Sunday, 15 February 2015
Dominant Wife versus Pro Domme
Of course there are any number of differences but the most significant lies in the fact a dominant wife is dominant full time for a single, submissive, man, her husband, where as a pro domme is dominant in session with any number of men who may or may not be submissive. For the pro domme her paid for sessions are theatre. (I discuss this a little in my book "Questions for Miss Jay: An Escort's Guide to Style, Dates and Fun")
To be a successful dominatrix a girl needs to be a good actress and play with the tropes of the BDSM world. Whips, chains and improbably large dildos. Her clients will expect her to dress the part with the leather corset, black leather thigh high boots and all manner of high camp accessories. The key thing is that for an hour or two, a girl can dress and act as a professional dominatrix and make very good money indeed.
The dominant wife, on the other hand, is not playing a role. Rather she is leading her marriage in the way which she has decided she wants to lead it. She is not seeing a client, she is training, disciplining and enjoying her husband.
As I wrote earlier, I don't "dress up" to be a dominant wife. Why would I?
As it happens, elliot had visited professionals before he met me. It turns out that was not at all what he was looking for. Submissive husbands have a particular itch and two hours with a pro domme just makes it itch harder.
A female led marriage meets the deep emotional needs of both the dominant wife and her submissive husband; but it meets them in "real life". While I certainly have fun with official holidays the essence of my marriage is that the man I love loves and obeys me. Whether I am wearing jeans and a crisp white shirt or a pretty dress and hose, I expect elliot to do as he is told.
Female led relationships can, of course, include all sorts of elements which are present in a pro domme session; but they also include day to day marital routine. Plus, if all goes well, they will create a sexual tension which is often missing from more conventional marriages. A husband with his cock in a cage is a very, very attentive man.
As he should be.