Do submissive husbands need maintenance?

Another question I am asked a lot:

Do submissive husbands need maintenance?

In some of the domwife literature wives routinely spank or whip their husbands once a week or so just to remind them of their place. At the beginning of an FLR this might make some sense and the expression, "Spare the rod, spoil the husband." is certainly true. The trouble is that "routine" can quickly become pretty boring.

There is no question that husbands do need to be reminded of their place, their submission and the fact that they have surrendered to their wives. A routine spanking is a good reminder but it is important to "mix it up" a bit. A man who knows that of a Saturday evening he will be put through his paces before kneeling to orally pleasure his wife is a happy man. Just how he is put through those paces is where a dominant wife needs to use her imagination.

A good, brisk hair brushing is always an excellent reminder for a husband. Having a "special" hair brush, preferably wooden and fairly heavy which you can leave out on the dresser on "maintenance days" will create the anticipation which is so important for a submissive's focus.

There is, of course, much debate as to which particular hairbrush to use. Oval or square? In one sense it does not matter because the real event is not the spanking itself but rather the fact your husband is prepared to accept that he has to pull down his pants and lie across your lap. However, being able to pick the oval for more intensity or the square for an overall warming is bound to keep your husband guessing as to his fate. Best of all, unlike many of the other dominant wife tools, you can leave a hairbrush lying around the house with no one the wiser.

Thinking beyond the quick spanking and you are done for the week scenario - and frankly, every dominant wife should be thinking about this - what can a wife do to remind her husband of his place. Of course you can have him do the household chores - men are actually quite capable of vacuuming, doing the laundry, cleaning the toilet and dusting generally. However, these days, many men see that as just part of a marriage between equals. Not quite the message you want.

Some dominant wives will dress their husbands in elaborate maids outfits
when it is time for those husbands to get the housework done. Which, while it is great for reminding him of his place, can get in the way of actually getting the housework done to your satisfaction. Elaborate satin maid's outfits with clever corseting and high heels might be fun but it isn't very practical.

On the other hand, dressing your husband in a more practical, feminine outfit as he undertakes traditionally female tasks can be an excellent bit of humiliation. But what to have him wear? While a pretty pink set of shorts and cami top is great when he is rinsing out your hand washing or dusting your make-up table - and so very sexy, especially if he is in his cock cage - you may want a bit more coverage when you have him vacuuming or running loads of laundry. A simple, cheap, full coverage dress with the white cuffs and collar of a ladies maid can be a practical solution for your husband's attire when he is doing his housework.

Now, you want him working, not primping which means making sure his under fashions are nothing exciting. A good pair of high waisted control panties in plain beige will give his hips a little feminine shape and keep his cock - caged or uncaged - out of the way.  On top? Well a nice padded sports bra, in beige again, will fill out the bodice without getting in the way of his work. If you want him a bit fuller on top, a couple of ziplock bags filled with a bit of warm water will add a bit of shape to his bra. (Yes you can buy him breast forms but, honestly, until you have decided what size he should be when he's doing the housework, that is more of an investment than you really need to make.)

A good deal of reminding him of his place is about not having to tell him to do things but rather putting him into a position where he knows what he is supposed to do. If he sees his little shorts and cami outfit laid out, he knows he will be doing your hand washing and dusting, polishing, and generally cleaning your vanity, your bathroom and such like. Dress and functional underwear means an hour or three of housework. You can pin his list to the sleeve.

Critically, as soon as he sees one of his housework outfits laid out he knows that, until he has completed whatever tasks you've set, he'll be in his pretty outfit.

I've talked about cock cages more than enough. They are certainly a very desirable element to a FLR and a man whose cock is locked up is reminded pretty much every minute that his wife is very much in charge. But a cock cage is, ideally, something of a constant in a wife led marriage. A baseline as it were. What if you want to give him another reminder which is not so "every day"?

I will be writing about the pleasures of pegging in another post but, in anticipation of that, I have to say one of the most satisfactory toys I have ever bought for elliot's continued training is a remote controlled, vibrating, butt plug/prostate massager. elliot knows he will be dribbling when he see this on his dressing table and Mady arrives with a bit of lube.

It takes a bit of work to get this all the way into elliots little hole but, once it is there it is not going anywhere. Then the fun begins. First off, once he gets used to it, elliot can walk around, do his work, take care of his chores and generally get on with his day. But, every once in a while I will turn the vibrations on. If I want elliot to dribble I leave it on a fairly low setting for ten or fifteen minutes. He'll make a mess in his cage. But you can also turn up the vibes which produces an entirely different sensation.

For a submissive husband, having a vibrating butt plug pushed up his bottom and then having to put on pretty, but functional under wear and a cute dress to get on with the house cleaning knowing that he's seen a hairbrush in a strategic location leaves no doubt as to his position. Which is perfect and just the way it should be.

Is it maintenance? Of a sort. But it is also a great deal of fun.