Teasing

While it is perfectly open to a dominant wife to simply lock her husband in his chastity cage and forget his cock and his desires, where is the fun in that?

There are many possible objectives in keeping your husband chaste. With younger men in particular, simply exercising control over their sexuality will tend to make them more attentive and, usually, more obedient. Good things in themselves. However, as chastity goes on for a while, a month or two, a well-trained husband will realize that he is never getting out of his cage except when you decide, for your own reasons, to let him out.

I had been training elliot for years before I decided to put his cock in a cage and, even then, I was not sure I had made the right decision. Here's the problem: because he was already chaste on the honour system, the cage might have drawn too much attention to his cock. Now, more or less by fluke, I ordered a soft silicone cage which turns out to have a numbing, deadening effect on his actual cock. elliot tells me that  wearing his cock cage is, after a day or two of adjustment, like having his cock isolated from the regular stimulations of day to day life. Leave aside the fact his erections are mildly uncomfortable, the fact is that he simply does not get the physical sensations he had been used to since puberty.

I have upped his micro dose of Viagra  which certainly keeps him at the ready; but I also realized that he needed a good deal of teasing if he was going to remain in that lovely state of wistful longing which I enjoy. Teasing is great fun and even more fun now that we have a pretty young maid.

While I always dress demurely, now that Fall is here, I am back to wearing pretty stockings and either a lacy, but firm garterbelt or a nice firm girdle. Stocking tops are a constant thrill for elliot and I make a point of flashing mine often. Similarily, like most men, elliot cannot get enough of my breasts and now Mady's. Once in a while, I'll leave a couple of buttons undone on a blouse so he can see my pretty bra. Or I will dispense with my bra altogether and let him enjoy my often erect nipples.

Mady's day uniform offers ample opportunity for her stocking tops to be seen and, from time to time, I will instruct her to dispense with her bra for elliot's further teasing. Her evening uniforms are all designed to be worn with cupless corsetry or quarter cup shelf bras so her nipples are unconstrained as she serves cocktails or dinner. And, here again, I will occasionally instruct her to wear one of the more revealing uniforms of an evening. elliot knows that he may look but must not touch without express invitation or instruction.

Of course, corseting Mady each evening - and, apparently, providing oral attentions several times a week, keeps elliot on edge. And, as the days shorten and the nights grow colder, I find that I have the dear man bring me to my edge before being sent to his corner, far more often.

And, of course, there are the delights of playing with his nipples which are, after even a week or two in chastity, enormously sensitive. A few caresses and a good, sharp, pinch leaves his adorable little nipples nearly as hard as his caged cock.

Mady has taken to giving him a little spanking almost every day after he's dressed her. This is in addition to her now regular conditioning canings. She is, I am delighted to say, discovering the joys of feminine superiority in private life.

The ultimate tease, of course, is actually letting elliot out of his little cage and giving him a set number of strokes in my pussy before locking him back up. It is a lovely sensation to have his steel hard little cock  slide into me a dozen times and then pushing down on his hips and sending him to his corner to unstiffen as I bring myself to orgasm. I come and he's locked back in his cage. He hates it. but loves it at the same time. Mady has yet to ask for the key though she is very interested in the idea of strokes. I think she wants to be entirely sure elliot will obey her as completely as he obeys me before taking this next step. Which I think is an excellent idea.

So, my dear, submissive husband, locked tight in his little cage, cannot complain of any sort of neglect. Quite the contrary. He is having  altogether too much feminine attention without the slightest chance to relieve his sexual tension.

Just as it should be.

Further Advice on Male Chastity

In position

My last post on running a female led marriage and keeping one's husband chaste seems to have been well received. However, a couple of people have asked about the discomfort caused by my sweet husband's cock cage.

I am sure elliot would have a different perspective but his views are not really a consideration. Which is really the point. A soft silicone chastity device - like any other non-belt chastity device - is largely symbolic. The mild discomfort which it may cause from time to time is actually a feature rather than a bug. With proper hygine elliot's device can be worn continuosly for weeks at a time.

With a young maid around the house I prefer elliot to be locked up at all times. If, for some reason, I want his little cock, or Mady does, it is easy enough to unlock him. He spent much of the summer uncaged and I don't think it did him any harm. But it did not do him any good either. Locking him back up for the Fall and Winter has actually improved his attitude.

The real point of keeping a husband in chastity is to remind him that he has no sexual rights whatsoever. I think elliot had accepted that before I locked him up but the cage makes this express rather than implicit.

The one concern I had in locking elliot in his chastity cage was that it was drawing a bit too much attention to his cock. As it happens, once he is locked in, after a couple of days his little cock is largely isolated and cushioned from any physical stimulation. While he tells me he occassionally has a pinching situation when the skin works its way into the device and is squeezed, his cock itself is padded and unable to recieve much by way of external sensation.

Of course, when he gets hard, either because Mady or I tease him or in the early morning when most healthy men have errections, he experiences quite a lot of discomfort. But relative to a good whipping, this discomfort is minimal and he bears it without complaint.

The key thing is he knows that his cock is locked up because I want it locked up. I want him to be devoid of sensation between his legs, without the distractions a cock seems to carry for men. And, of course, I want him to be looking to me for any sort of sexual relief.

I don't think it does ay good to lock up a man's cock for a day or even a weekend. If a dominant wife decides to lock down her husband's cock, after a breaking in period, locked should be his default state. If he knows that he is going to be locked and stay locked, it leaves him free to concentrate on obeying, and from time to time, pleasing his wife.

Which is how it should be.