Maid for a Year

Mady brought me my morning tea in bed as I require. elliot was standing in his morning corner, hands behind his back, cock locked in his cage and his ball stretcher keeping its firm but gentle pressure on his scrotum (what a funny word.)

I don't require Mady to be in uniform in the mornings. Or, more accurately, I want her dressed appropriately for whatever her morning work assignment happens to be. Most days she really has only a bit of light dusting and tidying and so can wear something sheer and pretty. I enjoy Mady's pert little breasts displayed so well in her required quarter cup bra under a thin cotton or linen top. This winter I bought her a couple of very sheer cashmere sweaters which, delightfully, had the effect of keeping her nipples in an almost constant state of erection. Something about the weave.

Mady has lovely, long legs but, in the mornings, I prefer her to wear quite sheer, longish, peasant skirts so elliot only catches glimpses. But the skirts allow my sweet maid to show off her pretty curtsy and the full panties I have her wear. As I know elliot will, soon enough, be standing in his corner in Mady's quarters, I like her to wear panties which have light control and a lovely pure cotton gusset. Mady is a wonderfully moist girl and a morning's light house work ensures elliot will be in for a treat when he goes to her quarters to be exercised or to dress her for service.

"Mady" I said as I sipped my tea, "You realize that you have been with us for a year."

"Yes ma'am. I hope my service has been satisfactory." she said standing by my bedside.

"Very satisfactory Mady." I said. I reached up and, through her blouse, began to play with her nipple. "Have you enjoyed your service?"

"Very much so ma'am. You have been so kind and, at the same time, firm." said Mady very subtly pushing her nipple a little closer. I began to flick it into erection. I could see Mady tensing knowing that when her little pink nipple was hard it would be pinched, hard, between the nails of my thumb and middle finger.

"And you Mady," I said beginning to pinch her hard little pink raisin, "Seem to have fit right into our household."

"Thank you ma'am."

I increased the pressure on her nipple.

"I think it might be time to renew your vows Mady. Now that you know exactly what is expected of you." I said. "I know elliot would love the opportunity to have all three of your holes again. And I certainly would enjoy watching you make you submission."

"Oh yes ma'am. It has been so long since you had me penetrated."

"It has Mady. So I think you should exercise elliot a little lightly the next couple of days and we'll up his dose of Viagra. Have him lick you to completion a couple of times between now and the weekend so your hormones are flowing and we'll renew your submission in the next few days."

"Yes ma'am." Mady panted out enduring the now substantial pressure on her nipple. "Thank you ma'am."

"Excellent Mady." I said releasing her swollen nipple. "Look at that silly man. Just listening to us is making him hard in his cage. I wonder if I will let him come in you. I'll have to think about that. Now on with your day girl."

Mady dropped a very low curtsy and left my bedroom. elliot remained in his corner.

"So do you want to squirt up Mady's pretty little backdoor you silly man?" I asked with a laugh. Of course he did. That was the delight of Mady, she was a constant tease and provocation for my wonderful husband. "Go take a cold shower. Five minutes should quell your erection and let you get to work."

As always, elliot did what he was told.

From Mistress to Head of Household

I am busily writing away on my mistress book - and, by the way, in my view every young girl should take a year or two as an older man's mistress.

[Regardless of whether she is determined to be a wife or have a business career or, like Mady, enter service, a couple of years after college being "kept" will teach a girl a great deal about the world, men, luxury, negotiation and the pleasures of the bedroom. While escorting at the higher end is always an alternative for an elegant women (and I have written a delightfully long book about the ins and outs of escorting as well, Avails: Escorting for the Elegant Woman), becoming a mistress provides many of the benefits of escorting with none of the potential downsides.]

As I write I have been reflecting on how my own life has shifted through the pleasures of being kept in my twenties to wifehood in my thirties and now head of my own household. I very much doubt I could enjoy my position as much without having first learned how to tease, seduce and pleasure a man in my years as a mistress to three rather different men.

The critical thing I realized back in my twenties is that I could not possibly be with any man who I did not deeply admire and respect. And yes, I know that as I write this the man I love has his cock in a cage I have the key to, is wearing a scrotum stretcher whose weight I will increase this month, and is being exercised by our maid who he is required to obey and to pleasure at her command. Which all seems contradictory until you realize that I fell in love with elliot precisely because - though I didn't know it at the time - he has the strength of character to accept his essentially submissive nature.

