Now he'll be all about his wife and her pleasure."

"He is certainly attentive when he goes down on me." said Mady blushing slightly.

"As he should be. Most men are lucky, as they get older, to have one woman to pleasure. elliot has two. He can't believe his luck. Now let's get those stockings on. We have the altar guild for lunch at noon. You'll be serving and, much as I enjoy your day uniform, I fear you will have to change as well. Can't frighten the horses."

Mady bent to her task of sliding the stockings up my legs and fastening the six garter tabs. She was learning.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order a ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
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Submissive Men Considered

elliot was in the shower after his daily work out with Mady and the two of us were having a nice cup of tea before getting on with the rest of our days. With our new arrangement, unless Mady is actually in uniform - which is around four to five hours a day - she is more my young companion than a servant and that lets her learn. And to learn you have to ask questions.

"Why do you think elliot is submissive?" she asked. "I mean it is not as if he is anything but highly effective and even a bit aggressive doing his business. I hear him speaking very sharply when things are not done exactly as he requires. Lots of testosterone."

"Lots. And even more since you have been in charge of his workouts." I said.

"I've noticed. He gets so hard in his cage when I have him lick me. Even standing in his corner he gets hard." said Mady smiling.

"And with me Mady. No elliot has a wonderfully strong sex drive and even when he has to wear a bra and girdle no one would ever mistake him for a woman." I said.

"So where does the submission come from?" asked Mady.

"For the longest time, Mady, I really didn't know. When we first started experimenting with a Female Led Marriage I saw it as more of a sexy game than anything. I mean it was tons of fun to have elliot pay really close attention to what I want. And it was nice to be able to enjoy sex without feeling like I had to always reciprocate. And we could have left it there."

"But you didn't." said Mady sipping her tea.

"No. One day elliot was, I think largely unintentionally, more than a little disrespectful. I honestly forget what it was about. It didn't matter. Right there and then I sent him up to our room and told him to wait for me. I took a few minutes to calm down and then went upstairs. I stopped into the bathroom and got our big bath brush. You know the one."

"I am afraid I do ma'am." said Mady remembering a relatively light spanking she'd received with the brush.

"Well, I wanted to make an impression. I had him lower his pants and lie across my lap and then I got to work. As you know, that bath brush can sting. But it can do more than sting with a little force behind it. I gave him two dozen strokes, the last six about twice as hard as the first six. He was squirming at the beginning and then kicking his legs and then, for the last six strokes he just lay in my lap and accepted his punishment. He was completely surrendered. But the funny thing was, even though he was on the verge of tears, he had the biggest erection I have ever seen him have. When I was done I had him stand up and I slipped off my now quite moist panties. Spur of the moment. I sent him with his red, slightly bruised bum, off to a corner with my panties to press into the corner with his nose and I left him there for fifteen minutes while I freshened up and made a cup of coffee. When I came back he was where I left him and his little cock was just as hard and it was dripping a little pre-cum. I reached around and pulled him a couple of times and then told him to get dressed."

"I had spanked him before but this was transformative. In fifteen minutes elliot went from being a bit edgy and resistive to completely docile and content. In actual fact, when I had spanked him before, while the humiliation of having to lie across his wife's lap was useful, the fact was I am not strong enough to physically correct a man in a way which will leave a lasting impression. The leverage of the bath brush changed that equation completely."

"Did the change last?" asked Mady.

"I think it has lasted 'til this day. But, obviously, the effect can fade which is why I let you cane him and I cane him as well. I read a lot about the physiological effects of corporal punishment and it seems pretty clear that, at a certain point of intensity, a bunch of neurochemicals are released. But there is no point in a light whipping. You have to swing your cane or paddle or bath brush hard enough and long enough that the man really feels it." I said, "But punishment or humiliation are not really at the root of a man's submission. They just make his position clear. I think a lot of men, and certainly elliot, need to have the relief of knowing that when their business day is ended they are to do what they are told. No decisions, no arguments, just obedience and deference to the woman who loves them. It is a "safe place" where they can simply let the intensity of their world go."

"Is it really "a lot of men"?" asked Mady.

"I think so. Now, for a lot of men submissiveness is not on their wive's or girlfriend's menu. At least not officially. But I am often amused by how submissive and deferential men often are to the woman in their life. And if you chat to perfectly ordinary, vanilla, wives it is pretty clear who wears the pants at home and in the bedroom. Nice ladies at church have told me how they "manage" their husbands. And most of those husbands, after the first couple of years of marriage, are effectively chaste and on their wive's sexual schedule. Suits both parties for the wife to take charge. All I have done is made all of that more express, more real, for elliot. Which, as you know, suits us perfectly."

"I can certainly see some of the rather formidable ladies in church running their husband's lives for them; but how do they know?" said Mady.


"In many cases they don't. A wife will give her husband a "honey-do" list and reward him for completing it. The reward might be a good steak dinner or it might be a blow job. But the wife is in control in any case. If you keep an eye out you will see very strong, powerful, men ask their wives for permission to go to the pub or play a round of golf. Why? Because if they don't they will be punished. Usually verbally and almost always with the withdrawal of sex for a little while or for quite a long time. Not to mention just how nasty some women are verbally. Not my thing at all; but I can certainly see why many husbands do as they are told. And once they start doing as they are told, they start to evolve into the submissive men smart women enjoy. Because they don't lose their edge in the more masculine world of work, rather they leave it at the door when they step into the presence of their wives. Watch, you'll see it over and over. All I am doing is taking it to the next, logical level and, in the process, giving elliot reminders of how happy he is in his place."

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE

Basics

As I write my darling husband is standing naked except for his cock cage and ball stretchers in his corner with a pair of my panties being pushed into the corner with his nose. He seems to be very happy in his corner thinking of the woman he loves and obeys.

We had a lovely Christmas and a deliciously decadent New Years. Mady served at Christmas but she joined us for New Years dinner and elliot served. He looked wonderful in nothing but a long black cotton waiter's apron. Mady and I got a bit tipsy and once elliot had served us desert and as we waited to toast the New Year, he spent the evening under the table putting his talented tongue to good use. It is one of the great pleasures of a wife led marriage that I can tell elliot to service me without feeling any obligation to reciprocate. We could see him getting all hard in his cage when we let him join us to toast the New Year. Which is perfect because there is no point in having a man in chasitity who does not actually, desperately, want to use his little cock.

Mady particularly likes elliot's oral attentions and she goes off like a string of firecrackers. It is lovely to see her pretty nipples erecting and then, with a quick cry, she'll come and flush all over her neck and clavicles. But she won't release elliot. She just reaches down, pushes his head back for a moment while she resets and then pulls his mouth towards her pussy for a second or a sixth round. And she loves the fact I am watching. She's a show-off.

You should have seen her outfit: just a semi-sheer black tunic top that barely covered her stockings tops and a well laced underbust corset. No panties and I could easily see her lovely little pussy rings, five a side, and her diamond padlock holding her chastity chain in place. Her pierced and locked cunt gets wonderfully wet and I left her clit hood unlocked on New Years so she could really enjoy herself.

Of course elliot loves his service. Why wouldn't he. As well as seeing to my pleasure, though I am not nearly so uninhibited and my slutty little maid, with my full permission and, indeed instruction, he is allowed to taste and pleasure a young, very beautiful, girl. No, he is not allowed to put his caged cock anywhere near her. But, then again, he really isn't allowed to use his little cock at all so it is not really an issue.

So another year begins. My lovely husband in his corner and my pretty maid downstairs making my tea as my bath runs.

Just the basics.

Perfect.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

	You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.
	You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.
Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE