tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22437969353933423822024-03-18T12:57:56.265-07:00A Dominant WifeA Dominant Wife's musings on female led relationships and the gift of her submissive husband's chastity and obedience. Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.comBlogger250125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-63761146610242492512020-01-29T10:28:00.001-08:002020-01-29T10:28:31.610-08:00Wife on Top<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Regular readers on this blog will have noticed that I have published a number of letters from women who have taken charge of their marriage.<br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2U68kSx" target="_blank">Wife on Top</a> is a collection of those letters in one Kindle ebook published today.<br />
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Publication of <a href="https://amzn.to/2U68kSx" target="_blank">Wife on Top</a> clears the deck for my own book on how to have a female led relationship, how to be a dominant wife and how best to subjugate and discipline a boyfriend or husband.<br />
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What I have been finding as I read and spend time on the internet is that the basic concepts of female leadership in marriage, the need to discipline and correct husbands, the desirability of male chastity and ejaculation control, are all becoming more mainstream. It is subtle but many women have realized that mere equality does not work for them, at least no in marriage. Instead, the overt submission of a fiance or eventual husband has become the new gold standard.<br />
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This is particularly true in the bedroom where more and more women are demanding their right to sexual gratification in preference to their husband's base urges. More and more women are<a href="https://amzn.to/37FCOyH" target="_blank"> locking down their husband's cocks </a> and adopting the principles of a single, female, cycle driven, sexuality for their marriage.<br />
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The stories in <a href="https://amzn.to/2U68kSx" target="_blank">Wife on Top</a> are meant to guide and inspire wives as they asset their feminine authority and husbands as they accept their need to submit and obey.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-17485335161416973512020-01-27T13:44:00.001-08:002020-01-27T13:44:33.005-08:00New Book for Bondage Lovers<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I had an amazing experience interviewing Gillian Simpkins about her experience as a fetish photographer's assistant and mistress. Miss Simpkins is a very pretty girl and she has a lovely young maid, Imogene. Who likes bondage and girls in that order.<br />
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I have the feeling Mady will want Miss Simpkins and, especially, Imogene to become regular visitors.<br />
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I have no doubt elliot would be please with that arrangement as well. However, Miss Simpkins has her patron to attend to and photoshoots with lovely young models to arrange. Plus working in the used book store and keeping up her mistress glossiness.<br />
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But she seems to be doing very well.<br />
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You can see the book at <a href="https://amzn.to/2uCiyPQ" target="_blank">Amazon</a>. Here is a short excerpt:<br />
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I arrived at the outer door, keyed in the code, went to the inner door, keyed in the code and shoved my worldly possessions into the studio. I looked around.<br />
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Over in the photo studio space there was a girl in a corset and stockings with her arms manacled above her head. Paul was happily taking pictures and the dark haired girl was posing as hard as she could in her restraints. What do you do? <br />
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I decided to do nothing. I pushed my boxes into the studio and walked over to where Paul was engrossed with what looked like a film camera.<br />
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“Mr. Livingston, how long have you had that poor girl chained up?” I said with what I hope was a laugh in my voice.<br />
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“About half an hour Miss. I’m Jules. I’ve worked with Paul before. This is the easy part,” said the trussed up girl. “But the money is great. Are you doing a shoot?”<br />
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“Not today,” I replied. “Paul needed a stylist. I’m it.”<br />
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Somehow it seemed perfectly normal to be chatting to a woman in a black corset, heels, and, on closer inspection, vintage stockings and shackled to a pillar in a space I was moving into. Which was because Paul was so absolutely normal. He was, matter of factly, snapping pictures. <br />
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“Miss Simpkins!” he said. “So glad you’re here. Could you just lower the left cup of Jules’ corset so I can shoot her nipple. It’s fine, I have the consent right here.”<br />
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“Totally fine Paul, and a lot more fun to have a pretty girl strip me.”<br />
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We spent the next hour making Jules increasingly naked and more than a little uncomfortable.<br />
As I hoisted her arms behind her and pulled down her panties to reveal a luxurious 1950’s bush, Jules kept up a steady stream of conversation.<br />
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“Really Paul, you’d make much more money if you stuffed something up my pussy,” She said at one point.<br />
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“Not in it for the money Jules. In it for the style and the style says we barely see your pussy,” said Paul to my surprise. “This is all about a damsel in distress; but she mostly keeps her modesty.”<br />
Which was somewhat true if you ignore her breasts, the nipples of which Paul had had me clip twenty minutes before. And nothing mild like the adjustable clips you see in sex shops – or I saw once – rather full on bulldog clips with her nipples pushed into the gap. This was not hardcore but it was serious. I’d attached her to a gym horse looking ready for a flogging. I was really hoping Paul would not ask me to lay on the strokes. He didn’t. A dozen close ups later and we were done.<br />
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“Miss Simpkins, set a kettle to boil and you’ll find tea in the cupboard. You did beautifully, Jules.”<br />
I’d unstrapped Jules and brought her a robe.<br />
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“It was fun Paul,” said Jules unconsciously rubbing her clipped and swollen nipples under the robe. “It always is. And now you have an assistant.”<br />
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“I do.”<br />
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“Will she be…”<br />
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“Not today Jules. In future, perhaps,” said Paul.<br />
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“Well then, still my turn,” said Jules and she dropped to her knees in front of Paul, took his cock out of his nicely pleated wool trousers, and got to work sucking. She didn’t even take the clips off her nipples.<br />
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As I made tea, I could see her head bobbing up and down and, in a couple of minutes, just when the tea was done, so was Paul.<br />
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“Thank you, dear Jules,” he said. “Now, tea?”<br />
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“In a moment Paul, I’ll just go and rinse.”<br />
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And off she trotted to the bathroom entirely unconcerned that she’d just given her photographer a very public blow job.<br />
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I brought the tea to the coffee table where Paul had been so recently serviced.<br />
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“Really?” I said.<br />
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“Mostly,” said Paul. “I make it very worth their while.”<br />
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“Then whatever do you want me for?” I asked genuinely perplexed.<br />
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“I need to stop. I still want to shoot for my collection but I can’t afford the possibility that one of these girls is going to turn on me. Not Jules, but one of them will eventually and that will cost me a lot of money and a good deal of reputation,” he said.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-51220326518271278352020-01-23T18:14:00.001-08:002020-01-23T18:14:55.732-08:00The Mistress Option<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Mady had two girlfriends come to stay just after New Years. We had great fun dressing elliot as a <a href="https://amzn.to/37oKKnJ" target="_blank">maid of all work </a>and having him serve the ladies at lunch and for cocktails and dinner. Needless to say the girls were both amazed and eventually amused as Mady and I put elliot through his paces.<br />
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His humiliation was enhanced when, each afternoon, he was required to submit to a punishment: the first day it was a good <a href="https://amzn.to/30T93rM" target="_blank">hard shower brushing</a> because he had stared just a little too hard as Chriss - one of the girls - very ample chest. He had to lift his maid's skirt and pull down his<a href="https://amzn.to/2TTUqCS" target="_blank"> frilly rumba panties</a> before I gave him a lecture about respecting women and then two dozen good swats.<br />
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The next day Mady wanted to show her friends how easy it was to make a man ejaculate even when he is locked in a <a href="https://amzn.to/36iTeeR" target="_blank">chastity cage</a>. She bent him over a cane backed chair with a saucer below his imprisoned cock flipped his skirt up and pushed his <a href="https://amzn.to/2TPhSkC" target="_blank">remote-controlled prostate massager</a> up his backdoor. It only took a few minutes before he was dripping ejaculate onto the saucer. And, of course, when he was drained he had to drink up his mess. The girls were mesmerized.<br />
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The last day they were with us, Mady and I thought they should have a bit of fun. First, each girl practised with a <a href="https://amzn.to/30PUh4X" target="_blank">light cane</a> on poor elliot's bruised bottom. It took a little while, and many "vocalizations" from elliot before each was able to accurately deliver her dozen strokes. "No, dear, you have to hit both cheeks otherwise you won't get the right welt pattern." Then elliot was required to thank each of the girls with his tongue before being sent to his corner. Great fun for the girls and for Mady and I. Not so much for elliot but that really doesn't matter.<br />
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I had a wonderful time as both Chriss and Amber were intelligent, pretty and polite. We had lovely dinners where the ladies dressed - which kept elliot in his role as lady's maid busy and deeply excited. All that perfect young female flesh to help groom and dress. I kept him in his little cell when he was off duty so he could think about the lovely breasts and pretty pussies he had to tend. Which meant that, after dinner we could talk very freely.<br />
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Both girls loved the idea of female dominance and both were intrigued at the idea of female led relationships and, eventually, wife led marriages. But, as Amber asked, "What do we do while we look for the right man?"<br />
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They were a bit taken aback when I said, "Have some fun, make some money, become mistresses."<br />
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"You mean like dommes?" said Chriss.<br />
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"Good Heavens, no," I said laughing. "Too risky, too boring and there is actually an upfront cost to set up a dungeon - which is what men who visit pro-dommes often expect. No, I mean mistresses in the old fashioned sense of the word. A girl kept by a wealthy older man."<br />
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"When you go to bed tonight I'll leave Miss Jay's book,<a href="https://amzn.to/2NXwACC" target="_blank"> Modern Mistress</a> on your tablets," said Mady.<br />
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Which she did and both girls read the first fifty or sixty pages in bed.<br />
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The next morning we left elliot in his cell and the girls in their pretty nighties (I insist on them wearing <a href="https://amzn.to/36l5J9T" target="_blank">white cotton Victorian nighties</a> which matched Mady's) sat around the breakfast table.<br />
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"Well, girls," I said, "What did you think?"<br />
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"It all sounds great Miss Jay, but, really, in this day and age don't you think it is a little oppressive for a woman to be "kept" by a man?" said Amber...And we were off.<br />
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"Not at all," I said. "In fact, if anything, it is a huge first step towards a woman's freedom and, if she chooses, her leadership in her relationships and her marriage."<br />
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"How is sleeping with a man for money a step towards freedom?" asked Chriss. Mady smiled having heard this before.<br />
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"Chriss, the fact is that money is, in fact, power," I said settling back in my chair and sipping on a very pleasing latte. "When a man gives a woman money he is, in fact, giving her a bit of power. The opportunity to take advantage of a broader array of choices. In exchange, she gives him the pleasure of her company. Escorts have known this since pretty much forever."<br />
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"However, escorting, even at the highest end, is essentially transactional. I talk about all that in my book Avails. Lots of girls have escorted but very few of them have really understood how they can make top dollar at minimal risk," I said. "And the biggest problem with escorting is risk. Physical risk, legal risk and, frankly, moral hazard: it is very easy to become very cynical when you sleep with, to use the euphemism, even three or four men a week, much less a night. Cynical girls lose their charm very quickly which is tragic because charm lasts very much longer than youth or beauty."<br />
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"Fair enough," said Amber. "Having one man give you money for your company makes more sense but I still can't see how it is particularly liberating. You still pretty much have to sleep with the guy."<br />
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"Eventually," I said. "But not until you have made your arrangement. And that arrangement can be very liberating indeed. Have you ever been poor? I mean not knowing where your next meal is coming from poor?"<br />
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"Not really," said Amber. "My parents have a bit of money and I can always go home if stuff gets bad."<br />
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"I have," said Chriss. "It really sucks."<br />
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"And have you ever had more money than you really needed?" I asked. "Money where you could get a blowout and your nails done and buy the dress, the shoes and the bag?"<br />
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"All the same day? asked Amber.<br />
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"The same day," I replied.<br />
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Both girls shook their heads.<br />
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"I'm not surprised," I said. "Most young women, even as well educated as the two of you are, don't start earning significant money until they are in their mid-thirties and, realistically, that is usually when they really want to have kids. Soooo."<br />
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"A bit of sexual economics. Your "arm candy" years begin at about twenty and end around twenty-five or six. Now, the fact is that women are actually more beautiful in their late twenties and early thirties and if they do it right, keep becoming more interesting as they get older. But a pretty girl commands peak market price for all of six or seven years," I said. "Most girls waste those years looking for Mr. Right or chasing the entry-level jobs they think will create a payoff down the road or going to school. But, mainly, they waste the time because they can't think of what else they might be doing."<br />
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"Being kept by a wealthy older man is not a huge time commitment," I continued. "Usually an evening mid-week and, perhaps, a Saturday afternoon."<br />
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"No way," said Chriss. "That's what, maybe eight hours a week?"<br />
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"At most, dear, at most," I said.<br />
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"And you get your rent covered, pretty clothes, spa days," said Amber.<br />
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"If you negotiate well, that and lots more," I said. "Remember, the sort of man who keeps a mistress is taking home serious money. He is probably billing out his time at $500+ an hour or running a company or fixing people's teeth. A couple of thousand a month is nothing, 10K and you are beginning to be a noticeable expense. Keep reading Modern Mistress, some of the girls I talked to have really luxurious lives and they tuck money away every month."<br />
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"I flipped forward, Miss Jay, and you're right. The girls do make fabulous money sometimes," said Amber. "But how does that make me "free" if I have to put up with some guy old enough, as the saying goes, to be my father being able to have me whenever he wants?"<br />
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"Amber, you need to read the whole thing and a few of my extended interviews as well," I said. "No mistress gives her patron unlimited access. That's for escorts, sugar babies and side pieces: a mistress is none of those things nor would a suitable patron ever expect such a thing. And, truth to tell, ladies, past a certain age, most men are simply not that interested in 24/7 sex. They will be delighted to see their mistress once or twice a week."<br />
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"OK, but how does even that make me "free"?" asked Amber.<br />
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"It makes you better than "free"; it gives you actual power," I said. "Earning an allowance and treats by being a beautiful, intelligent, interested woman lets you do what you want with the rest of your time. Finish a degree, learn to trade stocks, master the PR game but with the sure knowledge that you are not going to miss a meal or be short on rent. Instead of being a "starving student" or an "unpaid intern" struggling to get by with a side gig, a mistress has the luxury of her own time to do what she wants."<br />
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"But that depends on a man," said Chriss.<br />
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"It does," I replied. "Here's a hint ladies...men want us to depend on them and when we do we take control. As a mistress, you have control of a part of a man's life, as a wife you have the whole thing."<br />
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Which I left them with as I had things to do but later that afternoon Amber and Chriss came into my sitting room.<br />
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"Miss Jay, do you have a few minutes?" asked Amber.<br />
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"Of course...more questions?"<br />
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"A few," said Chriss. "We've been reading and talking and, well, ok. How is it fair that to gain any power, girls have to sleep with men who..."<br />
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"Stop right there Chriss. Girls always have huge potential power," I said. "The question is will they use it? And if they use it will they use it with any sort of strategy."<br />
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"A million years ago I would put on a pretty dress and a nice pair of heels, walk a couple of blocks to a well known steakhouse and, in no more than twenty minutes, be bought a drink or two and, if the gentleman seemed interesting, a very good steak and a bottle of wine. Yes, there were "expectations" but, no, I never felt the slightest obligation. If I was on heat I might well have taken the gentleman home, but not always. And never if I didn't want to. That, of course, was purely tactical. A near term objective as it were. But, and here is the thing, there was an older gentleman who noticed me. He could easily have bought the steakhouse with pocket change. He certainly bought a lot of girls dinner and there was no messing about. Take the dinner you went home with the man. He invited me several times and I declined. He was my first patron."<br />
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"Played hard to get," said Amber giggling.<br />
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"Not at all. Just hard to get for him. Because I wanted him."<br />
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"How could you tell?" asked Chriss.<br />
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"When elliot is out of uniform, take a look at his watch. It is one of several but it is my favourite because I gave it to him. It is not a show off's watch, white gold, no diamonds, a Patek Philippe Calatrava. My first patron wore a very similar watch but in 18k gold," I said. "Then shoes, then suit. Now, to be fair, this was when successful men dressed. Now it may be a matter of recognizing a good sweater or the right phone, but the point is the same. Men who have done well have a look. To find them you go to the places they like to go, a couple of bars, a couple of steakhouses, certain sorts of events."<br />
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"And you're saying we should not be cynical," said Chriss.<br />
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"What's cynical about wanting a very good man who can afford to keep you?" I said. "In fact, for a small, select, minority of women spending a few years as a mistress allows them to reach their full potential. Plus, for a small, select, minority of men, keeping a mistress acknowledges their own proper position as subservient to at least one woman. Even if the acknowledgement is only tacit."<br />
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"Really? said Chriss. "I am not sure how being serviced once a week by a girl young enough to be your daughter is exactly subservient."<br />
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"Because you are not seeing the whole picture," I said smiling. "First off, he is being "serviced" by a girl who is receiving a significant allowance, is likely living in a nice apartment with good furniture rent free and who, if she has negotiated cleverly, will have a wardrobe and grooming allowance. Second, a mistress, by her nature and position is "in charge" of the time her patron spends with her. She sets the rules, she decides if she will have sex and what sort of sex she'll have. A good mistress is demanding. Her patron has to satisfy her. Which is what keeps him coming back."<br />
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"That never seems to be the way it works in my relationships," said Amber.<br />
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"Of course not," I said. "You are likely dating and sleeping with boys your own age using the currency of lust and love. Which is wonderful at your age but, frankly, a bit of a waste of your time. I gather neither of you are rushing to find a husband right now."<br />
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Both girls shook their head. "Way too soon."<br />