Two of the men who kept me in my twenties were very nice, quite wealthy gentlemen who, from all exterior appearances were alpha males. They ran their companies, they had busy lives, they were quite dominant in the bedroom and in public. A mistress, unlike an escort, gets to know her patron very, very well. As I grew to knew these two men I realized that, in fact, they were highly successful fakes. Sure, they had the appearance of leadership but, in fact, were essentially worried that somehow they were going to be "found out". Which meant that they never really relaxed, never were comfortable in their skins. Their lives were, essentially, performances.

The third and last man was very much the real thing. Oddly, of the three, he was the least conventionally successful. He could afford to keep me but he actually noticed the few thousand a month keeping a mistress requires. He was not conventionally dominant, a bit the opposite actually. He was the first man I ever caned for example. But what was striking was that none of what he did, what he wanted or who he was involved any performance at all.

A good mistress relationship can last for years but two or three is more typical. Men like variety. (Mady does serve many purposes doesn't she.) My last relationship with this wonderful man lasted a little over two and we are still, distantly, in touch. What he taught me was the incredible value of being exactly who you are and doing what you want to do rather than what other people might expect you to do.

When I was considering marriage I was looking for a man who, while younger, would have the same integrity my final patron had. I met elliot and, I have to admit, I really put him through the wringer. I am an old fashioned girl. I knew I would only marry once. Get it wrong and I would have to live with the consequences.

I didn't get it wrong. We did spend a few years trying to live a marriage which was contrary to both our natures - elliot is very capable of disciplining a young girl or a young wife but it is not his natural role. We sorted it out.

elliot is at his most effective when taken firmly in hand. He is my husband but in name only. His position is much more wifely in the old sense of that term. He does what he is told. He is sexually compliant and rarely allowed to enjoy his own pleasure. He is subject to very strict discipline and is whipped for disobedience, talking back, or even taking a disrespectful tone. Most of all, in our marriage, he is the junior, subservient partner.

I am the Head of our Household and elliot obeys me without demur. Because that is who he is. Of course I remind him of his place from time to time but it is actually unnecessary; elliot is at his most alpha accepting his corrections and pleasuring me without any expectation of reward.

Now he really is the man that I love.

Wonderfully Busy

As elliot points out on his blog we have been blissfully busy. I am in the midst of writing a couple of books - one on Mistress Style (in the old sense of mistress as a woman kept by a wealthy man) and another which will be a bit of a surprise. elliot has a lot of work as well as his regular exercise under - in the most literal sense - Mady's strict supervision.

One nice dominant wife wrote to ask how the ball stretcher I imposed on elliot has been working out. I can report two things...First, his little sack has certainly stretched. So much so that Mady and I are getting him a second, longer and heavier ring for his birthday which is coming up. This is a longer and heavier ring and will take the weight on his testicles from 4.3 ounces to a full nine ounces. I plan to have him wear it for several months and then add back his current stretcher when his sack is long enough to accommodate both. Second, unlike the cock cage, the stretcher causes a constant pressure. Not pain apparently, just a degree of sensation. I like that.

We'll both try to write more regularly as we finish up our projects. Spring is in the air and watching Mady exercise elliot naked except for his panties is a delightful distraction. The little minx has taken to removing her panties when she has him piggy back her around the property so my darling elliot can feel her moist, open pussy on the back of his neck. I can see his little cock straining inside his panties and his cage. Just as it should be.

Remote Control

I have been having a little fun with a couple of men on Facebook. Each has decided to experiment with male chastity and obedience albeit at a distance.

My own evolution as a dominant woman began back when elliot and I were first moving into our own female led marriage. I am not at all sure that I am a natural dominant - it turns out that my maid Mady is much closer to that temperament - but over the past years I have reached the conclusion that while I may not be a natural dominant, most men, given the chance, are remarkably submissive.

Now I wanted to try out that theory. Where to find such men? We live in a Facebook world so....

I put a very simple post up on a Facebook group promising bratty young ladies for submissive men. I am certainly not in the least bit bratty nor am I terribly young but I put up this ad:

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Who wants to be locked up?

