Thursday, 5 January 2017

Submissive Men Considered

elliot was in the shower after his daily work out with Mady and the two of us were having a nice cup of tea before getting on with the rest of our days. With our new arrangement, unless Mady is actually in uniform - which is around four to five hours a day - she is more my young companion than a servant and that lets her learn. And to learn you have to ask questions.

"Why do you think elliot is submissive?" she asked. "I mean it is not as if he is anything but highly effective and even a bit aggressive doing his business. I hear him speaking very sharply when things are not done exactly as he requires. Lots of testosterone."

"Lots. And even more since you have been in charge of his workouts." I said.

"I've noticed. He gets so hard in his cage when I have him lick me. Even standing in his corner he gets hard." said Mady smiling.

"And with me Mady. No elliot has a wonderfully strong sex drive and even when he has to wear a bra and girdle no one would ever mistake him for a woman." I said.

"So where does the submission come from?" asked Mady.

"For the longest time, Mady, I really didn't know. When we first started experimenting with a Female Led Marriage I saw it as more of a sexy game than anything. I mean it was tons of fun to have elliot pay really close attention to what I want. And it was nice to be able to enjoy sex without feeling like I had to always reciprocate. And we could have left it there."

"But you didn't." said Mady sipping her tea.

"No. One day elliot was, I think largely unintentionally, more than a little disrespectful. I honestly forget what it was about. It didn't matter. Right there and then I sent him up to our room and told him to wait for me. I took a few minutes to calm down and then went upstairs. I stopped into the bathroom and got our big bath brush. You know the one."

"I am afraid I do ma'am." said Mady remembering a relatively light spanking she'd received with the brush.

"Well, I wanted to make an impression. I had him lower his pants and lie across my lap and then I got to work. As you know, that bath brush can sting. But it can do more than sting with a little force behind it. I gave him two dozen strokes, the last six about twice as hard as the first six. He was squirming at the beginning and then kicking his legs and then, for the last six strokes he just lay in my lap and accepted his punishment. He was completely surrendered. But the funny thing was, even though he was on the verge of tears, he had the biggest erection I have ever seen him have. When I was done I had him stand up and I slipped off my now quite moist panties. Spur of the moment. I sent him with his red, slightly bruised bum, off to a corner with my panties to press into the corner with his nose and I left him there for fifteen minutes while I freshened up and made a cup of coffee. When I came back he was where I left him and his little cock was just as hard and it was dripping a little pre-cum. I reached around and pulled him a couple of times and then told him to get dressed."

"I had spanked him before but this was transformative. In fifteen minutes elliot went from being a bit edgy and resistive to completely docile and content. In actual fact, when I had spanked him before, while the humiliation of having to lie across his wife's lap was useful, the fact was I am not strong enough to physically correct a man in a way which will leave a lasting impression. The leverage of the bath brush changed that equation completely."

"Did the change last?" asked Mady.

"I think it has lasted 'til this day. But, obviously, the effect can fade which is why I let you cane him and I cane him as well. I read a lot about the physiological effects of corporal punishment and it seems pretty clear that, at a certain point of intensity, a bunch of neurochemicals are released. But there is no point in a light whipping. You have to swing your cane or paddle or bath brush hard enough and long enough that the man really feels it." I said, "But punishment or humiliation are not really at the root of a man's submission. They just make his position clear. I think a lot of men, and certainly elliot, need to have the relief of knowing that when their business day is ended they are to do what they are told. No decisions, no arguments, just obedience and deference to the woman who loves them. It is a "safe place" where they can simply let the intensity of their world go."

"Is it really "a lot of men"?" asked Mady.

"I think so. Now, for a lot of men submissiveness is not on their wive's or girlfriend's menu. At least not officially. But I am often amused by how submissive and deferential men often are to the woman in their life. And if you chat to perfectly ordinary, vanilla, wives it is pretty clear who wears the pants at home and in the bedroom. Nice ladies at church have told me how they "manage" their husbands. And most of those husbands, after the first couple of years of marriage, are effectively chaste and on their wive's sexual schedule. Suits both parties for the wife to take charge. All I have done is made all of that more express, more real, for elliot. Which, as you know, suits us perfectly."