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"So, if you decided to take the mistress option one big change you'd make is to move away from the boy/girl sex world of high school. For a mistress, sex and pleasure are part of a fantasy which her patron is buying," I said. "While patrons often think they want their mistress for sex, a clever mistress offers much more than that."<br />
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"At the same time, a mistress knows that the best sex a man is ever likely to have is with an enthusiastic, uninhibited, young woman who actually takes charge in the bedroom," I said. "And, of course, that carries right through to a female-led relationship or marriage. For a variety of reasons, even now, men think they have to take the sexual initiative. There is no good reason for that, but there it is. A smart mistress will take matters in hand as it were."<br />
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"But why would a man want that?" asked Chriss.<br />
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"Two reasons, first the sheer novelty of a pretty young girl having her wicked way with him, second, and more importantly, men take mistresses for the luxury of real relaxation. Most men who can afford a mistress are insanely busy and are making decisions all day," I said. "Knowing that for a few hours a couple of times a week there are no decisions, no real choices, is really what a patron ends up valuing most in his mistress."<br />
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"You make that sound so easy, Miss Jay," said Amber. "But, at the end of the day, a patron is still going to want to have sex."<br />
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"Indeed. Or at least that's what he thinks he wants," I said. "Men are not very subtle and they are not very good at actually knowing or articulating what they want. In fact, most men want to be listened to, teased a little, seduced and know that, if they do what they are told, the evening will end happily. For a mistress an evening will be about comfort food, a moderate amount of good wine, a sexy - but not slutty - outfit, flowers, candles and enthusiasm. A few evenings like that and a patron will wonder how he ever lived without his mistress."<br />
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"The other great benefit of being a mistress, besides the money and the freedom that money brings, is that a girl learns how to manage, take charge of a man," I said. "If I had not been a mistress there is no way I would have been able to give my darling elliot what he so desperately needed. The experience of having a non-romantic, sexual relationship with a strong, successful, man is something every girl should have. But very few girls will because they are content to drift along in peer relationships."<br />
<br />
"OK, so let's say I wanted to try being a mistress," said Amber. "Where would I find this wonderful, wealthy, patron?"<br />
<br />
"Well, if both of you were looking..."<br />
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"We might be," said Chriss.<br />
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"Then you'll have a great advantage. One pretty girl is not entirely safe, two and you can take care of each other," I said. "Unfortunately, the nicest way, which is to be introduced by an older lady such as myself, is not really available as I am very much a homebody. However, there is a simple rule: go where the fish are. In the little city you both live in there are, in no particular order, car shows, boat shows, gallery openings, at least one excellent book store and, as I recall, a couple of fairly high end restaurants. It is not difficult to get on the PR lists for openings. And there is nothing at all wrong with a bit of discrete advertising. And don't worry too much about age, there are plenty of men in their late thirties who would love to take a mistress if they had any clue what that was."<br />
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Amber looked a bit troubled. "Miss Jay, one thing bothers me about this. A lot of these prospective patrons are married."<br />
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"Ideally," I said. "It makes everything much simpler."<br />
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"But isn't that cheating?" asked Amber.<br />
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"It is. A mistress, however, is a realist. The fact is that men of a certain age and success often cheat. Often with disastrous consequences. A powerful man is surrounded by temptation - personal assistants, work colleagues, vendors, professionals, girls at conferences - the list is endless and involvement with any of them can lead to sexual harassment claims, long hours with the HR department and, of course, the girl falling in love with the man with all that can lead to including a very expensive divorce."<br />
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"A smart wife wants to limit her exposure to any of these consequences," I said. "Now most wives will not be lucky enough to have a Mady but, in a sense, they should welcome a young woman who has no long term designs on their husband. Most men are very discrete about their mistresses but women have a sixth sense when it comes to another woman and this poses an intelligence test. If a wife finds out about a mistress what does she do?"<br />
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"So, I will tell you one story and then I have to get on with the day. When I was about your age and was being kept by what was known as a "lumber baron", sweet man, I got a call one afternoon from his wife. She introduced herself on the phone as Mrs. X, Ken X's wife and asked if might meet for lunch the following day.<br />
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I agreed, what else could I do, and having dressed carefully, went to a very pleasant little restaurant where the maitre d' escorted me to a table where a wonderfully attractive woman of a certain age rose to greet me.<br />
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"So you're Hannah. Turn," she said making a little gesture with a perfectly manicured hand. "Oh you are just perfect. Me, thirty years ago. What a pretty dress. Sit down."<br />
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"I suppose you wonder how I know about you," said Mrs. X. "Ken has always talked in his sleep. For the last few weeks he has been saying lovely things about a girl named Hannah and two nights ago he actually said, "Time to play with Hannah Jay."<br />
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"No..."<br />
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"Oh yes. It was perfect, just like Ken." said Mrs. X.<br />
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"You seem very relaxed about all this," I said to her.<br />
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"Of course, my dear. Ken has worked hard, cut down a lot of trees and treated me and the children beautifully. We are very dear friends, more than a little in love but he's at that age where he realizes the road ahead is shorter than the one behind. That bothers men. A lot. I was worried that you might be a secretary or something but a quick look at the account Ken doesn't think I know about told the story. You're his mistress! Which is wonderful but I thought we should meet. And you should call me Jean."<br />
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Quite honestly this was the last thing I expected. I was prepared to be called a hussy and a lot worse. Or for a tearful, "Please don't take my man" scene. But this was extraordinary.<br />
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"I'm delighted you approve," I said.<br />
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"Approve? My only regret is that I didn't think of the solution myself. You've put a bounce in Ken's step and he's taking things a day at a time rather than brooding over what he is going to do in retirement. But you mustn't tell him," said Jean.<br />
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"Tell him what?"<br />
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"That I know," said Jean. "I think half the fun of having a mistress is in the sneaking around, the stolen hours. Men love that sort of thing and it would take a lot of the fun out of it if Ken knew I knew and approved."<br />
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I laughed out loud. "You know him very well."<br />
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"I do," said Jean. "Being married to someone for thirty years has that effect."<br />
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"And you really don't mind?"<br />
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"Not at all. You are pretty, and nicely built if I may say so, obviously intelligent and on the payroll. Quite seriously, my great worry was that Ken would find some young girl who would think she was in love with him. That can get very messy for everyone," said Jean. "Looking at Ken's account, you are a very practical young woman."<br />
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"I've had to be," I said.<br />
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"True for most young girls," said Jean. "Now you can have a bit of fun and, if you can keep Ken interested, earn a tidy little nest egg. Something you should know is that Ken absolutely loves giving people presents. Just out of the blue."<br />
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"I've noticed that already. Very thoughtful things like <a href="https://amzn.to/2tOK4cK" target="_blank">a perfect hairbrush</a> and practical things like a dozen pairs of <a href="https://amzn.to/2RlQd9h" target="_blank">fully fashioned stockings</a>."<br />
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"You wear stockings! No wonder Ken enjoys you. I've always worn stockings because Ken loves them but the young girls today, if they wear hose at all, wear those awful pantihose. For a big, rough, lumberjack, Ken is actually quite smart about pretty lingerie and fine leather goods, gloves, shoes, purses, I have a closet full of really beautiful bags he picked out. In fact, maybe that is why he's taken a mistress, I already have everything I want or need."<br />
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We had a very good lunch, a bottle of good wine and a nice hug, "Take care of Ken, Hannah. He is a wonderful guy."<br />
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"It would make a better story if Jean and I had lunched monthly but we didn't. Ken kept me for a little over two years when I moved to another city," I said. "I missed him for years."<br />
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"No wonder you are such a fan of mistresshood," said Amber. "That sounds perfect."<br />
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"It was. And, interestingly, it was as a twenty-something mistress that I learned a key fact about successful, wealthy, men; more often than not they need a place in their lives where they are not under stress, don't have to make decisions, can simply do what they are told," I said. "Ken would never have thought of himself as submissive but when he came to my apartment I was completely in charge. And that grew over time. Especially as I found myself enjoying being in charge."<br />
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"About twenty years ago, elliot and I were at a party and we ran into Ken and Jean. It was one of those moments which could have gone either way but Ken marched over and said, "Hannah, you must introduce me to your husband". I did and he introduced me to his wife and not another word was said. We were simply old friends who had not seen each other for years. But I did notice that Ken watched how I led, subtly, elliot even in a completely social situation. At the end of the evening, he came back over. "You're a very lucky man, Elliot," was all he said.<br />
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I hope you all had a wonderful Holiday Season. We certainly did. I gave elliot two books he has been looking for for years and Mady and I let him out of his <a href="https://amzn.to/2MZtBZV">chastity cage</a> on Christmas Eve. I'd upped his dose of Viagra a little and his not terrifically large cock was just perfect after he had spent quite a long time licking me. I didn't let him come in me and Mady had her fun with his very hard cock. She is such a naughty girl and she looked lovely as she climbed on top of elliot for Christmas treats. Again, I didn't let elliot cum in Mady either. Instead we put him in a locking <a href="https://amzn.to/39KhNo1">long legged panti-girdle </a>and sent him to bed. Christmas morning dawned and when Mady came in with my coffee I had her unlock poor elliot and give him a bit of a tease before his shower.<br />
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After his shower I had Mady handcuff him and then push a wonderful,<a href="https://amzn.to/39KeNYU"> remote controlled vibrator</a> into his bottom. Then she put the girdle back on and elliot spent Christmas Day on edge. It was such fun watching the expression on his face when we flipped on the vibe. But we didn't push him over the edge. Mady had told me that she really wanted to give him a blow job as part of his Christmas and, after dinner we went to his den, handcuffed him again and Mady got to work. elliot could not believe his luck when it became evident she was going to suck him to completion. What fun!<br />
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All of which brings me to a lovely note I received from a young wife in a leafy suburb of a city in the Southern United States named Kendra,<br />
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Dear Miss Jay,<br />
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I wanted to thank you for your wonderful website and your fantastic books. When I was a little younger I read your <a href="https://amzn.to/39NyiQ3">Modern Mistress: Lead the Luxury Life You Deserve</a> and was kept for a few years beginning in my last year in college. What fun and what nice men.<br />
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However, we all have to grow up sometime and for me that meant getting married and, eventually, having kids. Very normal. Having been a mistress I have to say gave me a slightly different perspective on men than my girlfriends had. They are all sweet and still my friends now, but they all see men like they were still in high school. Essentially, they all sort of hung back hoping that Mr. Right would, somehow, pop into their lives. Sadly, men did pop into their lives. Very unsuitable men.<br />
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I approached the whole thing very differently. I wanted a good man, a little older than I am, reasonably successful with great prospects and, most importantly, willing to follow my lead. From my experience as a mistress I realized that I liked being in charge. And, as a mistress, part of my vocation was spending time researching some of the sexual byways my patrons seemed to be interested in. One of the things I noticed was that all of my patrons, and I only had three, liked to be told what to do. In bed, but also in my apartment and even when we were out for dinner or shopping.<br />
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It was a very specific thing. I could ask them to do something and they might or might not do it, but if I <i>told</i> them to do something they practically purred. Now, these were very successful men, I was an expensive luxury, and they spent their days making decisions and telling other people what to do. As you have written on this blog and in your books, men need time out from always having to make decisions. A mistress gives them that time out. But a wife?<br />
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Maybe. But first I had to find the right guy. I am not one for hanging back. While I was a mistress I worked in corporate communications for a public relations firm. I accumulated a well edited wardrobe and a reputation for being "that girl who is always wearing dresses". In fact, most of the time I wore really well-tailored suits but always with skirts. I never wore pant suits. Attractive, often pretty, but also very self-possessed. I never looked like I was trying too hard.<br />
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Part of my job was going to assorted networking events. Pretty basic where everyone is being "social" while looking out for new clients. I did at least one of these a week and enjoyed them. I am fairly tall and I have quite a nice figure - I walk a lot and swim for an hour twice a week - and with the right bra...well, I get my share of attention. The more obvious come ons I ignored but there were plenty of nice men who could hold a conversation. Usually, under the pretext of business, it was not at all difficult to arrange to meet a few days out and that is what I did.<br />
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Yes, this was calculating. But you get what you want by going after it. I must have had coffee with twenty five or so men and then drinks with half a dozen. Oddly enough, the coffees brought me in another half dozen potential clients so, even if I didn't find a husband, I was ahead of the game. Coffee was business attire, drinks I would up my game a bit. From my mistress days I had three or four "little black dresses" each of which was a tiny bit revealing in a subtle way. I have nice legs so a <a href="https://amzn.to/37UZvP8">short skirt is never a bad choice</a>. At the same time I have rather pretty clavicles and why not show them off in a longer but <a href="https://amzn.to/2ThHYwj">off the shoulder dress</a>? My rule for drinks was two glasses of wine and then, no matter how well it was going, off I went.<br />
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It did not take long, a couple of months, to find several men who I enjoyed and who enjoyed me. I was in no hurry but I was also not going to waste a lot of time. Unfortunately, these days, the sorts of serious, successful men I was looking for took sex as a given once you got to a couple of dinner dates. I am, obviously, no enemy of sex; but I also am well aware that there is huge value in sex and that it should not be squandered. It was also an opportunity to see how various men responded to the idea that they would do what they were told.<br />
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I still had my very elegant, slightly "mistressy" apartment. The mistressy element was in the expensive, minimalist and quite masculine furniture. In one of your mistress books, <a href="https://amzn.to/2R68wOI">Zoey's First Night</a> I think a girl says "I want to be the most feminine thing in my apartment". Very much how I decorated.<br />
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I took all of three men back to my apartment. The first, well the first was a mistake. He made the assumption that if I was inviting him back after dinner I was going to be dessert. Er, no. He lasted about five minutes before I bundled him out the door. The other two were sweet. My basic test was to see if they would do as they were told without any <i>quid pro quo</i>.<br />
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I would pour us each a glass of wine, sit, in a rather brilliant black leather club chair and, when everyone was settled down, say, "Now, dear man, are you comfortable? Ready to please me?" They would usually nod. "Excellent, we'll get started. Stand up. Turn. Now back around. Good."<br />
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Both the boys were with me to this point but now it would get interesting.<br />
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"I want to see you naked," I said. "So just stand where you are and take off your clothes. All of them."<br />
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One man said, "Really?" and the other said "What?", I said "Yes".<br />
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One of the men, Matt, began to undress as soon as I said "Yes", the other, whose name I forget, wanted to talk about it. I said goodnight.<br />
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I married Matt. And not just because, when I lifted my skirt, pulled down my panties and said, "Get to work," he was very eager and very good, really because he did what he was told without a moment's protest. Matt was good enough at pussy licking that I was tempted to let him have his own orgasm. But I knew I had to start as I meant to finish. When I was done I pulled up my panties, let down my skirt and moved to the couch. I motioned Matt over and had him lie with his head in my lap.<br />
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"We are going to be going on several dates," I said gently sliding my long nails across his nipple. "I am going to be testing you, teasing you. Starting right now you will not cum without my permission and supervision. Do you understand?"<br />
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"Yes Ma'am."<br />
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"You have a very nice cock, Matt," I said. "From now on it is my cock. We'll see how you behave and, if you are a good boy, we might even let that cock have a bit of fun. But, for the moment, I want you to get dressed, give me a kiss and leave. I'll call you when I want to see you again."<br />
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"Yes Ma'am."<br />
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From that day 'til this that is exactly how I have trained Matt. I do have a paddle - <a href="https://amzn.to/2Tv2l9o">a rather nice bamboo paddle</a> I had Matt order me for a wedding gift - and <a href="https://amzn.to/2TnJvBd">a couple of rattan canes</a> I gave us for our first anniversary. But, honestly, I really don't use them on Matt very often. He is naturally very obedient. I have looked at <a href="https://amzn.to/2TpRYEa">a chastity cage</a> for him but I am not there yet.<br />
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I took Matt on our wedding night having only given him hand jobs to that point over our six month engagement. Three to be exact. But he knew that if I invited him to my apartment he would spend a good deal of his time under my skirt. Which he loved.<br />
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My girlfriends can't quite figure out how I manage to have a happy, very successful, husband who is so attentive and helpful. I will often have a couple of girlfriends over and Matt makes the snacks and serves them in a wonderfully 50's housewife sort of a way.<br />
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At home he always wears loose wrap tops - <a href="https://amzn.to/2ToMZn9">Kimono shirts they are called</a> - and <a href="https://amzn.to/2RfCcsF">kimono capri pants</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2snQPBG">Japanese sandals</a>. It is a perfectly androgynous look and my girlfriends joke about my not having a husband so much as a houseboy. Matt knows that I expect him to come home from work and put on his house clothes and be ready to greet me when I get back from work. I have a slightly longer commute so this works well. He's responsible for having something nice to go with a much needed after work glass of wine. We usually cook together but he is responsible for clean-up while I enjoy a few minutes of down time. Once he has done the clean up he may have some laundry or vacuuming to do. I made it very clear during our courtship that those sorts of household chores were his responsibility.<br />
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When he is done I might invite him to curl up on the couch with me to watch Netflix for a while but, right at ten, I send him to get changed for bed. I like him to wear one of his many sets of Kimono pajamas. These are nice because if I want to have him I can just tell him to wiggle out of the trousers. I come upstairs when I am ready.<br />
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I suspect that one of the reasons I am hesitant about putting a cage on Matt is that I enjoy playing with him and, once in a while, taking him. I am always on top. In two years of marriage Matt has never once taken the top position when we make love. And I have made it very clear that just because I have decided to have him he does not have permission to cum. That's a special treat. He also knows that if he somehow can't control himself our bedroom cane will remind him who is in charge. He's only lost control four or five times but a really sound caning each time has made those slips very rare.<br />
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Matt loves all this. So do I. He's told me over and over how lucky he was that I chose him. I think so too.<br />
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Kisses,<br />
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Kendra<br />