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You can see it here.

I was not sure what to expect and I received around 20 responses.

My general theory was that if I was going to enforce chastity at a distance I wanted to deal with men who genuinely wanted the experience, were somewhat articulate and were willing to send me gifts of tribute for the privilege. Of the twenty or so responses three have met my criteria. I have not set any particular dollar amount for gifts or tribute: I actually want to see what my bois think the experience is worth.

So far the men I have been training have had their own cock cages which is useful. Obviously they have to lock themselves in but, realistically, unless I have Mady do that, elliot always has to place the cock cage on himself. I click the lock closed and that is the extent of my involvement. One of my online trainees was a bit sceptical that I could manage to control his keys at a distance. A coffee can, water and a freezer cured him of that.

My regular readers know that I am a great proponent of the mindfulness spending time naked in a corner gives a man and my online bois are enjoying plenty of mindfulness training. I am also convinced that a submissive male needs incentives. Each of my online trainees will, if they are very good, eventually have a pair of my panties to enjoy in their corner.

Punishment? A couple of minutes of total cock and ball immersion in ice water is an excellent corrective.

However, as I expected, what my online bois really enjoy is the opportunity to serve a demanding, but amusing, woman in a way they have only dreamed of. A few months online training and, I suspect, they will be ready to accept the superiority of a real life dominant wife or girlfriend. In a sense, like many men, they are ready right now but they have to understand and accept their own need for submission before they will have the courage to find the woman they want and need.

Tease

If you decide to lock your husband in a cock cage as I have done you need to remember that his humiliation will be all the more complete and his obedience more ingrained if you remind him of his position.

As elliot relates at his blog, this morning I was in the mood for a little penetrative pleasure before I enjoyed myself. If there is one thing I can count on it is that first thing in the morning elliot's small, but perfectly adequate, cock will be ready. More than ready really.

It was delightful to unlock him, watch his cock spring to attention and have him lie with his hands behind his back while I enjoyed the delightful feeling of having a cock in me. elliot knows that he is allowed to rise to meet my thrusts but he is not allowed to thrust on his own. We call these strokes and I like to give them to him ten at a time. I left his ball stretcher on as I like the look of the stainless steel cuff. He's been locked up for a few days so, not wanting him to come, I gave him twenty strokes and sent him to his corner with my moist panties while I finished what I had started. Bliss.

All the more so because, unless I pinch his nipples, elliot knows he is not allowed to come. As I played with myself I could see his rather firm butt cheeks clenching as his little cock tried for relief. He knows he is not allowed to touch himself so there was no chance he'd come.

In fact, when I rang for Mady to lock him back in his cage his erection had subsided.

As Mady led him to his cold shower I motioned him over to my side of the bed and gave him a very deep kiss.

"Later." was all I said.

More Advice for Young Wives

I was looking for something to watch on Netflix the other night and came across "The Duke of Burgundy" a rather quirky tale of lesbian dominance and submission. Well, elliot was downstairs working and Mady had gone to bed so...why not.

While the film was more than a little slow and not in the least explicit, it raised a basic and I think important element of the whole dominance and submission world. The slightly older woman who was, in theory, dominant spent most of the movie catering to her "submissive's" desires. To the point where she was reading an index card with a script on it. Even her submissive lover's safe word was used to "direct the action" as it were.

My own sense is that there are many more submissives - male and female - in the world than there are natural dominants. Those submissives, and elliot is a good example, tend to like some things and dislike others. elliot, for example, prefers the cane to the bathbrush, long term chastity to forced orgasm, being sent to bed in a nightie rather than being made to sleep on the floor; so the question is what a dominant wife is to do with her supposedly submissive husband's desires.

When a girl is just starting a female led marriage she will, naturally, be inclined to pay attention to her husband's preferences. Especially if she herself is not particularly experienced. Her new husband may have a fairly elaborate submissive fantasy and it is tempting to go with that at least at the outset. It is much the same in pure vanilla marriages where a wife will have meat and potatoes sex with her new husband regularly but save blow jobs for date night and refuse anal sex either altogether or reserve it for extra special occasions. (And notice that even in a vanilla marriage it is the wife who decides about sex. This tends to emerge over a few months after the ceremony when even the mousiest wife will begin to take control of when what and where marital sex occurs. There is a lesson there.)

