Portrait of a Marriage

I was watching a documentary last night about the marvelous Iris Apfel. While her style is not my style I enjoyed the sheer performance of the woman.

I also could not help but notice the position her beloved husband of 67 years had occupied in her life. She was a force of nature. Carl was, apparently, entirely content to follow in her wake. He photographed her, helped her run her business, arranged their hotels and homes.

Said Iris of Carl "I figured he was cool, and he was cuddly, and he cooked Chinese". Carl lived to be 100.

Understanding the dynamics of female led relationships can sometimes confuse people. There is an assumption that the male must be a bit dweeby to accept the primacy of his wife. In fact, an elegant, stylish woman wants an elegant, stylish man who, if she is the dominant partner, accepts his position willingly and gratefully.

I can keep elliot's little cock in its cage, have him wear panty girdles and a nighty to bed each night but I want him to be a man I can show off when I choose. I see no contradiction. That I keep him chaste most of the time does not diminish his sexual allure and the fact I whip him does not break his wonderful, male, spirit. When he reads in Church only I know that his cock is caged and that he has a teddy on under his sweater. He gives his submission to me and, unless I decide I want to reveal it, it is our private life.

On occassion I will humiliate elliot in public or humble him in private; but, what I love about elliot is that he accepts his humiliations and punishments without losing his personality. He is better behaved but never broken.

Just as I want him.

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#Elegant #Discipline

Every so often I go on a little hunt for interesting art to illustrate this blog with. I have a broad sense of what I am looking for. I like femdom art which is suggestive not explicit. I very nearly ruled out elliot's picture today but decided that it was a pretty good representation of what Mady had him do in order to become aroused.

I suspect my difficulty stems from the fact I don't see female domination as a particular "fetish"; rather it is one way for an elegant woman to organize the pleasures of a good marriage. As I have written before, the fact elliot is obedient and submissive is, to my mind, very much how I want my world to be. But I also want him all strong and alpha anywhere other than our home or when we are out as a couple. In return I make sure his needs are, if not taken care of, then rigorously controlled. His real need is to be surrounded with forbidden sexual pleasures so he stays on that delicious edge which make men so much more considerate and empathic.

I also make sure that he always has a beautiful, well dressed, polished woman to love and cherish. That he is not allowed to actually have me very often makes the tension all the more real and all the more effective. He stays locked up in his little cock cage but he watches as I dress and undress, he sees my pretty lingerie, my stockings, my panties. And, if he is very lucky, he catches a glimpse of my body; but just a glimpse because I am with the French women who never let their husbands see them fully naked.

So, grrrr, why can't I find drawings and photos of elegant women being worshiped by handsome, submissive, strong, obedient men? If you have some send them along.

Male Chastity and Discipline

I am in the middle of writing and compiling a book on male chastity based on my posts here and elliot's over at his blog. Reading through the old posts I am struck by how infrequently, since I caged elliot, I have had to discipline him.

Yes, of course he is still whipped regularly - if not by me then by our delightful and increasingly dominant maid Mady; but the fact is that a combination of earlier training, strict chastity and a more or less permanent cock cage had really improved elliot's behaviour.

Which leads me to the question: are men actually better behaved whan they have very little hope of sexual activity? I've read various accounts of men who are in chastity worshiping their wives in the hope of being allowed some sexual relief. But that seems very instrumental. What happens to men when you take that hope away almost entirely?

Men are, as I often point out, funny creatures. They spend far too much of their time thinking about sex. If you, as a strict and loving wife, take sex largely out of the equation - save your own pleasure of course - my sense is that, after a period of adjustment, they will rechannel all that sexual energy into more productive uses.

Which is not to say that you want to remove sexual excitement. After all, you have to have energy to rechannel. (Mady's perky little nipples under her sheer day blouses seem to be doing an excellent job.) But, by keeping a man in a constant state of hopeless sexual frustration and by removing any sexual agency, I think many wives might find that their husbands are far more ready to accept the direction they so desperately need without the necessity of frequent whippings.

In any event, that is my plan for 2016.

A bit of a Stretch

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Pony Cart - Is this what Mady has in mind?

I wonder if a little pony cart for elliot to pull is what Mady has in mind for his exercise program? Amusingly, like just about everything else in the world, you can get a pony cart from Amazon and have it shipped to your door.

I'll have to discuss this with my mischevious maid.

Quite a Year

A little later today I will be releasing my lovely elliot from his cock cage. Still later, when I have dressed for cocktails and New Year's celebrations I will be giving him more than his regular dose of Viagra. I am not entirely sure what I want to do to celebrate the New Year but it is always nice to have elliot at the ready. Later he will be locked in his steel cock cage for the first time and, for extra fun, I will be attaching the first of his scrotum weights to see how he adjusts. It is quite light weight so it should not be too uncomfortable. But he will positively clank if he is not wearing his girdle. (Which might be fun when he reads the Lesson in Church on Sunday.)

There were two huge events in our lives this year. First, I made the decision that elliot would be in a cock cage by default. While I let him out for much of the summer the fact is that he was caged for at least 300 of the last 365 days.

I have written more than I thought I would about the Gift of Male Chastity and, I suspect, elliot and I may publish a book on the subject in the early New Year. In retrospect, other than taking on the leadership of our marriage as a whole, putting elliot in chastity is one of the best decisions I have ever made. I am quite serious when I say that any dominant wife should consider the benefits of taking full charge of her husband's sexuality. And, as I know many submissive husbands and unpartnered submissive males read this site, I strongly suggest that you ask your wives to put you in a chastity cage - or place yourself in a cage - as soon as possible. Now that good silicone cock cages cost as little as $25.00 from Amazon it is a small price for a potentially life changing device.

The second huge event was obviously the arrival of Mady, my maid. What a delightful girl. She has become part of our family by contract, initiation and sacred oath. But, as important as all that, Mady is the perfect servant. She works hard, is, mostly, obedient and understands our Female Led Marriage. As I write she is supervising ellot's exercise which, I suspect, is rather more fun for her than it is for him.

Best of all, Mady seems able to instinctively switch from her role as my maid, to her role as our maid and on to her position as female and therefore elliot's sexual superior without any loss of her own servanthood. This is quite a feat for such a young woman. She will make a lucky man a very good wife someday, but not too soon.

I am so looking forward to the New Year and wish all my readers a grand 2016.

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The Art of the Maid Dominant Woman  Feminine Superiority in Art Obedient Husband  Female Led Marriage for Loving Couples

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Man in Training

I just read my darling elliot's account of his first exercise session with my maid Mady. What a clever girl. Poor elliot.

I had never really thought about the idea of riding a man. Not really my thing but I like the sounds of a little cart for him to pull as he gets into better shape. In any case, I love Mady taking the bull by the horns so to speak. elliot will be the fittest he's been in years.

I wonder if she needs reins or a saddle? And where can we get a little cart? I'll let Mady think about all of that.

[And, no, this is not Mady or elliot but I think it is an adorable picture.]