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Dear Kendra (I wrote back),<br />
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What a lovely story. I love the fact you've figured out a house uniform for your husband. Too clever.<br />
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But what I really like is that you made a decision about the sort of man you wanted to marry and got to work finding him. All too often young women settle for what they think is available when, with a little effort, they can find a suitable man who will be only too delighted to honour and obey.<br />
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I understand your view on chastity cages. I had the same view for years. But, at a certain point, caging a man is a kindness. Self-restraint is a great thing but the poor dears are remarkably penis driven. By locking a man up you are removing temptation.<br />
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Enjoy your marriage and keep me posted,<br />
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Enjoy!<br />
<br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Meeting women is not terribly difficult. Meeting the right women is. You are very unlikely to meet the right sort of woman in a bar or a club, much more likely to meet one at a book sale or in a vintage clothing shop. A compliment - "what a lovely coat" - gets the ball rolling. Be very polite and very deferential. "Might I join you for a coffee when you have a bit of spare time?" leave the decision with the woman where it belongs. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px;">Now, a real gentleman will have a personal - not business - <a href="https://amzn.to/2rKbiQF">card with just his name, email address and phone number</a>. Making a nice presentation, with a little bow, to give a lady your card will, I will virtually guarantee, be something which has never happened to her before and therefore make you more interesting than most of the men she meets. Plus, your bow will already, suggest your submissiveness. Not a bad way to begin. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Again, as you are meeting women, look for opportunities to serve. For example, if you have struck up a conversation in a vintage clothing shop, there is no reason not to offer to hold the clothes she is going to try on while she is in the changing room. (On a second visit, when you know each other a little and she realizes she can trust you, offering to carry her bag while she goes through the racks and also offering to carry her selections, is a lovely way to introduce any woman to the pleasures of a submissive, obedient man.)</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Third, while you will likely ask any number of unsuitable women out understand that it is a submissive male's duty to make the effort. After all, unsuitable or not, girls need nice breaks whether it is for coffee or lunch or dinner. And you always pay. If she demurs, well, wait to be told what to do. But make sure you make the first move. It is the only first move a submissive man should make. Everything else, from whether to see each other again to physical intimacy to which movie to see is up to the woman. Of course, you can suggest going to dinner or to a movie but she decides where or what to see.</span><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /><br style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Fourth, if, as dates sometimes do, a woman seems interested in intimacy, make sure you let her take the lead. Especially if you are lucky enough to be invited to her bed. Your only reason to be there is her pleasure so do as you are told. Your pleasures and urges simply do not matter. (Note: if you have pleasured a woman properly and she suggests reciprocation, you need to make it clear that she has no obligation at all to attend to your needs. If she suggests a blow job after you have licked her to completion, suggest giving her a nice backrub instead.) </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Some women will love being in charge in the bedroom and that is a very good sign as to their eventual willingness to take charge of the relationship. At the same time, many women are very used to the man taking the initiative. A good way to get past this is to explain that, in these #metoo days it is very important to you to know that any physical intimacy is at her initiation. "You tell me what you want me to do."</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">After a few encounters, she'll realize that you are really there entirely for her pleasure and at her direction. If she is comfortable with that you are ready to move on to the hard part.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Finally, with her permission, tell her about your desires. Be prepared for her to be a little shocked, or not, but you need to be totally honest. But you do not have to be all that blunt. For example, when something goes a little bit wrong, saying something like, "I really deserve a good spanking for forgetting to put water in with the flowers" opens up the whole spanking question. Pegging is a little different as you'll have to open up the question, "I wish I could feel you in me" and then actually get all the apparatus.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Women are generally caregivers and once she understands that you need a good whipping from time to time and that you feel more comfortable and secure having been taken anally, you would be amazed at how willing many women are to meet your needs. </span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Of course, and this should go without saying, you need to be all the man you can be. Working hard, earning, staying in shape and alive to the world. Part of finding the woman you want and need is being the man she will want and need. It sounds basic, but good grooming, nice clothes, good shoes and <a href="https://amzn.to/33FkMtN">an elegant - but not needlessly expensive - watch</a>. </span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Remember, long before the discipline and the pegging and whatever else you need, the reality is that you have to enjoy the woman who will be in charge and, more importantly, she must enjoy you.</span></span><br />
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Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-16832664049647877412019-11-28T15:27:00.001-08:002019-11-28T16:23:12.511-08:00The Season<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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We live in Canada where we celebrate Thanksgiving a month and a half before our American friends but we actually have a special dinner for American Thanksgiving. Nothing complicated, just a leg of lamb, duck fat fried potatoes and, this year, an apple pie made from our own apples for dessert. It is an easy dinner and my maid Mady is off duty and joins us.<br />
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Of course, the day after Thanksgiving is <a href="https://amzn.to/2OR9EVb">Black Friday</a>, the official kickoff for Christmas shopping. We're lucky enough that we own pretty much everything we need but, as we live in a semi-rural place it is incredibly handy to be able to buy things online and have them shipped to our door. With 30 days until Christmas I can't wait to buy a few non-necessities for Mady and elliot. Even if you don't need Amazon Prime all year, this is a great time to take advantage of their<a href="https://amzn.to/2OR9EVb"> 30 day free Prime deal</a>. And if you do you'll be able to read <a href="https://amzn.to/37LpitU">elliot's Kindle books</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2DsKJBS">my Kindle books</a> for free.<br />
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Even when you have pretty much all you need there are somethings which are always welcome and which a good husband will buy without being told.<br />
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<b>Stockings:</b> If your wife wears stockings - and I hope she does as they are so flattering - you cannot go wrong buying her a few pairs for Christmas. Now, if I had all the money in the world, I would wear <a href="https://amzn.to/35GcC5F">Cervin silk stockings daily</a> As I don't I just wear them for special occasions, for every day I like the <a href="https://amzn.to/2pYFcjq">Cervin non-seamed stockings</a>.<br />
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<b>Gloves:</b> Leather gloves, especially <a href="https://amzn.to/2OR4Fnv">long fine leather gloves</a> are wonderful to have, I have a couple of pairs and I am always delighted to get another pair for Christmas. A <a href="https://amzn.to/2pYFcjq">spectacularly beautiful, over the elbow, Italian made glove</a> can be a fetish in itself and, until elliot bought me these gloves a couple of years ago, I had no idea he would be so excited to be whipped while I was wearing them. Men are very strange.<br />
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<b>Silk Slip or Night Dress:</b> I am always delighted to find <a href="https://amzn.to/34wG11X">a silk nightie</a> under the tree. Remember the cardinal rule of nighties - they have to be comfortable and that means plain. On the other hand, I like to dress Mady to keep elliot amused and aroused and <a href="https://amzn.to/33r8Njm">a shortie nightie</a> when she brings us coffee in the morning will ensure his little cock is hard as can be in <a href="https://amzn.to/33r8Njm">its chastity cage</a>.<br />
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I will add a few more shopping suggestions to this list but, right now, I have to dress for dinner and I hear my sweet Mady drawing my bath.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-25747734454489608852019-11-20T16:17:00.000-08:002019-11-20T16:17:00.579-08:00Drained<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I get more than a few letters and some offer wonderful insight into female led relationships. I thought this letter from "Cindy" in Canada was an interesting take on an alternative to male chastity.<br />
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Dear Hannah,<br />
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I have read with great interest your posts on male chastity both on the honour system and using a <a href="https://amzn.to/2KGr7hG">male chastity device</a>. I completely agree that a properly disciplined man should not be able to ejaculate without his wife's permission but I have an alternative to chastity.<br />
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I should begin by saying that we are a younger couple, very outdoorsy, into fitness and our careers. My husband, Robbie, has a high stress job and I discovered, early in our courtship, a very high sex drive. He likes sex a lot. So do I, but not nearly as much as Robbie.<br />
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Even before we were married I realized that this could be a problem and I looked around for solutions. In general, we are equal partners in our marriage which is how I prefer it. At the same time, Robbie needs to be able to come home from work and not have to make many decisions. In fact, he is rather naturally obedient and prefers to be told what to do. Which is fine by me as I like to be a bit bossy and I don't like back chat. I suppose you could say that we have a female led marriage but mainly we have a marriage where I am in charge and Robbie does what he is told.<br />
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If he doesn't he knows I am not at all shy about sending him to our room for a time out or getting out the <a href="https://amzn.to/2XuryRA">shower brush</a> - and how he hates the shower brush - and punishing his tight little bottom hard. But that does not happen often.<br />
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In the bedroom, I am absolutely in charge and have been since we first had sex well before we were married.<br />
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The trouble was that Robbie was so highly sexed that from about our third date he was pushing for sex. I realized that this was just his nature and that if we were going to have a successful marriage I would have to come up with a way of handling that.<br />
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Sometimes giving a man what he wants works very well and on our fifth date I invited Robbie into my apartment. He thought he was there to have sex and was incredibly excited. His lovely cock was totally erect coming in the door. I sat on my couch and he was getting ready to sit beside me.<br />
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"No, Robbie," I said pointing to a spot a couple of feet in front of me. "I want you to stand right there."<br />
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He did what he was told.<br />
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"Now, dear man, I think we are doing beautifully as a couple," I said. "You are kind, gentle, funny and you seem to be falling in love. But you are way too pushy about sex. I love being made love to but I am not going to be pressured into it. So you are just going to have to wait."<br />
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Robbie shrugged, mumbled "OK" and made a move towards the couch.<br />
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"Where do you think you're going. I told you to stand where you are. I am not done yet," I said with a little edge in my voice. "Right now I want to watch you ejaculate. Here's a tissue. Now get cracking."<br />
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Yes, it was a bit of a high risk move. He could have refused or tried to swing me around but my read of Robbie was he'd do what he was told. I was right. In a moment or two his rather large cock was out of his pants.<br />
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"Well, get on with it," I said savouring his obedience. "Just like you do at home."<br />
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Robbie got to work and in not more than a couple of minutes his cockhead turned that amazing purple colour men's cocks sometimes do and he ejaculated. I realized I'd have to get bigger tissues.<br />
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"Very good, Robbie," I said. "And good boys get treats."<br />
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I unbuttoned my blouse and unclipped my bra. "You can come over here and suck on my pretty nipples for a little while. Just leave your cock out. You are not finished."<br />
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About five minutes later, Robbie having demonstrated that he needed a bit of work on his nipple technique, I could see that his cock was getting hard again.<br />
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"Stand in front of me Robbie," I said leaving my breasts on display. "You obviously like my pretty nipples. Which is wonderful. Now I want you to ejaculate again for me. Get to work. And when you are done I want you to put your cock away, kiss me good night and go home. Without a word."<br />
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He did as he was told, made a mess on his tissue, kissed me and left silently.<br />
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Perfect.<br />
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The next morning, quite early, I texted him. "Thank you for a wonderful evening. Now, in your shower, I want you to think about my pretty nipples and ejaculate."<br />
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I sent him another text when I knew he was taking lunch. "Go to the washroom and make your little mess."<br />
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We were meeting for drinks after work and my sweet Robbie was positively glowing when I sat down.<br />
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"You are the sexiest woman I have ever met," he said with a smile. And here's the thing, he had stood up when I came to the table and he made it clear he was waiting for my permission to sit back down. Which I gave with a nod.<br />
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We have not looked back. I am totally in charge of his ejaculations. Three or four or sometimes five or six a day. I'll tell him or text him and sometimes I will demand a little video of his performance. Of course, when I want to have sex, I taper him off a little so he is extra eager. I've also trained him never to come in me without asking my permission and he knows I will often deny that permission.<br />
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The fact is that his cock is as entirely under my control as if it was in a cock cage. Which is what matters to me. And, of course, if I am busy or forget, well he knows that any ejaculation without my supervision and instruction and the shower brush will be bruising his bottom. I swing hard.<br />
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So, there you go. There really is more than one way to control a cock and the man it is attached to.<br />
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Hugs,<br />
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Cindy<br />
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Dear Cindy,<br />
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How clever of you. It really is all about control. An obedient husband should not need a cage, though they are rather fun. But I love the idea of giving an oversexed man what he wants, good and hard.<br />
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Enjoy!<br />
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HannahHannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-71189520797347802002019-11-05T13:33:00.001-08:002019-11-05T13:33:42.790-08:00Beginning as an ultra high end courtesan<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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As my readers know, I am fascinated with women who take their sexual power into their own hands whether it is by taking charge of their marriage, becoming a mistress or exploring the world of the courtesan.<br />
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I have been at work transcribing the story of Amy Jenkins, banker by day and, well, being tutored in the art of the courtesan by <span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Miss Charlotte Corday the leading lady of the night in a small, rather wealthy, East Coast city. The series is called "Only on a Tuesday" and the<a href="https://amzn.to/2JV6BcR"> first book is available free at Amazon.com</a></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14px;">Amy, as I have written, is a delightful woman entirely comfortable with the life she has chosen and the many rewards it has brought her. In this first book, she is displayed for one of the gentlemen who will become a patron in her future.</span>Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-67247694494894062842019-11-04T12:37:00.000-08:002019-11-04T12:37:01.295-08:00Ending the sexual barter system<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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A number of people wrote me to ask about "<a href="https://amzn.to/339PStV">Locked-In Love</a>" a book I recommended in my last post and, particularly, about what the author identified as the sexual barter system which underlay his marriage.<br />
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Here's how the author described it:<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">"<span style="background-color: white;">Through chastity and communication, they identified a sexual trade-off that existed in their marriage, a 'barter system' wherein every action he engaged in had an undercurrent of sexual pressure, a literal tat-for-tit. Freed from it through a chastity device, they were able to enjoy each other on a more meaningful and trusting level. And in lowering the quantity of sex, they raised the quality."</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">The book is well worth reading for couples curious about male chastity but, of course, it is written from the male perspective. I thought a note on the female perspective might be interesting.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Sexual barter is as old as the hills and rests on a singular fact about the world: men are ready and eager to "go" all the time and women are sexually cyclical. Obviously, this is a generalization but it underlies everything from long term vanilla marriages through to <a href="https://amzn.to/2PAEeEx">the thriving escort industry</a>. The discreet world of <a href="https://amzn.to/2WBkwd3">the kept woman, the wealthy man's mistress</a>, is driven by this sexual mismatch. It is also the basis for the vast number of female led relationships and <a href="https://amzn.to/2C4Lmky">wifedom marriages</a>. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">The idea of sexual barter is, in fact, at the heart of a great deal of what passes for romantic life. A man woos a woman and, if he is successful, she falls in love and becomes sexually available to him. Do they live happily ever after? Well, that depends.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Wives and girlfriends want their men to do certain things, behave in certain ways and, generally (though not often overtly) do what they are told. In even the most vanilla marriage wives will devise rewards and punishments to encourage certain behaviours and discourage others. More than one young wife has given her husband a quick blow job when he's cleaned up the yard or slipped into his favourite stockings and heels to signal her availability when he gets that promotion.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Men quickly learn that if they do what they are told they may receive treats. The trouble is that men will also quickly begin to take those treats for granted. If fact, unless a wife takes charge, most men will simply assume their efforts will always be rewarded. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Now, the whole sexual barter mistake is often layered on top of a male belief that they also have the right to sex generally and that a wife<i> has</i> to accommodate their desires. Whether it is once a night or once a week, men somehow have the idea their rather instinctive sexuality should be deferred to. The fact this instinctual sexuality is driven by their baser natures and animal urges does not seem to bother them a bit.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Worse, from the time they are little girls, many women are taught that on the one hand, they need to be in control of the sexual situation and on the other, that they need to accept at least the sexual importunings of their husbands. What they are not taught and what is actually transgressive is the idea that their sexuality is cyclical, the very opposite of masculine and that within a successful relationship it is always the woman whose sexuality matters. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Sexual bartering takes place when a woman satisfies a man when she, herself, is not at all in the mood. While it can be portrayed as "fun" or "spontaneous" it is actually a denial of how female sexuality works.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Now <a href="https://amzn.to/36nWB5u">an escort</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2NzyNTA">a mistress</a> takes advantage of the fact men have unbearable urges and charges cash money to take care of those urges. While "decent women" are shocked by this sort of cash transaction I am inclined to think <a href="https://amzn.to/2pxG2DB">most girls should spend a bit of time as a mistress in their early twenties</a> - if only there were enough wealthy men to go around.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">In a marriage the cash nexus is, well, awkward. Your sweet husband may be supporting you or you may both work, but when he wants a blow job handing you a couple of hundred dollars, or even a couple of thousand, is not really how a marriage can or should work. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">So, how do you end the whole sexual barter game?</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Whether a woman decides to lead her marriage or simply that her husband needs boundaries, sexual barter ends when she decides to put her needs first. It really is that simple. A single decision.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">In practice, this means that for the few days a month a woman is very interested indeed her husband will be required to pleasure her. And she should put it exactly that way. She sets the pace, she enjoys her orgasms, she may or may not let him finish. Every woman is different and many enjoy some sex on the shoulders of the few days a month they are on heat. Which is wonderful and a bonus for their husband. However, for the rest of the month, sex is more a chore than a pleasure and a wise woman makes it very clear to her husband he is to stay well away.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="background-color: white;">Some women require their husband's chastity - either<a href="https://amzn.to/338O0Se"> caged</a> or on the honour system - when she is not interested in sex. This can work well with older husbands. With younger, randier, men it is not a bad idea to include supervised masturbation during that part of the month when sex is out of the question. The fact is that a younger man, unless firmly locked up, is going to masturbate. Far better that a wife keeps track of this habit and sets aside a few minutes every few days for her husband to humble himself in her presence. Not too often of course.</span></span><br />