"I can certainly see some of the rather formidable ladies in church running their husband's lives for them; but how do they know?" said Mady.


"In many cases they don't. A wife will give her husband a "honey-do" list and reward him for completing it. The reward might be a good steak dinner or it might be a blow job. But the wife is in control in any case. If you keep an eye out you will see very strong, powerful, men ask their wives for permission to go to the pub or play a round of golf. Why? Because if they don't they will be punished. Usually verbally and almost always with the withdrawal of sex for a little while or for quite a long time. Not to mention just how nasty some women are verbally. Not my thing at all; but I can certainly see why many husbands do as they are told. And once they start doing as they are told, they start to evolve into the submissive men smart women enjoy. Because they don't lose their edge in the more masculine world of work, rather they leave it at the door when they step into the presence of their wives. Watch, you'll see it over and over. All I am doing is taking it to the next, logical level and, in the process, giving elliot reminders of how happy he is in his place."

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:



You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.








You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.

Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid
Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman 
Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband
Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
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Monday, 2 January 2017

Basics

As I write my darling husband is standing naked except for his cock cage and ball stretchers in his corner with a pair of my panties being pushed into the corner with his nose. He seems to be very happy in his corner thinking of the woman he loves and obeys.

We had a lovely Christmas and a deliciously decadent New Years. Mady served at Christmas but she joined us for New Years dinner and elliot served. He looked wonderful in nothing but a long black cotton waiter's apron. Mady and I got a bit tipsy and once elliot had served us desert and as we waited to toast the New Year, he spent the evening under the table putting his talented tongue to good use. It is one of the great pleasures of a wife led marriage that I can tell elliot to service me without feeling any obligation to reciprocate. We could see him getting all hard in his cage when we let him join us to toast the New Year. Which is perfect because there is no point in having a man in chasitity who does not actually, desperately, want to use his little cock.

Mady particularly likes elliot's oral attentions and she goes off like a string of firecrackers. It is lovely to see her pretty nipples erecting and then, with a quick cry, she'll come and flush all over her neck and clavicles. But she won't release elliot. She just reaches down, pushes his head back for a moment while she resets and then pulls his mouth towards her pussy for a second or a sixth round. And she loves the fact I am watching. She's a show-off.

You should have seen her outfit: just a semi-sheer black tunic top that barely covered her stockings tops and a well laced underbust corset. No panties and I could easily see her lovely little pussy rings, five a side, and her diamond padlock holding her chastity chain in place. Her pierced and locked cunt gets wonderfully wet and I left her clit hood unlocked on New Years so she could really enjoy herself.

Of course elliot loves his service. Why wouldn't he. As well as seeing to my pleasure, though I am not nearly so uninhibited and my slutty little maid, with my full permission and, indeed instruction, he is allowed to taste and pleasure a young, very beautiful, girl. No, he is not allowed to put his caged cock anywhere near her. But, then again, he really isn't allowed to use his little cock at all so it is not really an issue.

So another year begins. My lovely husband in his corner and my pretty maid downstairs making my tea as my bath runs.

Just the basics.

Perfect.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:



You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.








You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.

Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid
Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman 
Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband
Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
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Wednesday, 21 December 2016

Needs and Wants: My Handmaiden

I find myself in the interesting position of being the head of household for both my husband elliot and my handmaid/companion Mady.

And, yes, Mady has been "promoted" although that is not quite the right word for it. Back in May I related my conversation with Mady who wanted to take her position and her submission to a very different level. Over the summer, as we enjoyed the heat and had elliot pulling us around the property in our dogcart, naked except for his cute little chastity cage and his shiny stainless steel ball stretcher. We went to the beach often and Mady enjoyed swimming in a pretty, retro, modest and deliciously sexy one piece or a wonderfully demure two-piece I had bought her.

