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People and search engines seem to love listicles so why not?
Elegant women like lists as much as the next girl.
1.
Sexual
Denial – The fastest and most elegant way to indicate to your husband that
you are in charge is to take control of his sexuality. In the beginning this
means, I’m afraid, your husband will not be having much sex. And,
realistically, as your dominance is accepted he will be having even less.
For the elegant dominant wife, marriage
becomes about having her sexual desires catered to. Sometimes that means quite
a lot of sex; but for many women, penetrative sex is, ideally, a once in a
while thing. Usually after they have climaxed.
At the beginning, a dominant wife needs to
make it very clear to her husband that, from now on, the only sexuality which
matters in their marriage is hers.
2.
Rules
– It does not matter what rules an elegant woman makes for her submissive or
soon to be submissive husband. What matters is that there are rules.
These can and should start simply. Easy
good manners. A gentleman rises when a lady enters the room. A gentleman holds
her chair, pours her wine, fetches her smoked salmon. As a general rule, a
gentleman never interrupts and never, ever adopts any but the most respectful
tone in his conversations with the Lady of the House.
Most elegant women have already established
these basic rules in their home so none of these should be difficult. After
all, elegant women marry elegant men and elegant men have basic manners.
However, unfortunately, over time, even the
most elegant man can forget himself and setting rules early reminds him of his
place.
3.
Routine –
A dominant wife needs to establish routines in her household. They need not be
onerous, just constant. For each household these will be different however here
are a few items which an elegant wife might expect her husband to follow:
i. clothing care – in the absence of a
maid, a well trained husband can be expected to put his wife’s clothes away,
iron as required and take care of her shoes, boots and bag
ii. handwashing – after his shower, a
submissive husband should rinse out any panties, stockings or other lingerie
his wife has left out
iii. chores – an elegant woman likes a clean
house and, while she is more than willing to pitch in, her submissive husband
can be expected to take care of a significant amount of the work. In
particular, a well trained husband should clean the toilets daily, keep the
sinks gleaming, vacuum difficult areas such as stairs. As well, there is no
reason a husband cannot do simple things like run loads of laundry and fold the
clothes in the dryer. (But be careful as many men have not the slightest clue
on the laundry front.)
iv. basic home maintenance – most men,
submissive or not, will take on the routine chores associated with the home.
Fixing the squeaky hinge and such like. However, a well trained, submissive,
husband will do this cheerfully and immediately.
v. mindfullness – it is a very good idea,
early in a husband’s training, to set aside a few minutes a day for him to
simply consider his position. It is actually good for a man to be forced to
take even ten minutes from his hectic day, sit still, and think how grateful he
is for his lovely, elegant, wife. I usually have Elliot do this as I change for
cocktails. Sometimes I put him naked in his corner with my panties to press
against the wall, other times I will put him in a very small closet and lock
it.
The key thing about routine is repetition.
Have him do much the same thing, at much the same time, daily or weekly. Men
thrive on discipline and structure – the elegant woman knows this and makes
sure she creates what her husband needs.
4.
Consequences
– For the elegant dominant wife the question of consequences for mis-behaviour
should not arise very often once she has habituated her husband to her
direction. However, from the outset, consequences need to be made very clear
and inflicted with a degree of authority and certainty. Here are a few
consequences I have found effective, their exact implementation is discussed
later in the book:
i. corner
time
ii. closet
time
iii. panty
time
iv. girdle
time
v. spanking
vi. paddling
vii. caning
viii.
nipple clips
ix. pegging
x. caging
Any or all of these consequences can be
quick and efficient. But in some cases simply sending your husband to bed will
work to address a behaviour fault.
A consequence is tied to a particular piece
of bad behaviour and reminds a submissive husband of his place. The duration
and severity of a particular consequence is determined by the mis-behaviour but
needs to be long enough and severe enough that your husband will think twice
about repeating the behaviour.
5. Maintenance –
there is considerable debate within the matrimonial discipline community as to
whether a submissive partner should be disciplined regularly whether they need
it or not. My own view is that most husbands benefit greatly from regular
discipline which is a reminder rather than only being punished when they err.
Keeping a husband to the mark through a combination of chastity, maintenance
discipline and an presumption of total authority will let an elegant woman
enjoy the man she so dearly loves.
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