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"Men are remarkably proud of their ability to make little messes and if a wife can make her husband's masturbation something she controls - and this is easy as having him soil a tissue before he goes to work a couple of times a week becomes a ritual of control which he'll enjoy - then she is taking away his power to play with his cock as he feels like it. [Note: for men who would like their wives to be more dominant, proposing to your wife that you not be allowed to masturbate unsupervised will speed that process along without worrying your wife too much about the broader implications.)<br />
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Once a wife has taken control over her husband's ejaculations she has, for all intents and purposes, become the sexually dominant partner. The cock in the marriage has surrendered its autonomy. Where a wife goes from there is entirely up to her. She may want to leave the dynamic right there and enjoy the fruits of her acknowledged sexual superiority or she may want to extend the scope of her dominion."<br />
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Sexual barter only occurs where women allow it to. In a wife led marriage, both partners acknowledge that it is only her sexual needs, her pleasure, which matter. There is no room for "barter" because a well trained husband knows and accepts that he has no sexual rights at all. His erections, his ejaculations, are at her pleasure and at her direction.<br />
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Of course, it takes a little while for a husband to accept that his cock is no longer his own and here a chastity cage may prove an essential reminder. After all, a man in a <a href="https://amzn.to/338O0Se">chastity device</a> is focused on his wife, not his cock, and that is how it should be.</div>
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As many of you know, elliot and I have published a number of books. Over the years it has grown into quite a substantial<br />
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You can find elliot's collection here <a href="https://amzn.to/2wIiej4">https://amzn.to/2wIiej4</a>.<br />
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My, much smaller collection including a femdom novel fragment and several books about mistresses and escorts can be found here: <a href="https://amzn.to/2IlVDOU">https://amzn.to/2IlVDOU</a>.<br />
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While I keep trying to finish my own guide to female led relationships, here are a few guides I have found helpful. They are not quite elliot's and my relationship, but they are interesting and cover some of the essentials:<br />
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<a href="https://dominant-wife.blogspot.com/2019/10/the-dominant-mistress.html">Yesterday's post about a Dominant Mistress</a> sparked a wonderful letter from Nancy who writes from a small city in the South Eastern United States,<br />
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A few years ago my husband Kyle confessed to me that he would like me to take the leadership of our marriage. It was quite an adjustment and reading your blog and<a href="https://amzn.to/33DcCT0"> elliot's books about your female led relationship</a> has been very helpful.<br />
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It was not easy but it seemed to make him happy. I keep him chaste and in <a href="https://amzn.to/35NwRzd">a chastity device</a> most of the time. I prefer the metal to the silicone but have both. But the fact is that I was and am very uncomfortable other elements of female-led marriage, especially disciplining Kyle. And he certain needs and, frankly, craves discipline.<br />
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I took your advice and got a <a href="https://amzn.to/31zX5lD">long-handled wooden shower brush</a> which I have used occasionally. But it was obvious that I just couldn't really swing it hard enough. I mean I could, but I love Kyle too much to seriously cause him the sort of pain he seemed to need. And there were other things he wanted which I just can't imagine. Being pegged was one thing and taking an enema was another and, well, he kept begging me to pee on him. I know it took a lot of courage just to ask but I just couldn't do any of that sort of thing. It all left us both very frustrated.<br />
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Of course, in my little city, while I have lots of friends, we are all gracious southern ladies who really don't speak about bedroom matters. I kept trying to do what Kyle needed but I just couldn't. Finally, not knowing where to turn, I mentioned I was having problems with Kyle to my doctor. She is much more worldly than I am and asked a few questions and then said, "I think I may have a solution. Leave it with me for a few days."<br />
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A few days later my phone rang and a rather pretty voice said, "Mrs. x, my name is Fiona. I'm a nurse and Dr. y suggested I might be of assistance with your husband. I thought we might meet and discuss what you need and what your husband requires."<br />
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We quickly agreed to meet for tea at one of the nicer hotels in town and the next day I dressed carefully and had a little notebook in my handbag. Fiona had asked me to make a list of what I would want for Kyle and what Kyle needed. I had that list.<br />
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Fiona had told me she was quite petite and had jet black hair. The lovely girl who was wearing a pleated white, calf-length dress and a clever, muted pink tweed Chanel jacket who sat down across from me had not said she was beautiful. But she was. She held out her hand.<br />
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"I'm Fiona, Nancy," she said. "Let's order tea and we'll figure out how I might help."<br />
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We had a wonderful, funny, conversation. She was, in fact, a nurse but she only worked three nights a week at one of our hospitals on the acute care ward.<br />
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"The rest of my time is my own," she said. "Which means I am able to accommodate situations such as yours. You would be surprised at how many of the nice ladies we are taking tea with have these sorts of problems."<br />
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Fiona ran her "practice" from a lovely little cottage - she had pictures on her phone - on an estate just outside town. "It's very private and a little isolated. And I have all the facilities you need for this sort of work. Did you make your list?"<br />
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I handed it to her.<br />
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"Very straightforward," she said. "I am happy to be Kyle's disciplinarian and the other items on the list will simply be worked in as needed. Will he be ejaculating?"<br />
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I was very reassured by her very professional tone. "I don't think so unless you think it would be helpful."<br />
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"Quite the opposite, ma'am. Is he in chastity?"<br />
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"Usually."<br />
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"Well always send him locked to me and the question will not come up. Although, as you indicated that pegging was on the agenda, he will certainly have an intromission as that is how I tell when a pegging is complete."<br />
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We sipped our tea and went into some detail about Kyle's submissive fantasies. Fiona was very funny but also very professional.<br />
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"Men are remarkably silly. I think because, unlike women, they never really have to grow up," she said. "Which suits me as it provides a delightful cash income without the slightest risk. And most of my clients are, in fact, wives who know what their husbands want but who are simply not willing to provide it. I am more than willing."<br />
<br />
"Do you want me to do maintenance?" she asked.<br />
<br />
"Maintenance?" I asked right back.<br />
<br />
"Yes, some female led couples find that a good spanking or caning once a week reminds a man of his position. I have three clients whose husbands I see weekly," she said.<br />
<br />
"I'll have to think about that. Do you think it works?" I asked.<br />
<br />
"Very much depends on the husband," said Fiona. "It sounds to me as if your husband is pretty obedient right now. I'd suggest leaving maintenance alone for the moment. You can always change your mind. And, once you are comfortable with the fact that I will be doing the serious corrections, you might do maintenance yourself."<br />
<br />
"That's a thought," I said thinking about my shower brush.<br />
<br />
"Now, when I am disciplining a husband I usually wear a wonderfully old fashioned nurse's uniform. With the cap and the pinned on watch. I have several. It keeps the interaction clinical and professional," said Fiona. "It also means that a wife can easily say, "You are going to see Nurse if you keep that up" and the husband will know exactly what to expect."<br />
<br />
Fiona was expensive, "I prefer to be on a monthly retainer against which I will charge for the time spent and carry the balance forward. There are no "extras" and I take the time required for a full and thorough correction. You can send Kyle as often as needed. The only thing I need is a note from you indicating the level of correction, from 1-5, required. 1 is pretty mild. In Kyle's case likely a paddling and an enema. At 3 there will be marks and possibly some bruising. A 5 is pretty severe and you should reserve it for occasions where he really needs punishment."<br />
<br />
Fiona finished her tea. I gave her an envelope with her first month's fee in cash. She stood up and held out her hand. "This will be the last time I meet you. Your husband is in good hands," she said. "After each appointment, when your husband is doing his corner time, I will fill out a short report which he will take home to you."<br />
<br />
Now, I have gone on far too long but, the next week, Kyle was more than a little rude to me and I looked him straight in the eye and said, "That's enough. You are going to see Nurse." Of course he had no idea what I was talking about but I sent Fiona a text and set an appointment for that evening. As she requested, I wrote a short note explaining the nature of the offence and wrote a number, 2, if memory serves.<br />
<br />
I called Kyle into my sewing room. "Kyle, deliver this note to the lady who lives at this address and do exactly what you are told. Your appointment is at eight. Shower first."<br />
<br />
He looked pretty worried but obeyed and was soon off to meet Nurse.<br />
<br />
Two hours later he was home.<br />
<br />
"Strip," I said wanting to inspect Fiona's work. Silently Kyle took off his clothes. "Corner."<br />
<br />
As he walked to his corner I looked at his perfectly welted bottom. Then I opened Fiona's report.<br />
<br />
It was succinct. "Caning, 24 medium strokes with light cane; enema, 2 quarts, 10 minute retention, some cramping; small anal plug, one hour after golden shower in dog cage. Husband responsive to commands, well trained. Kyle accepted his correction and does not plan to be rude again. I explained my service and told Kyle that I was acting as your proxy to provide necessary and strict discipline. signed Nurse Fiona.<br />
<br />
"OK Kyle, you can go and put your robe on," I said. "Then come back and tell me all about your visit with Nurse."<br />
<br />
"Yes, ma'am."<br />
<br />
I fetched some wine and lighted a couple of candles on our coffee table. Kyle came in and I motioned him over to the couch.<br />
<br />
"So, how did you like Nurse Fiona?" I asked.<br />
<br />
"Wow. Where did you find her?" replied Kyle.<br />
<br />
"Through a friend," I said.<br />
<br />
"Darling," said Kyle getting on his knees. "First off I have to apologize for being rude. And I have to thank you for making the effort to find someone to correct me."<br />
<br />
"Well don't do it again. Now get up and tell," I said.<br />
<br />
Kyle sat back down on the couch, a bit gingerly.<br />
<br />
"Okay, but I am still sort of processing it all. I had a hard time finding Nurse's cottage but, eventually, I found the turn off and drove down a narrow country road for a quarter mile until I saw a nice little bungalow with its outside lights on. I parked, got out the car and knocked on the wide wood door. I heard heels clicking and the door opened and there was Nurse. She's tiny and in full nurse's uniform. I handed her your note.<br />
<br />
"Stay here," she said. She closed the door with me outside while she read it. The door re-opened and she said into a phone which was recording, "I am Nurse Fiona. Your wife has sent you here for correction and punishment. When you step across my threshold you have agreed to do exactly as you are told and accept whatever corrections, punishments or orders I give. Your wife requires that you do as I tell you. Do you agree?"<br />
<br />
"Yes, Nurse," I said.<br />
<br />
"Then, come in," said Nurse putting down her phone. "Follow me."<br />
<br />
She led me to a set of stairs which obviously went to the basement. "Down."<br />
<br />
I noticed that she had a water bottle and was wearing what looked like a 1940's nurse's uniform.<br />
<br />
"Undress."<br />
<br />
I did as I was told.<br />
<br />
"What a nice chastity cage. Your wife had very good taste. Now go and kneel on that bench."<br />
<br />
I went over to a very simple bench which was well padded and had restraints for my wrists and ankles as well as a belt which went around my thighs and another which held my waist very securely. Nurse said nothing as she buckled me in and tightened the belts. I was immobilized. When she was done Nurse sat on a stool directly in front of me.<br />
<br />
"Now Kyle, your wife has sent you to be punished for your rudeness. She has indicated in her note that you are to have a level 2 punishment out of a possible 5 levels. Open your mouth."<br />
<br />
I did and a thick, penis shaped gag, was put in place. I heard the click of a padlock.<br />
<br />
"Now a little ginger," said Nurse moving behind me. I felt something push into my backdoor.<br />
<br />
"Ginger root works differently with different people. We'll leave it to get started for ten minutes and then you'll get your caning. If you clench your bottom the sting will intensify. After your caning and one or two more punishments, you'll be getting an enema which will, I suspect, reduce the sting before we put in your bottom plug," said Nurse. Then I heard her go back upstairs and I could hear her television come on.<br />
<br />
The ginger began to sting. Not unbearable but irritating. The minutes went by slowly and the sting increased. And if I squirmed I would get a dose of ginger juice which upped the discomfort. By the time I heard Nurse's heels clicking down the stairs it was really becoming difficult. I was sweating.<br />
<br />
"Enjoying your little fig aren't you Kyle," she said. "It will get a lot more intense as I whip you. A level two caning is 24 strokes. It is a simple system. Level 1 is 12, 2 is 24, 3 is 48 and so on. But I am using a relatively light cane today. If this was level 3 I would use a medium weight cane and at level 5 I use a heavy cane. For nearly 200 strokes. You'll want to avoid that."<br />
<br />
Without a moment's warning I could hear the cane whistle through the air and crack on my bottom.<br />
<br />
"At level 2 I do not cross my strokes, but at level 3 I switch sides and your bottom looks like a nasty tic tac toe board. I really would not clench my bottom in your position, the ginger will hurt more than the cane," said Nurse. "And last longer. Only a few more to go."<br />
<br />
"Darling, please, never go past level 2," said Kyle. "I was crying after a dozen strokes and Nurse didn't care. I would have been screaming but the gag silenced me. And I couldn't help clenching my bottom so the ginger was leaking agony in my bottom."<br />
<br />
Nurse was relentless. I swear she timed the strokes so that every ten seconds a new wave of pain hit. But I was counting the strokes and, at last, we'd hit twenty four.<br />
<br />
"As this is your first time you will only have six bonus strokes. Normally there are at least a dozen. And they are always cross hatched," said Nurse switching sides. "I have a little less control with my backhand so this might pinch."<br />
<br />
Pinch! Dear Lord. Each stroke connected to at least five of my original welts which actually cut the skin a little. I know because Nurse cleaned me up afterwards. The ginger was excruciating. But nothing compared to the cane. Or so I thought.<br />
<br />
"There you go, done. I'll just leave you there for ten minutes to let you catch your breath. You did very well but, well, you don't have much choice do you," said Nurse. I could hear her heels going back upstairs. Now the ginger was competing with my blazing bottom's agony. I honestly hoped I'd pass out but no chance of that and, truth to tell, the endorphins had clicked in and while everything hurt I was well past caring. I closed my eyes and embraced the pain knowing it was for you.<br />
<br />
Nurse came back.<br />
<br />
"We'll just put on <a href="https://amzn.to/2VUEkrK">this blindfold</a> and then we can give you a nice shower," said Nurse. "I have always wanted a rotatable bench so my naughty boys could look up but, well, they can't look because I am not that sort of girl, so this does fine."<br />
<br />
I began to feel the warmness of her pee as she soaked my head and then my arms and shoulders. It was almost hot. I couldn't see a thing but I could smell her pussy scent and the urine as it hit me. It went on for a long time and I realized why there was a drain in the floor. Finally, Nurse was done and I had had my first Golden Shower. The ginger was agonizing and I was praying that Nurse would finally pop it out. No go.<br />
<br />
"We'll just let you enjoy that for a little while," said Nurse. And I heard her going back up stairs.<br />
<br />
Nancy, I cannot tell you how much the ginger stung. It was like having a million hornets up my bum. She just left me there. I could hear the TV and the show was, at last, ending. But she didn't come back down. I don't really know how long I was there until, finally, I heard her coming back. I felt her pull the ginger out of my ass but that was no relief.<br />
<br />
"So Kyle, I expect you will never be rude to your wife again," said Nurse.<br />
<br />
I couldn't respond other than nodding as the gag was still in.<br />
<br />
"Time to clean out that nasty ginger juice," said Nurse putting on a pair of gloves. "Two quarts of nice, warm soapy water up your bottom and all the way into your colon will help a lot."<br />
<br />
I felt her push some sort of lubricant in and then a quite thick thing which went in a long way. It hurt but not nearly as much as the ginger. Then a gush of warmth and the stinging died away. I began to feel full and then she attached a second bag and I began to feel cramps. Small at first but they increased in intensity.<br />
<br />
"You'll cramp a bit, just relax. You only have to hold this for ten minutes," said Nurse.<br />
<br />
Those were ten long minutes during which Nurse undid all but my wrist restraints and put something on my bottom.<br />
<br />
"Your wife will be pleased. You'll have welts for a week," said Nurse.<br />
<br />
The cramping was getting worse and I desperately needed to get to a washroom. Nurse looked at her watch.<br />
<br />
"OK, keep holding. I will release your wrists and then you will be able to go to the washroom. I'll be waiting."<br />
<br />
Relief. Darling, I totally understand why you never gave me an enema. But it felt so good to release. Amazing really. I came out of the washroom to see Nurse standing beside a dog cage with a fairly large butt plug in her gloved hands.<br />
<br />
"We'll just slip this in and lock you up in your cage for a while so you can think about how grateful you are to Nancy for arranging all this. When I come back I will let you out, you will get dressed and come upstairs. I will take out your gag and you, without saying a word, will go home to your loving wife and the head of your household," said Nurse.<br />
<br />
About half an hour in the dog cage later that is exactly what happened.<br />
<br />
"Thank you Darling," said my dear husband.<br />
<br />
"You've learned your lesson?" I asked.<br />
<br />
"Oh yes."<br />
<br />
"And that what you've wanted me to do?" I asked, curious.<br />
<br />
"I don't know. I can't imagine you being that intense."<br />
<br />
"But that is what you have needed, isn't it?"<br />
<br />
"Yes, ma'am," said my darling husband.<br />
<br />
"Then that is what you'll have. Now go and shower and go to bed. I'll be up in a little while."<br />
<br />
Which is how we started with Nurse Fiona. I make sure her retainer is paid up to date and Kyle is sent over a couple of times a month if he is naughty. Which he often is. We've never gone beyond level 2 and I suspect we never will. But Kyle never knows what is in the envelope. But he does know that Nurse Fiona will follow my instructions to the letter.<br />
<br />
I just have to say "Three" for a complete attitude change.<br />
<br />
It's perfect.<br />
<br />
Yours,<br />
<br />
Nancy<br />
<br />
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<br />
I wrote back,<br />
<br />
Dear Nancy,<br />
<br />
Thank you so much for sharing this.<br />
<br />
Ginger is a nasty thing and darling elliot has been figged more than occasionally.<br />
<br />
Nurse Fiona sounds like a treasure and how clever of your doctor to find a solution.<br />
<br />
For some women, the very idea of punishing their husbands, no matter how much their husbands want to be corrected, is impossible. Outsourcing is a great idea.<br />
<br />
The difficulty is finding a woman like Nurse Fiona. They are out there but all too often wives turn to professional dominatrixs who don't quite "get it". Nurse Fiona obviously does and both you and Kyle are very, very lucky to have found her.<br />
<br />
Enjoy!<br />
<br />
Hannah<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
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<br />
<br />
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<br />Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-75943504525811784312019-10-19T00:47:00.000-07:002019-10-19T00:47:40.700-07:00The Dominant Mistress<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I had a wonderful letter from Christine who lives in a medium-sized American city:<br />
<br />
Dear Miss Jay,<br />
<br />
What fun it is to read your blog and your books because, in a way, they are about a part of my life which I keep very discreet but enjoy immensely.<br />
<br />
A little about me. I just turned thirty have a college degree in history and a good job at a very specialized employment agency. Very 9-5, very conservative, quite well-paid but, honestly, a little boring. I'm single by choice and, while I occasionally date, likely to stay that way for at least a few more years.<br />
<br />
I am quite pretty. Brunette with my hair cut into a short bob. Fairly tall at 5' 7" and nicely proportioned. Which is where this discreet part of my life begins. After college, when I was working retail and trying to make ends meet, I did a little modelling. Nothing all that glamourous but the camera likes me and I am a bit of a free spirit. Once I got to know a photographer or a guy with a camera, I was more than willing to make more money doing lingerie shoots and, for even more money, semi-nude work. I was very strict about the fact that my more risque work was not for publication much less for the internet and my photographers have honored my wishes. It was a fun thing to do on a Saturday afternoon and while I didn't make a fortune, it was all in cash. It bridged the gap until I found my current job.<br />