We talked a lot. Where elliot and I have been working on our wife marriage for years, to the point where we barely think about it: he does what he is told and is soundly whipped if he doesn't, no need to over think that. But with Mady there is a different dynamic and we needed to figure out what would work for her and for me. (elliot was not part of these conversations, when we had figured it out we told him.)

More than anything Mady wanted and needs security. A very clear idea of being taken care of, of someone making decisions on her behalf and in her interests. There is a lot of information out on the web about Mistresses and slaves and, unfortunately, Mady had read a lot of it. It eventually emerged that she had thought that her next step would be to become my slave because that seemed to her to be the only way to be sure.

As my readers know, I do not believe in slavery in any form. Particularly inside a household. I understand that some wives prefer their husbands to be their slaves but I think that creates a fiction which can be very harmful. In a wife led marriage a husband needs to be obedient and accept his wife's position as head of the house. He needs to accept the fact he will be disciplined and, in most cases, will have his sexuality either curtailed or entirely subject to his wife's needs and desires. He will almost certainly be chaste. But none of that amounts to slavery because no intelligent woman wants or needs a man who does only what he is told to do. Rather, an intelligent woman will want her husband to accept her complete authority and then go forth and do mighty things. (And, it turns out, that a man in that position tends to put a great deal of effort out into the world knowing he is loved and protected at home.)

This is even more true with a young woman who is looking for the direction and discipline only an older woman can bring. Having Mady as a slave, however voluntary that condition, would waste all of the interesting things my maid was capable of. More importantly, it would actually reduce her usefulness to me. Between her really exquisite lady's maid skills, her lovely service at cocktail hour, her delicious teasing of poor elliot, her occasional intimate service, and her genuinely lovely demeanour and beauty, I couldn't see how I could improve upon her situation as my maid. But I had to or risk losing Mady to a larger world. But I didn't want to lose her, now automatic, curtsies which always made her nipples harden under her transparent blouses, displayed so beautifully in her quarter cup bras.

As we talked over the summer I realized that Mady very much enjoyed the mistress and maid situation. She loved the fact that when she was on formal duty I required her to corset her waist tightly and, except in summer, wear lovely, sheer, seamed, stockings (a dozen pairs of which will be in her Christmas stocking. Ho, ho, ho.) For formal entertaining, while she does not wear a sheer blouse she does have to wear five inch black patent leather pumps black patent leather pumps which she has been practising in since she came to us. She likes the fact she is required to whip elliot into shape and she has done a wonderful job. No sign of a belly on my darling husband after eight months of carrying Mady on his shoulders and pulling her little dog cart. And she told me she loved all of this. But it was not quite enough.

Because there was all the time she was off duty. On her own. Writing her book, reading, relaxing, "It is so hard to go from being on duty as your maid to my space where I am just me. elliot is never on duty and he is never off duty, he is just your submissive, obedient husband all the time." said Mady in one of our talks at the beach. "I'm your maid all of four or five hours a day, the rest of the time, I really could be anywhere. Drifting."

You can see the problem. On duty, Mady has a role and a set of responsibilities. She demonstrates her position with her dress, her corset, her curtsy and her acceptance of my orders. Off duty? Her identity as my maid is lost and she is left to her own devices. For a girl who craves order, who needs routine, discipline and a sense of place being left to her own devices is a penance she should not have to bear.

I thought about it. I knew I did not want a "daughter of the house". Incest, even play incest, makes my flesh crawl so that was out. Besides, I did not want to lose my maid. Mady was already my bondswoman with a full indenture and an oath before God. And that was not enough. Taking her to my bed, and sending elliot off to his lonely single bed in his dressing room, was fun for an evening but not really a solution. She needed to know she had a place in my household when she was not performing her domestic duties or keeping my husband trim and sexually frustrated.