Part of the problem with The Duke of Burgundy is that it assumes a static relationship between the characters. The script does not change. The "maid" forgets a pair of panties to be washed and must be punished. She is taken to the bathroom, the older woman who has been drinking prodigious quantities of water, closes the door and tells the "maid" to lie down and open her mouth. Sexy once; but as a daily routine? Hardly. And, of course, the "maid" eventually gets a bit bored getting exactly what she wants and suggests some form of confinement as an additional punishment.

The actual problem here is that the older woman has never really been brave enough to risk understanding what her lover/maid really wants. Possibly because, at root, the older woman is not willing to take on the responsibility of actually loving a submissive girl as she needs and craves to be loved. The distance created by the scripts lets the older woman play a part sufficient to gain her access to the love the younger women might give her.

At a guess, and despite the film's ending, neither of the couple will be satisfied and the already crippled relationship will collapse. And the reason, which a young wife should heed, is that the submissive maid is entirely sincere in her need but the dominant old woman is simply playing along as a means to her own ends and she is not even doing that very well.

To be a successful, dominant, wife a woman has to elegantly accept how the male psyche (and submissive female psyche) is constructed. While there are some men who don't have a submissive bone in their bodies, most do. Whether you begin your marriage as a female led relationship or come to the dominant position over time, you need to go much deeper than a script if your dominance is to be anything more than a Saturday night bit of fun (and nothing wrong with that.)

The "maid" in The Duke of Burgundy wants to obey and be punished when she does not. Rather than stick to the script, the older woman could easily have taken the essence of the script - be given orders, obey, be punished for disobedience - and elaborated.

The dance of dominance in a marriage begins when the wife begins to regulate her husband's sexuality. A process which women almost universally understand from girlhood. As I said above, sex, particularly mildly variant sex, is used as a reward from the earliest days of many marriages. So, in a sense, many ostensibly vanilla marriages have a significant element of female control built right in. For a woman to extend her control over the sexual life of a couple into other elements of a marriage makes sense as a husband learns that things go rather better for him if he does what he is told.

Now, while most women have sexual control in their marriages, women who lead their marriages are a small minority simply because most men are very closed about their more submissive tendencies. Part of being a dominant wife is giving your husband lots of room to be submissive without having his sense of self compromised. Talking to him about his fantasies, taking it as given that he will do as he is told, imposing punishments when he misbehaves: all of this creates a sustainable dynamic.

Female led marriages (and relationships but an elegant woman usually requires marriage) come in many forms; but in every form both the dominant wife and her husband get what they really want from the marriage rather than play-acting their way through it. Start as you mean to finish is good advice at any time, it is particularly good when a young wife is taking charge of her marriage.

Surprise Emission

Men being the funny creatures they are they can be humiliated very easily while they have fun.

I had elliot ejaculate in front of our lovely maid Mady. He had been in his cage for rather a long time, I don't actually remember how long, and when I told him I would let him out to fill his cup he was delighted.

I have to admit I can be entirely clinical about the ejaculatory habits of men. There is really nothing so very complex and most men have been playing with themselves since they were young teenagers. If a man has not come for a while and you tell him to make a splash he'll get his business done in no time. Which was the point I wanted to make to Mady.

elliot, of course, is nipple trained. I am not saying he can't ejaculate without having his nipples pinched, but it takes much longer. So I pinched his nipples, he stroked his little cock, made his mess, drank it, licked the cup and was back in his cock cage all of 9o seconds after I unlocked him.

As I explained to Mady before I put on this little demonstration, it is important that a submissive man never be allowed to come without supervision and without a degree of humiliation. Setting up the situation, taking a very matter of fact approach, pinching the nipple hard, making sure to make a little fun of his little cock, belittling him a bit as he reaches climax - it is the little things which make a forced ejaculation a wonderfully pleasurable but completely humbling experience. Having Mady there to watch just added a little frisson to elliot's enjoyable subjugation.

I am very much enjoying teach Mady a few of the things I have learned in my own journey to female dominance. It is always going to be up to her as to whether, when she is ready, she will want a submissive husband; but she will certainly know how to command if she does.

elliot was ever so grateful for his surprise humbling. Quite wonderful really.

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