<br />
I had thought that I would give up modelling when I got a better paying job but I had a group of regulars and why give up a couple of thousand dollars a month so I kept going. And I began to branch out into the "fetish" world. Corsets and stockings and high black boots. I guess because I am brunette I always seemed to be cast as the "dominant" in these sort of shoots. The blonds were the girls being tied up, I was doing the tying. Which was tons of fun.<br />
<br />
I have to admit I never really thought about any sort of dominance in a sexual sense. I knew there was such a thing but really thought it was about sadistic guys in the <i><a href="https://amzn.to/2VWsEEF">50 Shades of Grey</a> </i>sense. But I read a bit, Gloria Brame's<a href="https://amzn.to/2BmQQ9N"> <i>Different Loving</i></a> was a revelation about dominance and submission and that led me to reading quite a bit online and, eventually, to your blog and elliot's first book, <a href="https://amzn.to/2VSs4Ij">A Man In My Position</a><b>. </b><br />
<b><br /></b>
My fetish modelling gave me the chance to play a little with these ideas and I created a bit of a persona, Miss Christina complete with her own black leather corset and fetish outerwear. Some of my photographers were more than a little excited to be giving me <a href="https://amzn.to/2VVHmft">expensive kid leather pencil skirts</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/35MtyII">long black leather gloves</a>. One guy had a bit of a boot fetish and I had two pairs of <a href="https://amzn.to/32zIQi0">thigh-high, black leather, high-heeled boots</a>. Plus all sorts of props like <a href="https://amzn.to/2pwzx3G">riding crops</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2MUFtv7">canes</a> and a cute little <a href="https://amzn.to/2VTw0Zj">leather paddle with a very special handle</a>.<br />
<br />
"Miss Christina" was much in demand of a Saturday afternoon because a lot of these photographers were, rather obviously, not so much interested in the "shot" as the fantasy. I was willing to play ball because I liked the money and I enjoyed the persona. While I was not "Miss Christina" she was certainly a part of me.<br />
<br />
Miss Christina continued to be booked and one man, in particular, could be counted on for two or three bookings a month. Kevin, obviously not his real name, was a very nice, if timid, man in his fifties. Not bad looking and delightfully generous. He told me he loved buying me nice things and along with a few bits of fetish wear kept me in <a href="https://amzn.to/31oyIqF">glamourous silk stockings</a> and pretty<a href="https://amzn.to/2J3dnN7"> cashmere sweaters</a> (which he liked me to wear without a bra).<br />
<br />
After a shoot Kevin would often take me out for dinner. Nice restaurants, no expectations. It was interesting because he really wanted to have dinner with Miss Christina but was "settling" for me. Miss Christina only existed in the photo studio. Which we talked about. A lot.<br />
<br />
One evening, after a particularly successful shoot where Miss Christina had tied up and lightly caned that week's little blonde submissive, Kevin was very worked up.<br />
<br />
"What if I set up a private studio for Miss Christina?" he asked.<br />
<br />
"What for?"<br />
<br />
"Well, I thought you might accept me as..."<br />
<br />
"As what, Kevin?" I asked. "I know you have a lovely wife, children and, frankly, I don't see how having a studio would change that."<br />
<br />
"Well it wouldn't," said Kevin. "But, perhaps, you could be Mistress Christina a few hours a week."<br />
<br />
"That would be very expensive," I said hoping to kill the idea.<br />
<br />
"Oh, that really doesn't matter," said Kevin. "My little company is doing very well."<br />
<br />
"Let me think about it," I said. "Could the studio be a loft where I could live?"<br />
<br />
"Sure."<br />
<br />
"And you do know that mistresses get allowances."<br />
<br />
"Yes, Mistress," he said.<br />
<br />
"Not yet, you naughty little man," I said laughing. "I said I'd think about it."<br />
<br />
"Yes, Miss."<br />
<br />
We booked for the following weekend and I thought about it.<br />
<br />
Not much to think about really. I would get a nice place to live and an allowance and Kevin? Well, Kevin would find Mistress Christina waiting for him a couple of times a week. I'd need to be a bit creative about which paces to put him through but I was certain I would think of something.<br />
<br />
So off I went and I found a very nice loft which had a decent sized, out of the way, space in the back where Mistress Christina could construct her lair. After our shoot the following Saturday, I took Kevin to meet the agent and he signed a two year lease. I got the keys right there and the agent left.<br />
<br />
I looked at Kevin.<br />
<br />
"Strip. You are never in your street clothes in my domain," I said.<br />
<br />
He did what he was told and was soon standing in the middle of the bare, white painted space with a very erect penis of rather modest stature.<br />
<br />
"Oh, your poor wife. At least I don't have to pretend to enjoy that little thing. Get down on your knees, chin on the floor, arms stretched ahead of you," I said. "I will start as I mean to finish. Will marks be a problem at home."<br />
<br />
"Yes Mistress, but there will be times when they won't," he said.<br />
<br />
"Then I will try not to leave any," I said bringing the strap down on his pale white bottom. Not terribly hard but with a snap. The slap of the strap echoed off the bare walls. "I am going to need some furniture."<br />
<br />
"And a decent allowance. You'll write a number down after your punishment and you better hope I accept it because otherwise, you are going to have a real punishment," I said bring down the strap as punctuation. "You never want a real punishment. Ever."<br />
<br />
I want on like this until his bottom was just this side of bruising. His erection never waivered.<br />
<br />
"Still hard I see," I said as I finished. "So write down that number."<br />
<br />
"Yes Mistress," he said as I handed him a pencil and a piece of paper. He wrote a gratifying number as I was sure he would.<br />
<br />
"Done, payment tonight. You can phone transfer it when I am done with you. Now jerk off onto the paper," I said. I had planned that part.<br />
<br />
"Thank you Mistress," he said.<br />
<br />
"Well, I want to have dinner so jerk that little cock off quickly," I said.<br />
<br />
"Where?" said Kevin looking around for what, privacy, a tissue?<br />
<br />
"Right here, on the paper," I said. "On your knees. Like every week from now on. Start jerking."<br />
<br />
"But..."<br />
<br />
"Oh, you're worried about your little mess. That's what your tongue and your mouth are for. Clean up. And, maybe, if you are very good, someday my pleasure," I said.<br />
<br />
The power of words is amazing and Kevin shot streams of cum all over the paper and the floor.<br />
<br />
"Lick," I said. "And don't miss a drop."<br />
<br />
He did. Then he dressed, transferred the money, and then we went to dinner.<br />
<br />
I teased him over dinner about his sore bottom and his humiliation on the paper. But I was also very sweet as I negotiated a clothing allowance and hair care and a few other things.<br />
<br />
I do wish I had read your <a href="https://amzn.to/2VVhT5w">Modern Mistress</a> before the conversation but I did pretty well.<br />
<br />
That's how it started and, honestly, it has been pretty much the same sort of thing every week for two years. I have him come over and clean my loft in a <a href="https://amzn.to/2MTzjvp">pretty maid's uniform</a> I had him buy from Amazon. Then a foot massage and then, if he is very lucky, he might be told to lick.<br />
<br />
Typically, I give him some sort of physical correction and once a month, when his wife is on her period and unlikely to want his attentions, I will give him a good caning and leave welts.<br />
<br />
We've never discussed what he wants. The very point of being a dominant mistress is that, like a dominant wife, what he wants does not matter. It is what I want that counts.<br />
<br />
Now, you have to keep it interesting and, for three years, I have been threatening to peg him. He wants that a lot and he'll get it. The last day he is with me which is a while from now but he does not know that.<br />
<br />
As a dominant mistress I am exclusive. I have no other submissive men. But I do like men, real men with real cocks and, once in a while, I will tie Kevin and gag him and put him in my bedroom closet when a boy fucks me hard. Something Kevin knows he will never be allowed to do. I leave the door open just a crack so Kevin can see what he will always be missing.<br />
<br />
Kevin seems to enjoy our time together. He's renewed the lease, raised my allowances and keeps giving me pretty things. I like being spoilt.<br />
<br />
Please keep doing your blog and your books,<br />
<br />
Christine<br />
<br />
----<br />
<br />
I wrote back,<br />
<br />
Dear Christine,<br />
<br />
Lucky you!<br />
<br />
I really do think that every woman should spend a bit of her life being "kept" and pampered and enjoyed. But you combine that with the female dominant role that so many men crave.<br />
<br />
Lucky Kevin!<br />
<br />
Reading my mail there are so many men who want to submit to a lovely woman but simply cannot find her. Kevin did and, I suspect, could not be happier.<br />
<br />
One note, never worry about his wife. You are actually doing her a huge favour. You are not about taking her man away, rather you are giving him what he craves so she can go on with her life.<br />
<br />
It is a grand bargain and keep raising your allowance.<br />
<br />
Enjoy!<br />
<br />
Hannah<br />
<br />
<br />Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-22711816826816050652019-10-05T14:01:00.000-07:002019-10-05T14:01:00.557-07:00Time Outs<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Some dominant wives want servile, timid husbands who are entirely submissive all the time. Which is fine but, honestly, for me that would be pretty boring. I want elliot to be the smart, sassy man I married. Of course, I also want his instant obedience and his love and respect; but I married an alpha male and I have no intention of giving up the wonderful masculine traits that entails.<br />
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Keeping his <a href="https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QpPBzphlHiQv8xbSE5-eFJ8AAAFtnZaTzAEAAAFKAWDnYKQ/https://assoc-redirect.amazon.com/g/r/https://amzn.to/2LKoooA?linkCode=w61&imprToken=4-NUMaV1tMuG5v2tTXHbIw&slotNum=3">cock in a cage</a> is an assertion of my authority and the fact there is only one sexuality in our marriage, mine. His discipline, his physical training, his submission to both myself and my maid/companion Mady, his periodic confinement in his little room, are all designed to shape his character, not change it.<br />
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Which means, of course, that from time to time, my sweet elliot gets a little rambunctious. Very much the nature of the beast and I wouldn't have it any other way.<br />
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That said, there are lines he knows he cannot cross. One of them is backchat. He does not always remember this. There are other minor annoyances which, while they must be corrected, don't always call for the cane or <a href="https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QpPBzphlHiQv8xbSE5-eFJ8AAAFtnZaTzAEAAAFKAWDnYKQ/https://assoc-redirect.amazon.com/g/r/https://amzn.to/2LHh4Ki?linkCode=w61&imprToken=4-NUMaV1tMuG5v2tTXHbIw&slotNum=2">shower brush</a>. In fact, I would argue that dominant wives are wise to keep physical correction as a measured response for serious misbehaviour.<br />
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In my house, elliot (and sometimes, when she is naughty, Mady) know that minor infractions lead directly to a time out. Just a few minutes in a corner or locked in a closet. <a href="https://amzn.to/30PqvMb">Corner time</a> is a very effective "call to order" and can be imposed, literally anywhere. (Mady was a bit cheeky in a ladies shop the other day and I sent her into the changing room to stand in the corner. As she was going in she was going to close the door, "No, Mady, leave the door open." Part of corner time is the humiliation.)<br />
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Being locked in a convenient closet is a terrific "time out". Effectively, elliot is banished for a few minutes or even, an hour or two. For a man with an active mind and lots going on, the sheer boredom of standing or sitting in the dark is a very real punishment. So much so that he has actually asked me to cane him rather than giving him a closet time out. No luck with that request and it always adds fifteen minutes to his closet time.<br />
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Creative corrections ensure that elliot and Mady remember their places without losing the feistiness which makes my house such fun.<br />
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<br />Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-39913627270952261482019-10-03T14:27:00.000-07:002019-10-03T14:27:42.602-07:00Locktober<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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elliot has been in chastity since Labour Day and is all the better and more attentive for it. I have allowed him one ejaculation and Mady tells me she has had him out twice to enjoy a little penetration. Of course he knows he is never to ejaculate when Mady is using him and he also knows that if he does he'll be whipped severely and locked down in his "meditation" room for several days. He's very careful. So, at our house "Locktober" is not really all that big a deal.<br />
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Other marriages have different routines and I was delighted to get this letter from a dominant wife in Oregon a few days ago.<br />
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Dear Miss Jay,<br />
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I love reading your blog. You have such a wonderful, matter of fact, way of leading your marriage.<br />
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My husband, roy, accepted my leadership in our marriage a couple of years after we were first married five years ago. For the most part that has involved roy doing what he is told and accepting the fact that if he is disobedient or talks back he is in for a paddling. I have a <a href="https://amzn.to/2MaimN0">light 14 inch bamboo paddle </a>for quick corrections, a <a href="https://amzn.to/331IJvo">cute 8 inch hairbrush</a> which I keep in my bag and am happy to use if roy gets stroppy when we're out and, on your recommendation, a <a href="https://amzn.to/2LHh4Ki">17 3/4 inch wooden shower brush </a>which roy hates and I use only sparingly. Just having the shower brush in the shower reminds roy not to masturbate without my permission.<br />
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Rather like you, I am not especially fond of penetrative sex. I would much rather have roy pay me oral attention and I have trained him to pleasure me and then accept the fact it is my choice as to whether or not he will be allowed to pleasure himself. Which is fine but in the last year I have wanted a bit more control and I have been putting roy in a <a href="https://amzn.to/2LKoooA">chastity device</a>. This has been an occasional thing until the last couple of months where I have been leaving him locked up for a few days at a time.<br />
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He has responded very well to fairly short periods of chastity - yes, it really is true that a man in chastity will do almost anything to be released - but now I would like to extend those periods.<br />
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My thought was that "Locktober" might be a good test run for roy's chastity to become his default position. Rather like elliot. So, I am going to lock him in on October 1 and, no matter how much he begs, I am not letting him out until Halloween.<br />
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My thought is that I will do a weekly clean up with a face cloth with roy's hands <a href="https://amzn.to/2LHBDpS">handcuffed</a> behind his back. I was also thinking that, around the 15th, I might masturbate him to relive the pressure.<br />
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What do you think of my plans?<br />
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Yours sincerely,<br />
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Cecily<br />
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I wrote back.<br />
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Dear Cecily,<br />
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What a lucky man roy is to have found an intelligent woman to obey. Good for you.<br />
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I think your plan to lock roy up for thirty-one days is excellent. Extended chastity changes the whole dynamic in a female-led relationship. I know the shower brush impresses the seriousness of your dominion on roy's posterior but having his cock locked up for a month will add a whole new dimension to your marriage.<br />
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So I think, overall, your plans for Locktober are nearly perfect. Two quibbles, first, you write about locking roy up but you don't mention upping his oral service requirements. Locktober is not just about going cock free for a month, it is also about the lady of the house enjoying lavish oral sex, massages, foot baths and all sorts of other delightful things a chaste male will be only too happy to do.<br />
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My second quibble is more serious. A man in chastity should, in my view, be chaste for the duration of the time you set. If you are locking him up for October he should not come at all in October. Strict, I know, but for long term chastity to have its desired effect, orgasm denial needs to be part of it.<br />
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Now, if you really think you need to "relieve the pressure" (and I note there is no proper medical evidence that prolonged chastity is harmful), might I suggest, mid-month, that you push a vibrator up his bum and let his prostate cause him to dribble without any hint of orgasm. (I wrote a short book on the benefits of prostate milking in female led relationship: <i><a href="https://amzn.to/2ACmnV7">A Ladies Guide to Prostate Milking</a>.) </i>A good remote control anal vibrator and you can pretty much handcuff him, lie him on the bed, push the vibe up his backdoor and flick the vibe to a medium setting. Twenty minutes later he'd be drained but, in this is the key thing, he will not lose the edge you have been building. Men who orgasm undergo physio and psychological changes and it takes them sometime to rebuild the sexual tension which keeps them so attentive. Prostate milking avoids that altogether.<br />
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So, enjoy Locktober! I know roy will. And, remember, if Locktober goes well, there is always NOvember.<br />
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Enjoy!<br />
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Hannah<br />
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Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-89414613037684861682019-09-18T15:18:00.002-07:002019-09-18T15:18:39.437-07:00Fall<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Probably it is the years spent in school and college, but I always think of the year beginning in September.<br />
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It certainly does for elliot. After a summer uncaged with only his <a href="https://amzn.to/2O704yz">testicle weights</a> to remind him of his position, on Labour Day he knew he would be caged in his <a href="https://amzn.to/2LFfCs1">male chastity device</a> . For how long was up to me. Generally, I find that elliot is most responsive to a monthly cycle and I key that to Mady's own cycle. When she is on heat I always take away her key and let elliot be driven a little crazy by her healthy young phenomes. Which means he is extra ready for me when I come on heat a week to ten days later. (Interestingly, Mady's and my cycles have never synchronized. Likely because she has her own quarters.)<br />
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Over only a couple of years, locking elliot up on Labour Day has become a bit of a ritual. After he has showered and spent his time in his corner, I lay him down on our bed and have him lick me very close to orgasm. Then I turn around and slide onto his hard little cock. It is one of the few times a year I want a bit of penetrative sex. It does not take me long to come and I immediately slide off my little cockette.<br />
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I ring my bell and Mady comes into our bedroom with a <a href="https://amzn.to/2OajPp0">bucket of ice cubes and water</a>. elliot know what he has to do and puts his erection, but not his nicely stretched ball sack into the freezing water. He has to keep his little cock submerged for a full minute, (Mady times him) which actually hurts and, most importantly, eliminates his erection. Mady dries off his cock and puts the ring of the chastity behind his balls. Then she, none too gently, pushes his little cock into its cage and fits the cage over the pins of the ball ring. elliot stands in front of me and I fit the padlock through the short, middle pin and click it shut. <br />
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elliot knows that he might or might not be let out of his cock cage sometime before Christmas. But he also knows that I have adopted the wonderful male chastity convention of "Locktober" so there will be at least one thirty-one day stretch of confinement.<br />
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All locked up, elliot kneels at my feet.<br />
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"Thank you darling," is all he says.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-4744305565154132882019-09-02T18:24:00.000-07:002019-09-02T18:24:05.417-07:00City Husband, Country Wife<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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One of the best parts of running this blog has been the correspondence I have had with other dominant wives. Every female-led relationship evolves in its own way and it is fascinating to see how other women create the blend of discipline, chastity, obedience and nurture which can bring out their submissive husband's best self.<br />
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Cara and her husband Terry have worked out a wonderful way to balance a need for discretion with a wonderful transformation. But I will let Cara tell her own story.<br />
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Dear Miss Jay,<br />
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I adore your blog and your books - not just <a href="https://amzn.to/2UoOzDJ">A Man in My Position</a> and the other dominant wife material - but also your wonderfully detailed and open minded exploration of how powerful women can maximize their potential as <a href="https://amzn.to/2LgbMVN">escorts</a>, or, my favorite, <a href="https://amzn.to/2ZL79qX">mistresses</a>. (The retro smut you have elliot publish I give to my Terry as a special treat.)<br />
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I suspect I was drawn to your work on the interesting nexus between sex and money because I met Terry when he was my escorting client. Though I use "escorting" in a very loose way. I had a small business catering to cross-dressers and transvestites (and if you can tell me the difference my hat is off to you, but it was very important to the men I saw.)<br />
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Believe it or not, I got into the business when I was a make-up and special effects artist. I spent my days making pretty girls prettier and, from time to time, making them scary. It was a good living and a lot of the sets I worked on paid a cash bonus. On one of these shoots a model I knew slightly asked if I could do a friend of hers make up for a party. I said sure and thought nothing of it. We arranged to meet her and her "friend" at her apartment the next day. Well, like more than a few models I knew, this girl supplemented her modelling income with pay to play encounters and her "friend" was a client who wanted to "Walk on the Wild Side". It took a little doing but I managed to create a passable impression of a woman - but he walked like a trucker. I spoke to my friend who agreed and then I suggested that, if he wanted to, I could offer him some "training" as well as the make-up and clothes. He jumped at the chance and my model friend told me later she had two other clients who wanted this sort of feminization and it was not her thing. And she had friends in the business for whom crossdressing clients were actually a problem. I was launched.<br />