The more I looked at the problem the less tractable it became. The fact was that Mady really did want to be mine in the same way that elliot is and she wanted to remain my maid. As with so many things in life the Bible offered a rather good concept which I eventually came across: a handmaiden. Technically, a handmaiden was a female slave who served a mistress but was often given to the husband to "wife". Not quite how our household works, but the sexual element of the handmaiden's duties seems to fit. While I didn't much like the "slavery" element, the idea of a handmaiden can also be looked at in status terms where I, as the Lady of the House, have the social standing of a wife and member of a community, whereas my handmaiden's status is entirely within my gift.

The beauty of this solution is that the Biblical handmaidens, Hagar, Zilpah and Bilhah, were all given by their mistresses to their mistress's husbands to "wife". Now, leaving aside Miss Atwood's distopian tale, the fact is that taking Mady as my handmaiden as well as my maid would mean she would be giving me formal control over her breeding - whether I choose to have elliot cover her (unlikely) or find a suitable, I suspect older, man whom she might marry - which seemed to appeal to her.

So we sat in the shade by the beach after Mady had done her lengths and had a soft white towel around her pretty shoulders. I was sitting in a canvass director's chair elliot had carried down to the beach along with our picnic, umbrella and blanket in his dog cart.

"I have made my decision Mady." I said quite formally. "We will change your vows. You will become my handmaiden at home, when we travel or are away from the village, you will be my companion. You will still, of course, remain in service as my maid, but your duties will be extended. When you have completed your own book you will write a book for me. Instead of being able to choose your own clothing when you are off duty you will dress as a young lady of this house. You will attend me unless and until dismissed. You will also be bred when I decide who will be fathering your children. Which will not be for a few years. Which brings me to a rather strict requirement which you will have to accept as my handmaiden."

"Yes ma'am." said Mady looking up at me.

"As my handmaiden you will no longer have vaginal, penetrative sex. Of any sort." I said having thought about this for some time. "You will, of course, be used anally and orally on the rare occasions elliot is allowed to be frisky; but we will be saving your pussy until I decide to breed you."

"Yes ma'am." said Mady.

"So, before you take your vows I will have your labia pierced and rings inserted. I would think four or five rings on either side should be sufficient. When you have healed, which I am told will take a couple of months, my jeweller will have finished a pretty white gold chain and a diamond set padlock. We will lock you up after your vows."

"Oh yes ma'am. Thank you ma'am." said Mady gasping a little.

"And while the piercer is working we'll have your clit hood done as well. Normally I will leave that free of your chastity. I want you unpenetrated rather than unpleasured. And I know elliot is very skilled."

"He is ma'am. Very." said Mady.

"Well there is no harm in him practicing on my handmaiden is there." I said. "Especially if she is wearing her pretty rings and lock."

"No ma'am, no harm at all. Actually, I think practice makes perfect and he is getting pretty close to perfect."

"He is, but I am sure we can make him even better."

We left it at that. Mady was smiling the quiet smile of a woman who knew her place.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:



You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.








You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.

Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid
Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman 
Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband
Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE








Thursday, 15 December 2016

And Suddenly It's Christmas

Yes, we have been remiss on the blogging front and, honestly, so much has happened in my little family that it will take several posts to cover our evolutions.

Part of my role as head of our household is to balance elliot's need for discipline and submission against my own particular tastes. Which had been relatively easy because he long ago accepted the fact that just as there is only one sexuality which matters at our house, mine, there is also only one decision maker, me. As long as he remembers his position everything goes smoothly.

To remind him of his place I put him in chastity a year and a half ago. His little cock cage cost all of $20 and has been worth every penny. While I started out locking him up a couple of days or a week at a time, he soon grew used to being denied any sensation at all in his little cock and I decided that being locked up needed to be his normal state. Over the summer, while I thought about releasing him because the heat was uncomfortable, the level of control the cock cage afforded meant I decided to keep him locked up. I have a key and Mady has a key. We very rarely use them.

