Much as I love Elliott, like every man on the planet, he can be annoying. Yesterday he, without really thinking, said something more than a little snarky. I was a bit insulted but, more to the point, frustrated at his thoughtlessness.
Now, most of the wives I know would have to suffer in silence or, at best, they would have "words" with their husband. Which, in my experience, rare solves anything. I carried on with my very busy day and, just before cocktails, said to Elliot, "Go upstairs and get my cane."
I think he was surprised but he did what he was told and brought me the long cane.
"Go and drop your trousers and lie over the couch." I said and he complied.
"I will not be spoken to disrespectfully." I said having worked out what I wanted to say over the course of the day. "And I will not tolerate thoughtlessness. You understand that?"
I think it is important when you are punishing your husband that he acknowledges his error and your right to punish him.
"Yes Miss." he said rather weakly.
"And you know I will whip you every time, without fail, that you are thoughtless."
"Because we both know that you need your corrections just to remind you to think before you speak."
I gave him eight medium strokes. He would have taken eighty had I decided he needed them but the humiliation combined with a little pain was more than sufficient.
When I was done Elliot pulled up his pants and served my wine. The little cloud which had hung over our day was gone. He was put in his place.
I am not saying every woman should whip her husband but, honestly, I suspect if more did there would be much less divorce and many more happy marriages. Men, if truth be told, need a firm hand almost every day if they are to love, honour and obey as they should. Being able to discipline, train and, if need be, punish Elliot let's him know his position and know how much I love him. Not for everyone but works for us.