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I would only see three or four clients a week, charge a high fee and make a "best efforts" attempt to let them appear and behave as women. I say best efforts because, realistically, very few men have much hope of "passing" for a woman but they seemed to have fun trying. My sessions were quite long, two hours minimum, often four.<br />
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Most of my clients were very regular and, once they had done their introductory appointments, I laid on a program of deportment, skirt management, high heels training and so on. There was no "sex" of course. However, at the end of the appointment, if they had been very good, I would tell them to go to the little girl's room and make a mess in their panties which they then had to lick clean before hand washing.<br />
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The key insight I had into these men was that they all were, to some degree, ashamed of their need to dress as women. And, here was the thing, they enjoyed the shame and humiliation of having to put on lingerie, foundation wear, wigs, breast forms, false eyelashes and so on. If I didn't tease them, demand instant obedience and tell, not ask, them to put on their "pretty" clothes they would be disappointed in the session. They wanted to be "forced". And yes, I did threaten to spank my naughty boys and, occasionally, it would be necessary as part of a session to paddle or cane a client quite severely. Of course, "quite severely" was a very relative term. The objective was to create a reason for the client to comply with his own humbling - which was the very thing he wanted.<br />
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Men! What can you do?<br />
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In my case, I charged a lot of money, built up a remarkable collection of plus sized lingerie and outfits - my clients, as part of their training, were required to purchase these items and bring them to their sessions. This all took place several years ago but even then you could get everything from <a href="https://amzn.to/2HFAJrt">side zip girdles</a> to <a href="https://amzn.to/2ZFhZTd">breast forms</a> to <a href="https://amzn.to/2LhOfE0">plus size high heels</a> at Amazon. You could even get the correct <a href="https://amzn.to/2ZGCjQg">"gaff" panties</a> to keep every little thing in its place.<br />
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It was all part of the ritual and the ritual was very important to my clients. For a few hours, they were going to be "forced" to be female. In a couple of years, I actually had a waiting list.<br />
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Terry was a referral from one of my model/escort friends and I saw him really as a favour. He was pretty run of the mill as clients went and I was just going through the motions as I corseted down his waist and put on the breast forms. For cross dressing, Terry was lucky. Not only did he have a gender neutral name - Terry swings both ways but he was almost hairless and was small boned if a little plump in places. The very opposite of "buff". With the corset giving his already quite tight waist a lttle shape and the "C" cup breast forms in place in a lacy black I had him slip on a pair of <a href="https://amzn.to/2ZEEGTC">black satin tap panties</a>. He was a natural blond with a rather nice full head of gently wavy hair. Rather than put him in a wig, I put in <a href="https://amzn.to/2MQue9y">hair extensions </a>I happened to have. Light make-up, really just a very transparent foundation, mascara and eye shadow plus a light pink lip and he was done. I clipped <a href="https://amzn.to/2ZLcGxJ">semi sheer compression stockings</a> to his garter tabs. (Pro-tip, compression stockings help shape a man's leg and hide any hair which a first timer is likely to have. Plus they feel as if you are actually a naughty boy wearing stockings.)<br />
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A simple pencil skirt and sheer blouse and a pair of modest two inch heels and Teri was done. By this point I had done transformations for a fair number of men. A few, a very few, could pass after several sessions. Teri stood up and walked over to my three way mirror. He was a little awkward in his heels but, honestly, with a bit of practice, it would be very had to tell. He had delicate wrists and his Adam's apple was inconspicuous and could be made more so with a bit of reverse contouring.<br />
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"Wow," was all he said as he looked at himself in the mirror. "I never thought I would be this pretty."<br />
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He was not wrong. Unlike many men Teri suited the longer hair, the makeup, the clothes. We practised walking in heels for a little while and then I had him make and serve me a cup of tea and one for himself. It all seemed perfectly natural. As Teri he was quite feminine, funny in a slightly exaggerated girlish way and rather flirtatious. It was quite a long session and I had him change into a shorter skirt at one point. He was naturally rather modest and went behind my screen rather than showing off his lingerie. Eventually I said I had another appointment and Teri went behind the screen and undressed and came out in the lacy ruffled lilac robe I kept for clients; makeup and hair still intact.<br />
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"Come here," I said, "Open your robe."<br />
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He did as he was told and stood in front of me his little cock - and it was quite small - naked and erect. I reached out and took it in my hand.<br />
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"You enjoyed dressing up as a girl didn't you," I said gently pumping his cock.<br />
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"Yes, Miss," he said.<br />
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"And you'd like to do it again wouldn't you Terry?" I said pumping a little faster.<br />
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"Oh yes Miss."<br />
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I could feel him coming very close and I let go of his cock.<br />
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"Good. I will see you next week. Now get dressed."<br />
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He was, I suspect, a bit disappointed that I had not taken him to completion but I had other plans.<br />
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He arrived the next week and we did much the same thing. I was a bit more prepared with sizes and I had a surprise for him at the end of the session. I had him, once again, undress from his girl clothes behind the screen and came out in the peach robe I had bought him.<br />
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"Terry, when you left last week did you go home and ejaculate?" I asked holding his hard little cock firmly.<br />
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"Yes, Miss, twice that night and two or three times a day since. I can't help it," said Terry.<br />
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"I thought so," I said. "That won't do at all. Girls don't masturbate the same way as boys so we're going to have to make sure you behave. Now, here's a tissue. Jack yourself off for me."<br />
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"Yes, Miss," said Terry as he began to pull on his cock.<br />
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"Faster, I don't have all day," I said which was all it took to send plumes of sperm out of his purplish cock head. "Now, go over to that corner with my panties (I am a huge fan of corner time for men.) and hold them in the corner with your nose."<br />
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Terry did what he was told and ten minutes later I called him back. As I suspected he would be he was just as hard.<br />
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"Now, I could whip that erection away or put that naughty little cock in ice water until you get soft; but instead, jerk it again. Quickly," I said handing him a dish. "Every drop in the dish."<br />
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It took a little longer this time but in a couple of minutes there was a nice dollop of cum and several drops and strands decorating the china dish.<br />
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"You know what you have to do, Terry," I said looking at the dish. "Lick up your mess."<br />
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It was a test he passed eagerly.<br />
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"Good boy," I said reaching around for the package I had received air express.<br />
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"Now, Terry, good girls always ask for permission to masturbate. Which I know is hard for girly-bois so I have bought you a little gift. Turn around and put your hands behind your back," I said. I took a pair of handcuffs and clicked them locked. "Turn around."<br />
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Terry obeyed and I opened the box the <a href="https://amzn.to/2LfZaxR">male chastity device</a> came in. "Do you know what this is, Terry?"<br />
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"No Miss."<br />
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"It's a cock cage. You'll be wearing it when you are not in lady's clothes," I said putting the pink silicone ring around and behind his balls. Then, using my fairly long but nicely squared fingernails, I reached under the head of his cock and pushed it into the silicone cage. He was soft enough that it was easy to get most of his cock in the cage and push the holes over the pegs. I reached through the little slot in the end and grabbed the head of his cock with my nails to pull it all into the cage. Then I slipped the padlock through the short peg and clicked it shut.<br />
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"There you go," I said. "All tucked away and I have the key. Now you can get dressed and I want you to pick me up for dinner on Thursday. Seven o'clock. Dress nicely as I am taking you somewhere special.<br />
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Two months later we were married in a civil ceremony. I wore a lovely 40's suit, seamed stocking and a pretty, veiled hat. Teri was dressed in a light linen jacket, a pair of side zippered linen trousers, cute loafers, his cock cage for lingerie and his now longer hair pulled off his face with two butterfly barrettes.<br />
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I took him back to my apartment, had him put on his nightie for bed and then gave him a good hairbrushing to set the tone of what has been a long and happy marriage. As you can imagine, having been kept in his cage for the three weeks before our wedding night, he was very anxious to perform his marital duties. I, on the other hand, thought that could wait for our honeymoon and enjoyed Teri's girlish tongue on my throbbing clit.<br />
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We were honeymooning at a small country house I owned about forty miles from the city we live in. I drove. Teri had changed into her going away outfit. Nothing elaborate, a day dress in a fine grey cotton with a little, to the waist, black jacket. Corset, girdle, bra and breast forms, hair extensions in and nice day make-up as I had instructed her to.<br />
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"In the country, Teri, you are always going to be <i>en femme</i>. Most weekends, two or three weeks a summer. Will you like that?" I asked when he had agreed to marry me.<br />
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"More than anything," said Terry.<br />
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"In the city you have your job so you can't really be who you like to be. Or, at least, not yet. But you'll be a country wife which will be fun for you and fun for me."<br />
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"Yes, Miss Cara," said Teri.<br />
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"After we're married you will not have to call me miss anymore," I said. "And in the country, you'll wear your pretty gaff panties rather than that nasty old cock cage."<br />
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Which was exactly what happened.<br />
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Teri has taken to the world of a 1950's housewife with a vengeance. She's always beautifully dressed, her hair is perfect and she is wonderfully obedient. She was, I must admit, a little taken aback when she discovered that I was going to give her the whole experience by having intercourse with her every Saturday night with <a href="https://amzn.to/2MR6nX8">a strap-on</a>.<br />
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"Do I have to?" she asked?<br />
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"Of course you have to," I said. "But unlike those poor girls in the fifties with just the one cock, I have a number of dildos which will fit my harness. We'll start you off like a virgin with something small but hard and work your pretty back pussy up to <a href="https://amzn.to/2NOiGTN">big cocks</a>."<br />
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Which is exactly what we did.<br />
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During the week, while Terry is wonderfully submissive and attentive, other than his panties and camisole and his cock cage, he is allowed to present as a slightly effeminate man. As soon as he comes home from work on Friday he showers, is let out of his cock cage, gaffed and then changes into his weekend attire.<br />
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Our neighbours in the country think we may be lesbians but we simply keep them guessing.<br />
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We've lived this way for a few years now. I am still a make-up artist and I still have a select cross dressing clientele. Terry is not in the least jealous. Even if he was, a good wife, and Teri is a very good wife, knows when to keep quiet.<br />
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<br />Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-89579487935761728982019-08-20T16:07:00.002-07:002019-08-21T10:50:37.089-07:00The Elegant Mistress<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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"<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Now, with older admirers, that is the very last thing they want to hear. Instead, make it clear to them that they exist to ensure you have the nice things like</span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span><a href="https://amzn.to/2OSVj9h" style="color: #4d469c; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">silk chemises,</a><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span><a href="https://amzn.to/2BrpAdk" style="color: #4d469c; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">real silk stockings</a><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">, a</span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span><a href="https://amzn.to/2ONG5C2" style="color: #4d469c; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">really good vibrator </a><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">and the pampering you deserve. Wonderful food, the occasional short vacation and what Holly Golightly referred to as "Powder Room Money" are all to be expected. Nice things in blue boxes never go amiss.</span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">A girl can be just as in charge with a man old enough to be her father as with a younger man. Those handcuffs will come in handy. But with older men, a girl does not have to be quite as stingy with her favours and good behaviour and really wonderful presents can be the occasion for a controlled ejaculation. The dynamic is very different.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">What I was referring to, of course, was that wonderful opportunity which smart girls, especially in their twenties, have to become a mistress for a few years.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">No, not the boots and leather corset kind of mistress - though that can be fun too - rather a young lady who is "kept" by a wealthy, usually older man. I have written extensively about this quaint but delightful halfway house between escorting and the dating/marriage world. (I'll put the books in below. A couple are free today.)</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">It takes a self-possessed girl to succeed at being a mistress because there is a subtle but very real power dynamic involved. The fact is that almost every mistress relationship is a female led relationship to a greater or lesser degree.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I discuss this dynamic at much greater length in my book <a href="https://amzn.to/2Z8NFRu">Modern Mistress: Lead the Luxury Life you Deserve</a>. Put in simple terms, a woman who becomes a mistress is trading her time, attention and favours to her patron for "the finer things in life". What those things are - an allowance, rent paid, a clothing allowance, a car, vacations - are all a matter of negotiation and it is the mistress, not her patron, who takes charge of that negotiation.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Part of the dynamic is that the prospective mistress has something her patron wants. That something goes well beyond sex. If it is just a transactional sex for money situation then the girl is not really a mistress at all. She is stuck somewhere between escort and sugar baby. In both those situations, (with few exceptions which I talk about in my book on elegant escorting, <a href="https://amzn.to/2ZbLs2Y">Avails: Escorting for The Elegant Woman</a>) it is the male who holds the power and, being men, in that situation the relationship is usually very fleeting. Even the most successful sugar babies seldom last three months, whereas a man's relationship with his mistress can last years.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The key to this longevity is that, from the moment she meets her patron, through the negotiations and on into the relationship, the mistress takes charge. Both in the bedroom and in the rest of their time together, a clever mistress takes the lead. She does this by doing something many women are diffident about: she owns her sexuality and makes it clear from the outset that it is her sexuality and what she chooses to do with it, which drives the pleasure matrix in the relationship.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Obviously, it is not as one-sided as the total control a dominant wife maintains over the sexual life in her marriage. Most patrons would be unimpressed with the requirement of prolonged chastity for example. But that does not stop a clever mistress from keeping her patron, as it were, hungry.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Finding out what a man really desires and then teasing him with possibilities sets a mistress apart from her less adventurous peers. Because it implies that a mistress is more than willing to meet those desires head on rather than coyly as many women feel bound to do. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">A mistress keeps her patron transfixed because, unlike with many of the other women he has been with, she is sexually aggressive rather than passive and her sexual favours are not conditional. Far too many women use sex as some sort of reward for their husbands or boyfriends. Completion of the "honey do" list gets a husband a blow job. For the mistress, assuming that her patron ensures her comfort, sex is part of the bargain and a part she embraces.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Spending a few years as a mistress in your twenties very quickly expands a woman's perspective on the world, on men and, most importantly, herself. As I gather the interviews with the women in the Mistress Matrix, I was struck at just how much more mature and self-confident these, often quite young, women were. Part of it was, of course, money. Compared to her contemporaries, a well kept mistress has much lower expenses and a much greater disposable income for what amounts to, in most cases, all of five to ten hours a week of actual face time. Another huge part of it was that these girls realize early on that their success as mistresses depends on being the sort of beauty their patrons desire. Glossy hair, great skin, perfect nails - even a slightly mousy girl is transformed as she embraces the mistress experience and has the money and time it takes to glow. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Add to that the time at the gym or swimming and generally being physically active - mistresses don't have muffin tops and the money to buy really lovely clothes and, very quickly, a girl gains the real power beauty confers. A woman in full.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">It is only for a few years but being a mistress is the perfect preparation for a woman who wants to lead her own marriage.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">When Sage decides to be the ship's mistress she makes sure her Captain is teased and pleased. Lots of great blow jobs, a pleasing spanking, and good old fashioned sex including great anal. </span><br />
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Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-65907661584950196052019-08-19T13:59:00.002-07:002019-08-19T13:59:38.545-07:00The Innocence of 70's Men's Magazines<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">elliot currently has a collection of bondage covergirls up for free at Kindle</span> <a href="https://amzn.to/2HhlOn8">Covergirl Bondage #1</a><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I am always amused and delighted at the wonderful innocence of these sorts of magazines. There was a genuine sense of naughtiness and even of transgression at some level, but there was also a sense of humour and fun.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Just look at the outfit the "Mistress" in this cover image is wearing. Long black leather gloves, matching high heeled leather boots, jodhpurs and a sweater. Really right out of the pages of Bizarre Magazine or</span> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><i>The Perils of Gwendoline.</i></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Personally, I am not all that keen on bondage in itself. Certainly, I have been known to have Mady tie elliot up for serious discipline, but, to be honest, it seems like a lot of bother when a pair of<a href="https://amzn.to/2ZfNq2i"> leather cuffs</a> and a hook in a beam can serve just as well.</span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">Of course, elliot loves putting Mady in bondage if I let him. And, to be honest, she can look lovely in very much the position the girl is trussed up in the cover picture. The good news being Mady has a much better figure and much cuter lingerie.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">Oddly, I don't think of elliot's <a href="https://amzn.to/2Ze21vh">cock cage</a> as bondage at all. Probably because, come Labour Day his summer freedom will end and his cock will go back into chastity for an indeterminate period. I have had lots of fun with his little cock over the summer. I even let him have a dozen strokes at a time in my sacred grove. And I had elliot take Mady four or five times - not, of course to his own completion - but very much to her's. She claims not to enjoy penetrative sex much but watching her I am not so sure. I enjoy teasing Mady about having her bred at some point. Which I won't actually do as breeding a girl leads, eventually, to the delights of small children and that has to be Mady's choice.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">A gentler, simpler, time....enjoy!</span>Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-65680755877674168032019-08-12T12:57:00.001-07:002019-08-12T13:58:37.876-07:00Maintenance - Part of an FLR? <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The various ladies I know who are leading their marriages are all over the place on this question as am I.</div>