Quite honestly, I can't imagine a dominant wife not keeping her husband locked up pretty much all the time. For sexual pleasure a girl has vibes, her sweet little maid's tongue and, of course, elliot's remarkably proficient tongue. From time to time I like to have a few strokes from his always hard little cock and it is very easy to unlock him before I take my pleasure and then lock him back up. elliot knows he will be giving me strokes when he sees the bucket of ice water I have Mady put beside my bed. I enjoy the feeling of his little cock all hard and urgent in me but it has been months since I let him actually come in me. No, when I am getting close I have him climb down off the bed and put his hard little cock and his now nicely stretched balls with their stainless steel stretching rings into the ice water to shrink his erection while I am coming. Then it is back in his cage. It is terribly frustrating but it keeps his attention focused where it should be, on my pleasure and his obedience.

I have to admit I was a bit sceptical about the ball stretching weights. Quite honestly I didn't care whether his testicles hung low or high. But I am now a complete convert. Ball stretchers, which you can get from Amazon believe it or not, come in various sizes. I started elliot out with a single, 4.5 ounce, 10mm x 30mm ring. Again, I thought I would have him wear it for a few days. But it turns out that I love the look and, perhaps most importantly, the stretcher works incredibly well with his cock cage. With the stretcher on there is simply no way the cage will come off without my key.

Of course, being more than a little mischievous, I decided that if he could accept 4.5 ounces, another ring of the same weight could not hurt and Mady tightened the hex screw on elliot's second ring at the beginning of August. As a little celebration, I let elliot, once the ring was in place, service Mady. (That's what she like to call it when elliot is allowed to penetrate her. Because of all the training - both shoulder riding and dog cart pulling, she tells me she like to think of elliot as a stallion put out to stud. When I pointed out that this would put her in the position of a "mare" being covered, she smiled and said, "Or a very naughty girl." Mady has a delightfully dirty mind.)

Then, a few weeks ago, I bought a new 20mm x 30mm 9.7 ounce ring. The wonderful thing about these ball stretching rings is that they stack perfectly. Having over a pound of weight on his balls is a bit uncomfortable for elliot just now. He will get used to it but, for the moment, I only have him wear all his rings for church and when we have guests. Between his cock cage and his rings he has quite a package under his nice wool trousers. And, in case you are wondering, his scrotum has indeed stretched.

Christmas is a wonderful time to introduce a man to chastity. A nice cock cage under the "adult" tree is a great way for a dominant wife to make sure her husband know just where he stands going into the New Year. And, with or without a chastity cage, a man who has a gentle but noticeable pressure on his balls will remember exactly who has her ring where it really counts. Quite honestly, I don't know why I didn't put elliot into chastity and stretch his balls long ago.

As I said to Mady, "Men really do prefer doing what they are told, being disciplined and never being allowed to initiate intimacy. It frees up their brain to do their jobs, make money and love the woman who owns them." Mady, of course, agrees. We didn't ask elliot.

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If you are thinking of taking control of your marriage or asking your wife to put you in your place, you may want to read a few of our books or buy a cock cage or ball stretching weights:

















You can order a cock cage for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recomend starting with a relatively inexpensive silicone cage for fit and obedience training. Order here.






You can order ball stretcher for your husband or yourself at Amazon. I recommend starting with a fairly light stretcher. Make sure you measure the ball sack circumference. You want the stretcher to fit snugly just above the testicles. Order here.

Books you might like:
The Art of the Maid
Mady's Favourite Book
Dominant Woman 
Feminine Superiority in Art
Obedient Husband
Effortless Female Superiority in a Loving Marriage
See all our books at my Amazon Author Page here Remember Amazon Prime Customers and Books Unlimited Customers can down load all my books FREE



Monday, 4 July 2016

A New Book

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We have been busy and, I'm afraid, still are.

I have just put out a new book called Modern Mistress: Leading the Luxury Life You Deserve. Like my earlier books on escorting there will, I suspect, be some question as to how a dominant wife could come to write about mistresses in the old fashioned sense of that term.

The answer is very much that I see a few years as a kept woman as an extremely empowering, worthwhile experience for a girl in her twenties. The fact is that is takes experience to learn how best to, on the one hand, be the sole object of a man's desire, and on the other to be in charge.

Every successful mistress is, at root, in charge of her patron. Right from the point where she negotiates her allowance and makes it clear that gifts, on top of her basic allowance are a given, she is controlling him. And she is learning the great secret which dominant wives have always known: even the most alpha man, the captain of industry, the innovator, the entrepreneur wants and needs a degree of feminine control.

Becoming a mistress when a girl is young allows her to maximize the advantages of youth while learning the skills which will ensure her marriage is both very happy and very much at her command.

If you listen to happy husbands they almost always defer to their wives. Of course only a very few couples take the next step and put the wife in her proper place at the head of the household. And even fewer will accept the need for a husband to be chaste and subject to corporal punishment. This is because very few wives have had the essential experience of being a mistress.

As I said to Mady when I gave her the promotion to companion, "Now is the time for you to really learn. Before you are married. Before you have the responsibilities of a wife. Because now you can enjoy elliot as he is best enjoyed. Submissive, obedient, chaste and great good fun."

Enjoy the book.

Friday, 27 May 2016

On Responsibility

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A few days ago my maid Mady and I discussed her vows and she said something rather interesting but also disturbing,

"Yes ma'am. I know that. But I wondered if you might consider a more permanent oath. I have so enjoyed this past year. All of it. And I think you are probably right about how the world has gone wrong in so many ways. I was just hoping that you might consider a different, more permanent promise. Then you could pick my husband and have me bred. Or you could have elliot breed me if you would prefer." said Mady blushing.

"Really Mady? You would like me to pick your husband for you?"

"Yes ma'am. When you are ready to have me bred." said Mady. (a conversation with my maid)
I was struck with her language "When you are ready to have me bred."

I looked around on the internet and discovered, frankly to my dismay, that there is a whole genre of "breeding" porn. Who knew? I flipped through a bit of it and, while it is not at all my thing, I could see how it might appeal to a young woman not entirely sure of what she wanted for herself. However, to turn the decision over to me and, what's more, to suggest that I might want elliot to "bred" her was more than a little worrying. Before making any decisions I thought I would have a chat with Mady who I rang for.

"Yes ma'am," she said with her now entirely natural curtsy as she entered the room.

"I have been thinking about your request the other day. Quite seriously I might add. As you know, elliot and I are very fond of you and I want to make the best decision I can for all of us." I said.

"Yes ma'am, that was what I was hoping for." said Mady looking rather demure in her sheer top with her nipples hardening in her quarter cup bra. It was not the chill, it was, I think, the excitement of her own complete submission.

"We quite understand your desire to obey and be directed. And you are certainly a wonderful maid and a dear companion. Plus you keep elliot wonderfully interested which is a huge bonus for us all. But what is all this about "being bred". You are not a horse or a dog, girl, You are an intelligent, pretty young woman who, if I have anything to do with it, will marry from this house and be in charge of her own."

"Thank you ma'am. that's what I wanted to. But I also thought that you would understand if I gave you my complete submission which meant allowing you to bred me if that is what you think is best." Mady said obviously having thought about it.

"Well, Mady in a few years I may introduce you to a man you are to marry. But, like most things which women do, you will have to decide if he is what you are looking for. As for breeding: you are going to have to chose whether or not you have children and with whom. But, again, not for a few years." I said this gently knowing that Mady would be disappointed.

"Yes, ma'am...But I thought." said Mady her lower lip quivering.

"That's just it Mady, you thought. You are not a horse or a dog or a slave. You are a thinking young woman who is writing a book, learning to be a wonderful and valuable servant, and, most importantly, learning to lead."

"May I speak frankly ma'am?" she asked.

"Of course Mady."

"I asked you to consider accepting a more fundamental vow from me. I am not quite sure what it would be but something which I would acknowledge without a time limit. Where I would become more than your maid and more like a possession." Mady said this as if it was the most normal thing in the world. "I feel so safe, so loved, here. I realized I need that and I need to know it will last."