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Women who use maintenance spankings swear by them as they serve as a reminder to their husband or boyfriend of who is in charge. And I take that point. Plus, and this is interesting, a number of the women I speak to regularly, say that their husbands positively look forward to the ritual of a maintenance spanking. But usually when I probe a little deeper, it turns out that the "maintenance" is a pretty mild affair. Over the lady of the house's knee and a hand spanking. While the humiliation of having to lie across your wife's lap for your weekly spanking might have some effect, that effect is likely to wear off pretty quickly.</div>
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If a routine of maintenance is going to have any effect on a male's long term behaviour a lady's hand to her husband's bottom is really not going to do the job. I have said elsewhere that lady's hands are not made for spanking. To make any sort of impression you need and instrument: <a href="https://amzn.to/2Ktfmvf">a cane</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2H31Ex6">dog stick</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/2MUeEsC">a paddle</a> or elliot's least favorite, <a href="https://amzn.to/31wQ4SJ">a shower brush</a>. Whether you are punishing your husband or giving him a regular maintenance dose, you want him submitting to a serious spanking rather than looking forward to the ritual. He should not like being spanked one little bit.</div>
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And there, frankly, is the problem with the idea of regular maintenance spankings: a serious session with the cane or the shower brush takes quite a while for a man to get over. Yes, he will want to behave so it does not happen again any time soon, but if he knows he'll be getting another, serious spanking, regardless of behaviour in a week's time it tends to produce resignation rather than obedience. </div>
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"I like to call our weekly sessions "performance reviews" writes Maggie from a southern US state. "On a Sunday afternoon, after church and before I cook dinner. Two o'clock precisely in my lovely dressing room which also serves as Kenneth's punishment room."<br />
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"Once I have his attention I run down my written list of whatever his transgressions have been that week. Keeping a list means I don't forget much, however, when I have finished I always ask Kenneth if there is anything I have forgotten. There often is and that goes on the list."</div>
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"Nothing like a <a href="https://amzn.to/2YJzl1G">big, black, inflatable, cock up your naughty bottom</a> for an hour. I leave the little inflator bulb outside the closet and, every so often step on it. Kenneth has learned to take all nine fat inches. Or I shove a <a href="https://amzn.to/2Z2Rra6">cute little remote-controlled prostate massager up his bottom</a> and make him dribble in his panties."</div>
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"Another favorite is a bit of ginger pushed up his bottom. You have to be clever about trimming it but I've noticed that Ken visibly winces when he sees his "fig" sitting on a nice china plate on my make-up table."</div>
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"Those are the sorts of punishments a bad performance review will merit. If Ken has been outright disobedient or disrespectful, I have a lovely chaise with a single beautifully cushioned arm which is just the right height for Ken to bend over. Now I was a Kappa Kappa Gamma and I have always thought a <a href="https://amzn.to/2Z1q8gz">fine old sorority paddle</a> was ideal for correcting errant husbands. Most of the time a dozen swats with my paddle and then some time in his cage puts Ken back on the straight and narrow. However, when he has actually done something bad...having too many drinks, ogling one of my girlfriends or a pretty girl on the street, lying - I hate lying - I'll want to raise some blisters. I never paddle when I am angry. I wait until Sunday and then I will get out what I call <a href="https://amzn.to/2yWMhSo">The Holey Paddle</a>.</div>
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"Twelve strokes of the Holey Paddle and Ken's bottom is a mess. The most I have ever given him were 24 (drinking, ogling and lying) and he, literally, could not sit down comfortably for a week.</div>
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"Now, one other element in our weekly routine is that after Ken has completed his punishment, he has to kneel in front of me and jerk himself off onto a special china plate I keep for just this purpose. It isn't a very big plate and Ken knows I mark down every drop which misses the plate for correction the next week. He has only managed to keep all his mess on the plate twice. Of course, he has to clean up any spunk which is on the floor with his tongue; but he has a choice with what's on the plate, he can either lick it all up right away or we'll put it in the fridge and feed it to him before Church the following week. If he decides to postpone he may earn some forgiveness in his next performance review. His choice. When he has been severely punished he usually postpones, but a light session and he almost always drinks it right down."</div>
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Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-61553348947225405132019-07-27T13:12:00.001-07:002019-07-27T13:12:04.302-07:00Glorious Girdles <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Frequent readers know that I believe that a lady is often corseted and almost never without a good firm girdle. I also believe that a girdle can be an excellent disciplinary tool when training a new husband or bringing a wayward husband to heel.<br />
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We live in an age where the corporate uniform for women is a pantsuit and women of all sizes think that yoga pants are ideal for the shops, the cinema or even, God help us, fine dining. "Comfort" has become an excuse for sloppiness. I admit to being old fashioned, I do not want to see women, fat or thin, wearing clothes which don't fit and fail to ensure modesty. At home is a whole other thing, but in public, a girl with a pretty dress and great foundations is a rare pleasure to see.<br />
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Up until the arrival of the internet, finding a good girdle in real life was difficult. Finding an actually pretty girdle that the lady of the house might want to wear was pretty much impossible. Now it is as easy as doing a search on Amazon.<br />
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forward to wearing them as the foundations for the dresses I prefer to wear daily. It is very helpful to have Mady doing the side zipper and hook and eye fastening as well as clipping the metal garter tabs (never get plastic) to my stockings.<br />
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Very reasonably priced and delivered discreetly to your door from Amazon. <a href="https://amzn.to/2SK2qnn">Rago High Waist Open Bottom Girdle</a>.<br />
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Now, I am also firmly convinced that young ladies also need the support and control a good girdle can provide. Mady is in wonderful shape, has a pert little bottom and no tummy to speak of. <br />
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But when she accompanies me shopping or to church or, really, anywhere I require her to wear a suitable foundation from Labour Day until Victoria Day (we're in Canada, July 4 for my American friends). For her uniform, a<a href="https://amzn.to/2ye5IpE"> simple pair of control panties</a> are more than sufficient to give her a pleasing look. (These are, in a somewhat larger size, also an excellent option for submissive husband's daily wear.)<br />
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Under a skirt or dress I prefer something which will give her bottom a little boost and keep a smooth line for thin cotton or fine wool or cashmere dresses. I found these panty shapers when I was looking<br />
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for a pair of suitable punishment panties for elliot and while they are perfect for that function, they also make my little maid's bottom the perfect, spankable, peach the boys enjoy watching under a tight dress. I like my maid/companion to have plenty of male attention and the <a href="https://amzn.to/2LJObyg">shape these panties give her</a>, while leaving her sweet little bottom cheeks entirely naked, ensures that she gets it.<br />
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On the other hand, when Mady comes to church with us, I want her to be very well controlled and positively virginal. Yes, I know, completely hypocritical, but that is part of the fun. My nice church friends have no idea how elliot and I have built our female led marriage and they think Mady is a very sweet girl who is always happy to help out with the altar decorations or serving coffee after church. And she is. But she is always dressed very conservatively for church.<br />
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Which means a serious girdle but one relatively lightly constructed as traditional<a href="https://amzn.to/2YvNTB3"> "roll up" girdle</a> is very nearly perfect. It ensures that Mady's lower figure remains modestly shrouded, holds up her stockings and eliminates any hint of "jiggle". I hate the sight of women, even young women, jiggling or bulging as they sit. Pretty curves are all the prettier when they are tightly contained and controlled. A fact our mothers and grandmothers knew but which, apparently, "the comfort generation" has either forgotten or dismissed.<br />
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Having Mady wear this girdle, in either black or white with her s<a href="https://amzn.to/2LJ3reX">eamed, nude or grey, fully fashioned stockings</a>, is a lovely way to modestly show off a pretty young girl while ensuring that she is complimented by the nice ladies of the church for her modesty and good taste.<br />
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Until she came to work for me, Mady, like many of her generation had really never worn hose at all, much less stockings. Now, she really does feel naked without the whisps of nylon sliding up her milky white thighs. She tells me stockings, a nice girdle and a pair of moderate heels give her a lot of confidence. As they should. She looks wonderful.<br />
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Finally, elliot's foundations.<br />
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When we first started our journey I needed a way to confine elliot particularly in bed. He was not as well trained as he is now and we were years away from putting his<a href="https://amzn.to/2yfmMvm"> cock in its cage</a>. I looked at a variety of solutions and hit upon a good, firm, pantigirdle as both a signal and a means to enforce the fact that it was my sexual desires which mattered in our marriage.<br />
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A <a href="https://amzn.to/2LJeDbh">high waisted, long legged, side zipper girdle</a> ensured that elliot had no access at all to his little cock. It was ideal under a pretty nightie and very much kept him in his position.<br />
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I had him add two little grommets at the top of the zipper and, when he was particularly rambunctious, I would slip a cute little padlock through the grommets and he was locked into his girdle for the night. He could still get his morning wood, something he does not like a bit in his cock cage, but there was no way he could even try to have any sort of sex with me unless I unlocked him. Perfect. And a good start towards what I now know a submissive man desperately needs, long term, locked down chastity. (During the summer, when I let elliot out of his cage, I often have Mady put his girdle out before bed just to remind him of his position.)<br />
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So, there it is, girdles for all occasions. Enjoy <a href="https://amzn.to/30YTpK8">our free girdle book on Amazon</a> and, ladies, whether for yourself or that naughty husband, remember a good foundation is the basis for brilliantly fitting clothes and a very obedient husband.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-71487929760474822612019-07-16T15:14:00.000-07:002019-07-16T15:14:38.556-07:00A bit of Tinkering and a mid summer correction<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I just love how men insist on improving things. Now you would think that a <a href="https://amzn.to/2lPA5jh">silicone cock cage </a> would offer little in the way of chances for improvement. Not elliot.<br />
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While he has been enjoying his summer freedom - I let him out around June 1st and lock him back down on Labour Day - he has been thinking about how to actually reduce the "play" in the two posts on either side of the lock. I suspect these are designed with men with substantially larger cocks than my elliot's in mind but for him the various pieces of his chastity would gap and then, painfully, pinch some very tender skin. I don't keep elliot in chastity for his discomfort, although elliot being a little uncomfortable does not worry me at all, so when he asked permission to modify his cage I agreed.<br />
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It was hardly a major change: he removed the plastic side pegs and replaced them with one inch stove bolts with washers and nuts. This allows him to tighten the silicone pieces and eliminate the gapping.<br />
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Good for him and nicely timed. He was getting a bit, if you will excuse the word, cocky, and there is only one sure fire cure for that. First I gave him a good whipping. The heel stick raised lovely welts. I had Mady observe his punishment and listen as I lectured him.<br />
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"It is not enough that you are polite to me. You need to be humble and you need to remember your place." I said punctuating my sentences with a stroke of the heel stick. "The fact is you have been a bit too cocksure. I let you out of your cock cage for your comfort. I don't expect backchat. I don't expect you to look at pretty young girls at the beach. You keep your eyes down. Do you understand."<br />
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"Yes, Miss," he said.<br />
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I went on in this vein for a few minutes with each period emphasized with a stroke. I think he got the message.<br />
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"Now, before you go to your corner, turn around," I said. "Your cock is going back in its cage until I see a real improvement in your attitude. Now stuff it in. Hurry up."<br />
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The modifications to the silicone cage meant that elliot had to fiddle a bit more but his cock was so tiny after his whipping that everything went quite quickly.<br />
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"Mady, why don't you lock down elliot's tiny little cock," I said. "You can hold on to the key. We'll see if he improves."<br />
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Mady slipped the lock on and shut it.<br />
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"I expect you to behave, elliot," I said when he was locked and I had slipped off my rather moist panties (I often find myself getting a bit excited when I correct elliot or Mady) and sent elliot to his corner.<br />
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"Mady," I said sitting down and lifting my skirt. "I seem to need some oral attention."<br />
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"Yes, Miss."<br />
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Mady got on her knees and began licking my pussy. Girls just know.<br />
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Should be a fun summer.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-85845612040969764372019-07-14T14:23:00.001-07:002019-07-14T14:23:30.044-07:00A Huge Change<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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As many of you will have figured out by now, elliot and I are a somewhat older couple. Old enough that we actually remember the world when there was no internet. No, really.<br />
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Before the internet, while there were certainly lots of couples in which the wife was in charge, there was little or nothing to support FLRs. Next to no information was available. And not just about the wonderful world of Female Led Relationships, the entire world of even slightly exotic sexuality was very much under the counter. Now, virtually any interest has its own blog universe, very possibly social media (under the radar slightly) and you can buy virtually any little item you want from...Amazon.<br />
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The ability to buy discreetly has been a huge bonus for elliot, Mady and myself. We are coming up to Amazon Prime Days (and yes you really should <a href="https://amzn.to/2lep5f0">try Prime for free for 30 days</a> if for no other reason than you will be able to read all of both <a href="https://amzn.to/2lepOwK">elliot's and my books for free</a>.)<br />
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A lot of websites will be doing Prime Days promotions. I will not but I thought it might be fun for dominant wives and their submissive husbands to have a look at what is actually available at Amazon.<br />
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Start with male chastity devices. Even ten years ago putting your husband into chastity was an expensive proposition with proper cock cages running several hundred dollars. Now you can put your husband under lock and key for less than $30. And the selection is amazing.<br />
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I keep elliot in a <a href="https://amzn.to/2lfDckc">soft chastity cage</a> like this one. It is comfortable and he can wear it easily for weeks at a time. The overall effect is that he not only cannot touch his own penis, he cannot become fully erect and, he tells me, that he has virtually no external stimulation when he is in his cock cage.<br />
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We got out first <a href="https://amzn.to/2lfDckc">silicone cock cage</a> from Amazon. Like the one pictured, it cost less than $20 and with Prime it shipped free.<br />
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For a slightly more severe experience and one which can be more than a little noisy, a<a href="https://amzn.to/2lfCSC0"> metal cock cage</a> may be in order. There is nothing discreet about putting your husband's cock in a steel cage and keeping the key.<br />
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This is also an excellent option for men who, at present, are not in obedience to a particular woman. Putting your cock in a steel cage and making access to your key difficult is an excellent way for men to remind themselves of their essential submissiveness.<br />
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The other good thing about a metal cage is that it is often fairly obvious that a man is wearing one. Certainly to a discerning eye. Wives who want to subtly demonstrate their husband's status or single men who would like to make their submission more obvious to the women they encounter may want a <a href="https://amzn.to/2lfCSC0">metal cock cage</a>.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKhjI_WTWWn_oT47lT7HC9tG66Tq9emHAsmeM0GtXWjVOKLuIsCDAKNKw4NyX54PR19qqq_g6JWXt7PGW6yUsndsHvYBzggCdqikHnscXZZH9EtiRwpGf631CLeR-KodUYVYt-hBezv94/s1600/screenshot-www.amazon.com-2019.07.13-18_49_12.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="413" data-original-width="660" height="125" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKhjI_WTWWn_oT47lT7HC9tG66Tq9emHAsmeM0GtXWjVOKLuIsCDAKNKw4NyX54PR19qqq_g6JWXt7PGW6yUsndsHvYBzggCdqikHnscXZZH9EtiRwpGf631CLeR-KodUYVYt-hBezv94/s200/screenshot-www.amazon.com-2019.07.13-18_49_12.png" width="200" /></a>Now, if a cock cage demonstrates a dominant wife's total control over her husband's sexuality or a single man's willingness to sacrifice his sexuality in the hope of finding his superior woman, the general subordinating effect of forcing a man to wear women's lingerie and nightwear can't be discounted.<br />
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A number of ladies who read this blog have purchased these amazing, <a href="https://amzn.to/2lh9ETi">Slimming Underwear Tummy Control Panties</a>. One lady wrote me and said, "Since I have had Paul wearing these over his cage daily he has been even more docile and willing to please. Plus, they have already improved his figure. I call them belly busters."<br />
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Keeping your husband in panties is a good first step. But for real control and humiliation, a <a href="https://amzn.to/2lheG29">long legged, side zipped, pantie girdle</a> is perfect. Where the high waisted panties have a little control, a good girdle will literally change his figure. He'll have a more defined waist and a nicely curved bottom. (Between ourselves, I love the feel of a <a href="https://amzn.to/2lgs2LX">side zipped open bottom girdle</a> holding my stockings up.)<br />
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A submissive husband needs practical foundations. There is no point in getting him pretty lingerie. He's a man, he'll look silly in frills (which can be fun too). So a plain, white, lycra bomb is all he deserves.<br />
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Caged and girdled by day, what about when a submissive husband is sent to bed? Well, of course the cock cage stays on and his morning wood will be uncomfortable enough that he'll wake up and get started making you coffee in bed, running your bath, doing any hand washing you have left for him. elliot has to wash out my yesterday's panties after he has his corner time. There are some things it is better for a submissive husband to do himself even though we have a maid.<br />
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I prefer nice, feminine<a href="https://amzn.to/2jOOqMa"> cotton nighties</a> for elliot. You may have other preferences. And for single men, wearing a cotton nightie to bed every night will remind you of your place and where you would like to be. After a few days or weeks putting on a pretty nightie will just be part of your bedtime routine.<br />
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Now the great advantage of a fairly full coverage nightie is that it gives a wife the opportunity to experiment with a few more feminizing humiliations.<br />
I am not a huge fan of making men wear bras during the day when they are out of the home. It can work in very limited circumstances but, usually, it simply leads to awkwardness in a workplace or a social situation.<br />
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However, in bed, in a nightie, there is absolutely no reason why a wife can't tell her husband to wear a bra and the breast forms which go with it.<br />
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Having experimented with elliot, while it might be fun to see your husband having to deal with DD cup breasts, a nice B to start and then work up to a C or D. The point is that when your husband is getting ready for bed and is in bed and when he wakes up and sets about serving you he will look different and feel different. There is nothing more feminizing than the weight of breasts and the more modern breast forms and a good bra will give your husband a real sense of that. And, of course, for a single man to make breasts a part of his evening ritual is excellent training for his eventual female led marriage.<br />
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One thing I would strongly suggest, and other wives have confirmed this, is that you require your husband to wear a well made, very supportive but very <a href="https://amzn.to/2lc4U15">utilitarian sports bra</a>. Pretty lingerie is for you (and your maid if you are lucky enough to have one), your husband is supposed to feel the full weight of his breasts and that's where a good sports bra makes all the difference.<br />
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And remember, in a well-run female led marriage, your husband is almost always sent to get ready for bed sometime before you retire. This means he can put on his breast forms, sports bra and nightie without you really having to see anything but the pleasing curves under his nightie.<br />