"I understand Mady. But, honestly, it is a big "ask". I have never liked the idea of "slaves" whether in the context of "play" or in any sort of real life situation. But I have thought about it and I've done more than a little research. It is a difficult sort of a question because what it seems to me you are looking for at one point was very common. It was the basis of your first vows.

You are now, for a limited period of time, my bondswoman. It is an old usage and not likely to be enforced in a court of law; but you are my indentured servant."

"Yes, ma'am. I understand that." said Mady.

"To go beyond this gets us into very, if you will excuse the expression, feudal territory. I am having elliot research it now. The problem is that we do not live in a feudal world. Which is why I have postponed your renewal of vows. We'll come up with something which will let you make your submission and become a permanent...and there is the problem Mady. A permanent what? In any case, you may go. But I want no more talk of your being bred. When the time comes I am quite certain that the man you decide to marry will be absolutely delighted to cover you when you are on heat assuming you let him out of his cage."

"Yes ma'am. Thank you ma'am." said Mady as she curtsied and left the room.

Feudalism, matriarchy, mistress and servant: it all seems a rather long way from the moment I decided to take charge of my marriage. But it also seems to make a lot of sense. Mady has found a terrific peace and contentment in her service to me. She understands her duties and her position and, perhaps most importantly, for the first time in her life has a degree of steady, consistent, discipline. Plus, and it is no small thing, she also has a good deal of authority to deal with elliot in her own right.

In many ways Mady is like a stray kitten who has found a home. Wonderfully content but a bit worried she might somehow lose that home. I need to reassure her.  







Wednesday, 18 May 2016

A Locked Man is a Happy Man

The weather has cooled down again and I have changed my mind about letting elliot out of his chastity cage. Much as I enjoyed my "ride" the other day, the fact of the matter is that elliot's little cock out of its cage is far too distracting for elliot.

As I have remarked to Mady my maid, men are very simple creatures. Creatures of impulse. While I am quite certain that elliot would never ejaculate without my permission, I noticed him touching himself several times when he was out of his cage and thought I was not looking. Plus, because it has been several weeks since he was last allowed to come, he kept having unwanted erections. Even when Mady was exercising him, his little cock would be hard as a rock.

The best thing about his chasitity cage is it desensitizes his cock. Not only does it physically prevent his unwanted (at least by me) erections, it also also isolates his little penis from the stimulations men find so distracting. That, in turn, means that elliot is more productive at work and far more attentive to my needs.

Being in his cage also makes him a much more obedient and considerate lover. Yesterday afternoon, after he had been locked up, I took him upstairs for a few minutes of oral pleasure after lunch. He knows I never want his cock in the afternoon but, that message is made all the more clear when he is in his cage. I have to admit I thoroughly enjoy being able to lie back on my bed, slip off my panties and have a lovely man expertly lick and suck my pussy until I send him to his corner while I finish. Over the years I have become quite private about my own orgasms. I don't mind if he hears my sighs give way to moans; but I don't want him watching. And, of course, unless I unlock him before he starts, he knows his only focus is to be my pleasure. Which he is very, very good at. All the more so because he knows that my pleasure is his most basic duty as my submissive husband.

Philosophically, I am inclined to think the world would be a much better place if men had their desires completely curbed and controlled by the women they love. There is no reason a man needs to come more than a few times a year. In fact, honestly, really well-controlled male sexuality is a hugely creative force. Since elliot has been caged he has been much more productive and has managed to keep me more than sexually satisfied. Plus, of course, he has been required to service Mady. Of course he is a bit crazed with sexual frustration; but that means he works harder and is much more obedient and docile.

I may yet let him out of his little cock cage in the heat of the summer. After all, I want him disciplined not uncomfortable; but, then again, I may not. What I may do is swap his current soft silicon cage for a metal chastity cage to match his ball stretcher. I suspect that would be cooler, if a little more obvious in swimming trunks.

So much to think about. But at least elliot's little cock is out of the way.