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are first training a husband or boyfriend it is a good idea to be able to restrain him. While I no longer need restraints for elliot, I still have a wonderful set of<a href="https://amzn.to/2lkGzq6"> police grade handcuffs</a> I purchased a decade ago. The nice thing about serious handcuffs is they will fit in your purse so you can restrain and correct your submissive male where ever you happen to be. In our early days, elliot learned the hard way that dressing rooms and washrooms offered the privacy, if not the sound proofing required for a gentleman's correction.<br />
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There are many occasions when a gentleman needs to be restrained for some time or under some tension. Handcuffs are the wrong tool. Well made, lined, leather wrist and ankle restraints are the obvious solution. But, for Heaven's Sake, buy <a href="https://amzn.to/2jQUJih">high quality restraints</a>. You want your submissive husband to be mindful of his correction or your pleasure, not worrying about how his wrists are chaffing.<br />
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As to corrections themselves, a dominant wife should recognize that her hand alone is not going to do the job. The fact is that a lady's hand is too small and too soft to make much of an impression. Using a hair brush helps a lot. And a lady, with a reasonably sized bag, can carry a hairbrush entirely innocently and deploy it as needed. As I mentioned, there are any number of usefully private locations available if your husband or boyfriend is rude or inattentive. This little brush will leave a lasting impression.<br />
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equipped with a shower or bath in our house. The <a href="https://amzn.to/2llGkuU">simple, long handled, shower brush</a> can be kept in plain sight as a reminder to your husband or boyfriend of the consequences of any disobedience. In the early stages of an FLR this sort of everyday implement is going to see a lot of use. It takes a while to train any man worth training. This beechwood shower brush has a 17 and 3/4 inch handle. As the copy says, good for reaching those "hard to reach" areas - in our case psychological rather than physical.<br />
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Some disciplinary wives swear by the paddle for their husband's correction. I have to take their word for it as I have never used a paddle on elliot. There is an amazing selection of paddles at Amazon ranging from a rather <a href="https://amzn.to/2lkHhU9">nasty looking hardwood paddle</a>:<br />
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Until we met Mady and she became my maid, I was not really
familiar with the varieties of anal humiliation a submissive husband can
undergo. Yes, I did know about prostate milking and I thoroughly approved of
the idea of restraining elliot, pushing a vibrator into his bottom and leaving
him to make a non-orgasmic mess he would have to lick up later. In fact, we wrote a book about it, <a href="https://amzn.to/2lgtJsL">A Ladies Guide to Prostate Milking</a>. However,
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Coming from a certain corner of the lesbian world, Mady just
loved strap ons. While strap ons do nothing for me, Mady thoroughly enjoys “pegging”
elliot as a preliminary to his paying her oral attention. But, Mady being Mady,
she has evolved this into a bit of a ritual and the first part of the ritual is
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"Two bags and he's clean if a little shaky," explained Mady. "I'll often have him stand in his corner for a few minutes before allowing him to release. Once the second bag has gone in, I will stand in front of him and put on my strap on. I use dils which have a nice end for the lady and a rather larger end for the gentlemen. I let elliot release and then he knows he has to assume his position for pegging. I lube him up a bit and then push in. He's used to it now and he knows I am going to fuck him until I come. When I'm done I leave the dil in him, unclip the harness and leave him to clean up."</div>
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<br />Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-83739575173757469222019-06-30T15:09:00.001-07:002019-07-06T12:32:03.196-07:00The Governess<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi56uZ3kFBBGoeny5bACBEBBljHIC8tdjeHrM9Z-qXV6G7DKCpFGYPGnrjomOk79U6CH9mCbFbAh8GHbdm4QjLmqESUsRU_kr5Z3VwigawKOmX1lzTiqkQ-PX8h8pCo1ZKZLad6kEpr_5U/s1600/tumblr_me5w76XbQX1rayabxo1_500.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="dominatrix, pro domme, dominant woman" border="0" data-original-height="750" data-original-width="497" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi56uZ3kFBBGoeny5bACBEBBljHIC8tdjeHrM9Z-qXV6G7DKCpFGYPGnrjomOk79U6CH9mCbFbAh8GHbdm4QjLmqESUsRU_kr5Z3VwigawKOmX1lzTiqkQ-PX8h8pCo1ZKZLad6kEpr_5U/s400/tumblr_me5w76XbQX1rayabxo1_500.jpg" title="" width="265" /></a></div>I am revising my book <a href="https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QnmRLN9HISJTWe2yorH3XlQAAAFrqmdwSQEAAAFKAacuAXE/https://assoc-redirect.amazon.com/g/r/https://amzn.to/2XwWFy6?linkCode=w61&imprToken=p2kB13dwO1fFd8RredxZpw&slotNum=2">Avails: Escorting for the Elegant Woman</a> and ran across this interview with a rather serious professional dominatrix. Not my thing at all but I thought it might be of passing interest to my readers:<br />
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<h2><a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_Toc426751714"><span lang="EN-US">The Governess – Donna, a Serious Domina</span></a><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></h2><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">Donna is in her thirties and works as fetish escort in a large American city. She also has international clients.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“When I first started escorting I was drawn to what you might call “dress up” dates. Lots of fun and very easy. But, gradually, I found that a lot of my clients were looking for more.” she said in a Skype interview.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“I worked in a professional dungeon for a year and discovered that I was a natural switch and that I got very bored very quickly in the traditional dominatrix role. “Yes Mistress, No Mistress.” gets old fast. So I started looking around for a niche which combined an element of domination with a character who could help differentiate me in the fetish market. And, I must admit, I wanted a character where I didn’t have to spend an hour putting on a black leather corset</span><!--[if supportFields]><span
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“My whole role is to be in charge. Where an escort traditionally tries to pleasure her clients, I make my clients humble themselves to me. At the same time, instead of conducting my business in a dark fake dungeon with whips and chains and assorted bondage furniture, I have a lovely loft overlooking the river. Mainly white, very high ceilings and great windows.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“I advertise very discreetly. Most of my ads are only one or two lines: sometimes they are just a word, “Governess”. The men who want my services know what that implies and I don’t want any clients who require an explanation.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“Escorting always has an element of role playing. After all, those girls are not seeing their clients because they are possessed by desire; but the clients who use escorts seem to believe that they are the one man on earth who actually isn’t business but rather lust. My clients are under no such misapprehension.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“One thing I learned working at the dungeon was that more than half the clients for a domina escort are really there for the play acting. The silliest toy in the world is the suede flogger. I have seen fly swatters with more ommmph. But that is what the majority of the dungeon’s clients wanted. They wanted to be helpless but safe, flogged but with no marks.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“However, for a small minority, this sort of play-acting was exactly the opposite of what they were actually looking for. To find a woman who was very strict and very real was worth a great deal to them.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“Taking on the role of the Governess is not at all like a standard escorting situation. First off, there is absolutely no sex. Second, the encounters tend to be quite lengthy. Two hours minimum but, realistically, four hours works better.” explained Donna.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“I have a website but it is mainly a private site which you have to have a login to access. You get the login by getting in touch with me and sending $100.00. Just enough to discourage triflers.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“Once you are logged in you are required to fill out an application. Real name, real address, references. And then you also are required to complete a questionnaire about your preferences. It is quite a long questionnaire and several of my clients have told me that there are items listed they have never heard of.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“Once I have checked references and read the questionnaire I make a decision as to whether I am willing to take on a particular client. I have a flat fee for the initial session. It is actually quite reasonable and many of my clients are surprised that such an exclusive service is not more expensive.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
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</v:shape><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">We asked Donna why she did not charge more. “Unlike a lot of escorts, I have far more clients who want to see me than I want to see. My second and subsequent encounters cost twice as much as the introductory session and many of my clients tip very generously. My view is that the Governess is not an escort service for everyone but that for the clients who understand what I offer it is an indispensable part of their lives. I can and do charge more for my international clients but I prefer to keep my rates at a level essentially comparable to those of a good corporate lawyer. $750 an hour or $2500 for the typical four hour session is more than enough. I book a maximum of six sessions a week so you can imagine I do quite well.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">We asked Donna what she actually did in her role as the Governess. “When a client comes to my space I greet him in character. Preliminaries are dealt with. An envelope on the hall table and then he is sent to the shower. This gives me time to count. You learn some things as a vanilla escort.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“I am not going to go into detail but I can tell you that virtually every session begins with my client immobilized in a stress position in a very small, dark, sound proof, closet I had custom built in my loft. It sets the tone.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“I have a couple of pretty basic outfits I wear in session: either a very fitted pencil skirt and high heels and a white cotton blouse or black jodhpurs, riding boots and a white silk blouse. My hair is pulled back. I wear a bit of red lipstick which matches my nail polish. I never take my clothes off so it doesn’t matter what I have on underneath.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“The Governess is strict. She is demanding. She has many punishments and few rewards. It is almost the precise opposite of the typical escort date and it is also much more intense than a typical S/M dungeon encounter.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“In a sense,” said Donna, “I could wear anything and actually do anything because this is not a dress up date, this is the real thing. My role is to train the men who see me to do exactly what they are told when they are told to do it. And to do that I punish far more often than I reward.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“We suggested that this really sounded like a dominatrix escort date. “You asked about the difference between a dress up date and a role play. Most dominatrixes are just dressing up. Which is what their escort clients want them to do. Those clients are there for the illusion of powerlessness. A good domina can create that illusion but that is all it is.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“What I offer, to a very select clientele, is the reality. That is the Governess’s role.” said Donna, “Let me give you an illustration. At the dungeon, at the end of the session, I almost always stepped back into real life with the client and we’d have, perhaps a cup of tea and review what went on. It was part of the service. It put some distance between the experience in the room and normalcy. We actually called it decompression.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">“When a client is finished his session in my loft I have a room where I have his clothes. It’s pitch black. I put him in that room and close the door. Then I lock that door and turn on the lights. He leaves. It is very real and he is usually very relieved and grateful. The way the room is set up it exits into a corridor which he did not come in through. It is quite disorienting.”<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-18118217847479519802019-06-28T19:41:00.003-07:002019-06-28T19:41:23.520-07:00Finding Miss Right<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRQBn88_F-slKfqKPYcHXP3CQijFgf9l8hAQQm9RDBqaD4z3a_oZ97J2WV9WwvD9lm7cKzHvzqSqbfBL-qcAVjJP773DccNr3B8CwSO_eWNqPR0bCVlKFz8dun03Rp3kLAoL9jmaF_At8/s1600/Idyll-Bouguereau-L.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="FLR, female led relationship, wifedom" border="0" data-original-height="550" data-original-width="407" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRQBn88_F-slKfqKPYcHXP3CQijFgf9l8hAQQm9RDBqaD4z3a_oZ97J2WV9WwvD9lm7cKzHvzqSqbfBL-qcAVjJP773DccNr3B8CwSO_eWNqPR0bCVlKFz8dun03Rp3kLAoL9jmaF_At8/s320/Idyll-Bouguereau-L.jpeg" title="" width="236" /></a>I get this question a lot and I have discussed it with a number of dominant wives and other dominant women,<br />
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It is actually a somewhat complicated question because it is rooted in a set of male assumptions which, frankly, do not map well onto the female experience.</div>
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Men, for complicated psychological reasons, are far more likely to develop sexual obsessions and fetishes than women are. And those fetishes and obsessions are often core elements of a man's personality. Women, on the other hand, may have well-integrated personality traits which may extend to their sexual world. They may also enjoy a particular "style" which also may extend into the bedroom (and maybe beyond.)</div>
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Unfortunately, a lot of men make the erroneous assumption that women obsess in the same way they do. That is almost never the case. So the likelihood of finding a woman who is naturally, sexually, dominant is relatively low. I am not saying it never happens, but it is rare. </div>
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On a personal note, while I have always enjoyed being in charge, that was never an end in itself. Rather it was a means to an end which I have, I think, managed to obtain in my household. When I was younger and just exploring my own sexuality it really never dawned on me that a man would actually enjoy being told what to do in bed and elsewhere. And if you had told me I would routinely cane my loving husband and keep his <a href="https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QnocbfhpeULPW1C3m81CpsAAAAFrn4zljAEAAAFKAXw6T38/https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QmfdiNyOaN3C3aJ64Is7q8gAAAFrlSgyKQEAAAFKAZXcCAw/https://assoc-redirect.amazon.com/g/r/https://amzn.to/2Y9nMMP?imprToken=uw6hltlSKopAa5NvkPwp0g&slotNum=0&linkCode=w61&imprToken=nYwWNooGtJ2Sn7CIVd5wag&slotNum=3" target="_blank">cock locked in a cage</a>, I would have laughed in your face. After all, what sort of man would put up with that sort of treatment and what sort of woman would even think of doing it? The answer, of course, is wonderful men and women just like me. But it took a while to figure that out.</div>
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The relative rarity of women who are, as it were, natural dominants makes things look grim for a submissive man looking for a wife. However, that is because that submissive man is seeing the world from a male point of view. From a female point of view a man who is loving, hard working, gentle and attentive automatically goes on the "husband" radar. And women know that all men, even the best men, have flaws, fetishes, needs which do not necessarily line up with the ideal. A decent man with a decent job, few bad habits who attends to his fitness and his grooming and is interesting and reasonable in bed and faithful looks very good as a girl sees thirty looming up.</div>
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wife that he enjoys being a bit submissive or that he likes to be told to wear feminine clothing or that he enjoys being pegged, while it will cause a woman to reconsider, it is by no means a deal breaker in most cases. </div>
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So, the question of finding a truly dominant wife actually resolves into a question of making yourself the sort of potential husband a woman would actually want regardless of your peccadillos. Even the least dominant girl will make an effort if the rest of the package is worth it.</div>
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All that said, a woman's experience before meeting a submissive potential husband may improve his chances. A girl who has been <a href="https://amzn.to/2XFcVgH" target="_blank">a mistress</a> or a <a href="https://amzn.to/2JeAcg2" target="_blank">high end escort</a> will tend to be more open to the needs of a submissive husband. But, to my surprise, at least three of the dominant wives I am in touch with were nurses. Which when I thought about a little made sense. After all, from a young age, nurses are trained to take charge. They are used to giving orders and they long since shed any shyness around naked men. Plus, and this can be important, they sometimes have to inflict pain to assist in treatment. A useful skill in a dominant wife.<br />
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In general, while it may seem like a shortcut, joining fetish meet-ups is not a great way to meet a wife. If you are looking for a good hard spanking it may be just the thing; but the women who get heavily involved in the fetish scene tend to have issues. Again, I generalize, but I have been surprised at how few dominant wives I know have any interest in that world. (I would say much the same thing about professional dommes; girls who are just in it for the money are not likely to make a life long commitment.)<br />
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As well as trying to become the best husband material you can, a submissive male looking for a wife should be very honest with himself about the sort of women he is actually attracted to. In particular, he should consider the question of style. Does he like very feminine women or outdoorsy girls or charter members of pantsuit nation? Does he have a strong preference as to body type or hair colour or any number of other dimensions of a woman's style? In an FLR, even more than in a conventional marriage, the wife's style is the only style which will matter.<br />
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A final point, men, simply by being gentlemen, having manners, being deferential to women in general, will find that they become more and more attractive to women - dominant or otherwise.<br />
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The fact is that women gain great satisfaction from caring about their husbands and their children. If a husband needs a special kind of care and his wife knows that it makes him happy and productive, chances are very good she'll make her wonderful husband's submission part of her marriage. Just as vanilla wives have been known to reward their husband with a long, lingering blow job, dominant wives will put him in his corner, let him wear a pretty nightie to bed and find plenty of excuses for disciplinary action.<br />
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Ultimately, most women actually run their marriages - all a submissive man is looking for is for that to become a bit more explicit. For most women that will not be a problem...not a problem at all once they get used to it.</div>
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Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2243796935393342382.post-29211711415409220672019-06-26T15:11:00.001-07:002019-06-26T15:11:56.392-07:00Summer Pleasures<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOXWuM_M5Rwrg7xiflgcEEvCRwU1rVQzmhpJbVBgHDVgniUalCnRgVqedfV10RDeHiiq3z1GTrNKY-I2gQQTrSLIc2ttO4UzcM5SA_ZN-ux0ce2TLj4CV38gdw7-rbgiRurW3VAI2Sfw8/s1600/tumblr_mpxr8b2nTD1qg205no1_1280.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="female led relationship, FLR, dominant wife, cock cage" border="0" data-original-height="1008" data-original-width="700" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOXWuM_M5Rwrg7xiflgcEEvCRwU1rVQzmhpJbVBgHDVgniUalCnRgVqedfV10RDeHiiq3z1GTrNKY-I2gQQTrSLIc2ttO4UzcM5SA_ZN-ux0ce2TLj4CV38gdw7-rbgiRurW3VAI2Sfw8/s400/tumblr_mpxr8b2nTD1qg205no1_1280.jpg" title="" width="277" /></a>One of the great things about summer is that my regular round of shopping, social events, committee meetings and church eases off a bit. We like to have an easy lunch - maybe shrimp on toast with home made mayonaise and a glass of Chablis - and my darling elliot, liberated from his <a href="https://aax-us-east.amazon-adsystem.com/x/c/QmfdiNyOaN3C3aJ64Is7q8gAAAFrlSgyKQEAAAFKAZXcCAw/https://assoc-redirect.amazon.com/g/r/https://amzn.to/2Y9nMMP?linkCode=w61&imprToken=nYwWNooGtJ2Sn7CIVd5wag&slotNum=3" target="_blank">cock cage</a> for a few weeks, loves to BBQ our dinner and I must say he looks very attractive in his Dad shorts and a loose cotton shirt. Mady's fitness training has really paid off.<br />
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Mady, of course, looks lovely in the sheer dresses and tops I prefer her to wear at home. She is a beautiful girl and why shouldn't she show off her nearly perfect body. It has the delightful effect of making elliot hard as a rock which, in turn makes him very attentive.<br />
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I am still working away on my book about Female Led Marriage. As ever, the trouble I have finishing it is that my views of FLR continue to change and to mature. When I first began I was hesitant on the question of male chastity devices, now I think a cock cage is essential. Not only to control the cock and a submissive husband's access to his own sexuality, but also as a symbol of superiority. Which is also why I think letting elliot spend the summer with his cock free is important: it reminds him of what he has surrendered, what he has lost, in his obedience to me.<br />
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I am also quite certain that the rituals of submission, elliot's <a href="https://amzn.to/2X5y8AS" target="_blank">ten or fifteen minutes standing naked in his corner with his nose pressed into the gusset of my yesterday's panties</a>, instant caning for lapses of manners, his having to wear a <a href="https://amzn.to/2IOJnVC" target="_blank">pretty nightie</a> to bed, have become a part of the fabric of our lives.<br />
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Beginning a female led relationship is all about exploration and imagination. But a long term relationship is very much about routine and ritual and then, from time to time, excursions from that routine. While I am not very interested in pegging elliot, it is Mady's favourite thing and she has built a little collection of <a href="https://amzn.to/2J9gNNJ" target="_blank">dils and harnesses</a>. Having elliot serve on special occasions, in nothing but a <a href="https://amzn.to/2J7muLZ" target="_blank">waiter's apron</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2J7R9J7" target="_blank">kitten heels</a> is a treat. My friend <a href="https://dominant-wife.blogspot.com/2019/06/only-on-tuesday-courtesans-way.html" target="_blank">Amy, who stayed with us as I interviewed her</a> for <a href="https://amzn.to/2NfLw12" target="_blank">Only on a Tuesday: The Courtesan's Way</a> was struck by the way that elliot simply accepts his position in my house.<br />
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I want to get all of this into my book. Which will take a while and, right now, it is time to go to the beach.Hannah Jayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16130302505322971049noreply@blogger.com0